{"id":12939,"date":"2026-05-08T22:18:07","date_gmt":"2026-05-09T02:18:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/19-strategies-to-finally-let-go-of-anger-resentment\/"},"modified":"2026-05-08T22:18:07","modified_gmt":"2026-05-09T02:18:07","slug":"19-strategies-to-finally-let-go-of-anger-resentment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/19-strategies-to-finally-let-go-of-anger-resentment\/","title":{"rendered":"19 Strategies to Finally Let Go of Anger &#038; Resentment"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div itemprop=\"text\">\n<p>Ever catch yourself replaying the same frustrating moment over and over in your head?<\/p>\n<p>Maybe it\u2019s something someone said, a situation that didn\u2019t go your way, or a past experience that still stings. The more you hold onto it, the heavier it feels. And before you know it, that anger starts to spill into other areas of your life.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is, holding onto resentment doesn\u2019t fix anything. It only drains your energy, clouds your thinking, and keeps you stuck in a cycle that\u2019s hard to break.<\/p>\n<p>Letting go isn\u2019t about pretending nothing happened. It\u2019s about choosing peace over pressure and learning healthier ways to process what you feel.<\/p>\n<p>In this article, you\u2019ll discover 19 practical strategies to help you release anger safely and move forward with a clearer, calmer mindset. Even a few small shifts can make a big difference in how you feel each day.<\/p>\n<p>Keep reading to start lightening that emotional load. <strong>And at the end, you\u2019ll find a free tool to support your self-care and help you stay balanced.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-why-recurring-anger-can-be-a-dangerous-habit\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why_Recurring_Anger_Can_Be_a_Dangerous_Habit\"\/>Why Recurring Anger Can Be a Dangerous Habit<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Many studies have linked anger and resentment to heart disease and hypertension. The physical energy anger takes from us can have long-term side effects, such as high blood pressure and <u><a href=\"https:\/\/www.webmd.com\/balance\/news\/20041213\/anger-guilt-may-trigger-stroke\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" data-lasso-id=\"44944\">stroke<\/a><\/u>.<\/p>\n<p>To begin the process of letting go of your anger, it&#8217;s important to understand why you\u2019ve become angry in the first place. Anger is a second-hand emotion (or substitute emotion) we use to avoid a primary emotion, such as fear, vulnerability, or pain.<\/p>\n<p>There are many reasons we may experience pain, such as experiencing physical or emotional abuse from a partner or parent. It\u2019s not the experience that has made you angry\u2014your thought process has also contributed.<\/p>\n<p>Memories can trigger anger, assumptions, and interpretations of a situation, making people think someone is out to hurt them. These distorted thinking patterns can jeopardize any relationship you have and lead you to suffer from undue stress. While <strong>anger is a natural emotion<\/strong> to have and something that everyone experiences, it often comes in the <strong>form of an unwanted and irrational feeling<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-you-can-learn-how-to-let-go-of-resentment\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"You_can_learn_how_to_let_go_of_resentment\"\/>You can learn how to let go of resentment.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>The good news is that this anger habit can be reversed, and you can learn to let go of resentment.<\/p>\n<p>Chronic feelings of anger are a learned trait.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>You may develop chronic anger if you grew up in a hostile household and were often the victim of someone else&#8217;s angry behaviors in the past or if you were somehow rewarded for your anger (such as being feared by peers for bullying behavior as a child).<\/p>\n<p>Some ways to start reversing these feelings are becoming aware of your anger, preparing yourself to react differently in the future, taking action by seeking help to manage your emotions, and then maintaining your new mindset.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Letting go of anger<\/strong> involves a lot of learning and self-exploration. It is an ongoing task that requires discipline and a change in perspective. This process is not easy, and it often requires significant outside support. <strong>Here are 19 strategies to help you begin to let go of this negative emotion<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-19-strategies-on-how-to-let-go-of-anger\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"19_Strategies_on_How_to_Let_Go_of_Anger\"\/>19 Strategies on How to Let Go of Anger<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-recognize-the-source-of-your-anger\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Recognize_the_source_of_your_anger\"\/>1. Recognize the source of your anger.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p><u><a data-lasso-id=\"44946\" href=\"http:\/\/www.apa.org\/helpcenter\/recognize-anger.aspx\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Recognize<\/a><\/u> when you are <strong>feeling angry<\/strong>, and try to <strong>determine the cause<\/strong>. Is the cause something you can change or control, or is it out of your hands?<\/p>\n<p>Further, is your anger being caused by someone you will never see again, such as a grocery clerk or a server at a restaurant? Or is a family member or friend making you angry?<\/p>\n<p>This is important to recognize because the anger you feel when dealing with people close to you involves an ongoing interaction. To handle these situations, the best strategies to implement are escaping the situation, relaxing, restructuring your thoughts, or <strong>expressing your anger directly in a calm and appropriate tone<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Another way to recognize the source of your anger is to step back and evaluate your life. Are you where you expected yourself to be at this point? You may be experiencing built-up frustration because your life is not meeting your expectations, or you are not living up to the standards that you perceive other people have for you.<\/p>\n<p><a data-lasso-id=\"44947\" href=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/songs-better-relationship\/\">Unhealthy relationships<\/a> and past experiences are also common sources of anger. When one person is often feeling vulnerable or is triggered by a past pain in their relationship, it can lead to feelings of anger to cover up this pain. If you can identify the past experience that is continuing to negatively impact your life, you have to face that situation head-on so you can let it go.<\/p>\n<p>One way to monitor this behavior is with a worksheet. Here are\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/anger-management-worksheets\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-lasso-id=\"97245\"><strong>13 printable anger management worksheets to get started<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-practice-relaxation-techniques\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Practice_relaxation_techniques\"\/>2. Practice relaxation techniques.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Using simple relaxation strategies can help you soothe your angry feelings. If you practice these strategies often, you will find it easier to resort to them when you feel anger emerging. Finding which techniques work best for you is important to help you process your thoughts with a more evident mindset.<\/p>\n<p>For example, many people enjoy aromatherapy to help them relax. Whether you use essential oils in a bath or a diffuser, this is a great stress reliever and relaxation tool that is easily accessible. Another common technique is to listen to soothing music. This can help remove your mind from the situation at hand and help you re-center your thoughts.<\/p>\n<p>Some blog posts will provide you with a wealth of information about things you can do to relax. <u><a data-lasso-id=\"44949\" href=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/best-essential-oil-diffusers\/\">This post goes over the best essential oil diffusers<\/a><\/u> on the market if you want to be able to benefit from your oils quickly and easily. If you need suggestions for oils, <u><a data-lasso-id=\"44950\" href=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/essential-oils-for-focus\/\/\">here are some that are great for promoting focus<\/a><\/u>. And <u><a data-lasso-id=\"44951\" href=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/best-essential-oils-for-anxiety-reviewed\/\">these are the best for relieving anxiety<\/a><\/u>.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"709\" height=\"532\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Learn how to use relaxation techniques to let go of anger and resentment and how to let go of anger and bitterness.\" style=\"width:532px;height:399px\" class=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/how-to-let-go-anger-relaxation.jpg\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"709\" height=\"532\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/how-to-let-go-anger-relaxation.jpg\" alt=\"Learn how to use relaxation techniques to let go of anger and resentment and how to let go of anger and bitterness.\" style=\"width:532px;height:399px\" class=\"\"\/><\/noscript><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"> Using simple relaxation strategies can help you soothe your angry feelings.\u00a0 <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p>Practicing mindfulness is another very effective method of relaxation. If you are unfamiliar with mindfulness,\u00a0here is a post\u00a0explaining how to practice this method of thinking. Once you understand what mindfulness is, here are some exercises you can practice regularly.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-take-a-brief-time-out\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Take_a_brief_time_out\"\/>3. Take a brief time out.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>It is crucial to realize when to take a minute for yourself. If you are doing something or talking to someone and you can s<strong>ense your anger building up, simply excuse yourself.<\/strong> Walk away and take a few minutes to gather your thoughts and <strong>release the negative emotions<\/strong>. Take this time to think about how you want to respond before you speak.<\/p>\n<p>Taking a timeout will prevent you from saying something out of anger you might regret later. Find a quiet and relaxing place to go if you need a break. Consider some things you could do to cool down during this time, such as slow, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.happierhuman.com\/breathe-quotes-rj1\/\" data-lasso-id=\"97246\">deep breathing<\/a>, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/mindfulness-exercises\/\" data-lasso-id=\"97247\">mindfulness exercises<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>After your anger has subsided and before returning to the situation, consider what you will say when you return. For example, if you were talking to someone, express that you appreciate their understanding and thank them for allowing you to calm down.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-get-daily-exercise\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Get_daily_exercise\"\/>4. Get daily exercise.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Getting <strong>physical exercise is one of the most effective ways to reduce anger<\/strong>\u00a0and stress. Physical exercise gives you a chance to release your emotions, so going for a walk or run every day can help calm you down. Exercise can also help increase the release of endorphins in your body, naturally making you feel better and reducing your stress levels.<\/p>\n<p><u><a data-lasso-id=\"44954\" href=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/benefits-hobby\/\">Finding a healthy hobby<\/a><\/u> such as exercising will relieve tension, as your mind will become occupied. Try a few things until you find something that you enjoy doing. This will help encourage you to take a break from your everyday routine and help you <strong>build your self-esteem<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"712\" height=\"534\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Learn how to use daily exercise to let go of anger and resentment and how to let go of anger and bitterness.\" style=\"width:534px;height:401px\" class=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/how-to-let-go-anger-exercise-people.jpg\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"712\" height=\"534\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/how-to-let-go-anger-exercise-people.jpg\" alt=\"Learn how to use daily exercise to let go of anger and resentment and how to let go of anger and bitterness.\" style=\"width:534px;height:401px\" class=\"\"\/><\/noscript><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"> Physical exercise is one of the most effective ways to reduce anger and stress.\u00a0 <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-find-workable-solutions\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Find_workable_solutions\"\/>5. Find workable solutions.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Instead of focusing on whatever <strong>triggered your anger<\/strong>, work on <strong>finding a solution to the issue at hand<\/strong>. Instead of staying angry, do something about it. <\/p>\n<p>For example, is your spouse late for dinner every night? Instead of facing this drama nightly, find a workable solution. Perhaps you can schedule meals for later in the evening or agree to eat on your own on certain nights.<\/p>\n<p>You must recognize the things out of your control and understand that you cannot change them. <\/p>\n<p>Knowing what you can control will let you use your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/get-more-energy\/\" data-lasso-id=\"97248\">limited energy<\/a> in the most effective way possible. The time you waste thinking about and trying to change situations that are out of your control could be spent on things you\u00a0do\u00a0have control over, allowing you to make progress.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-6-don-t-hold-grudges\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_Dont_hold_grudges\"\/>6. Don&#8217;t hold grudges.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Holding grudges has <u>more health implications for you<\/u> than for the other person. Not only do they take up your energy, but they also make your emotional state toxic.<\/p>\n<p>Even if you have been legitimately offended, which most people have, try to <strong>take an empathic perspective<\/strong> rather than <strong>acting like a victim<\/strong>. Forgiving thoughts will give you a greater sense of perceived control and a reduced physiological stress response, which will help decrease your anger.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-7-practice-forgiveness\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7_Practice_forgiveness\"\/>7. Practice forgiveness.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p><strong>Forgiveness<\/strong> may look different for everyone, but it generally involves letting go of <strong>resentful feelings and thoughts of revenge<\/strong>. Once this is done, your anger will no longer drain your energy, and you will have peace of mind.<\/p>\n<p>The act that hurt you may always be with you, but forgiveness will free you from the control of the incident or person who caused you harm. When you can forgive someone else, you are not doing it for their sake. Instead, you are doing it to regain control of your life and move on. This doesn&#8217;t mean you forget or excuse the harmful behavior, but it will bring you some peace.<\/p>\n<p>Side note: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/songs-forgiveness\/\" data-lasso-id=\"44956\">Here&#8217;s a list of our 15 favorite songs about forgiveness and saying sorry.<\/a><\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"768\" height=\"576\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Learn how to let go of anger and resentment and how to let go of anger in the moment.\" style=\"width:518px;height:389px\" class=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/how-to-let-go-anger-forgiveness.jpg\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"768\" height=\"576\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/how-to-let-go-anger-forgiveness.jpg\" alt=\"Learn how to let go of anger and resentment and how to let go of anger in the moment.\" style=\"width:518px;height:389px\" class=\"\"\/><\/noscript><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"> Once you forgive, your anger will no longer drain your energy, and you will be able to have peace of mind. <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-8-own-your-anger\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8_Own_your_anger\"\/>8. Own your anger.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>You need to learn how to control your anger before it starts to control you. To do this, acknowledge when you\u2019re angry and remind yourself that you can get over it. Remember that the feeling won&#8217;t last and will only get as bad as you allow it to.<\/p>\n<p>The logic of our emotions does not always make sense. For example, if you were hurt as a child by a parent and you are still holding onto that anger as an adult and waiting for someone else to fix it for you, you are never going to get over it. You must realize that it is up to you to <u>own your anger and address it to<\/u> move on. You are the only person who is in control of your feelings.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-9-talk-to-a-friend\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"9_Talk_to_a_friend\"\/>9. Talk to a friend.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Reach out to a trusted friend you know will give you their full attention. Let out your anger and frustrations to them and get their feedback. When a friend knows you well, they can often provide the best advice for you that fits in with your life. A good friend may be able to <strong>reframe the situation<\/strong> for you and get you to see it in <strong>a different light<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>It also feels good to vent. Sometimes, you need to talk something through to someone willing to listen so you can get your feelings out. It might be a good idea to set some boundaries for your venting. <\/p>\n<p>For example, ask your friend if you can have five minutes to talk\u2026 and then only give yourself five minutes. Pay attention to the number of times you repeat yourself, and you will likely find that you do this a lot to provide emphasis. Set limits to ensure you keep it brief, sort out your thoughts, and focus on a solution.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-10-recite-positive-affirmations\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10_Recite_positive_affirmations\"\/>10. Recite positive affirmations.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Recurring anger is an affirmation. You can choose the path of anger or the path of calm.<\/p>\n<p>You need to replace these negative affirmations with positive ones. You can think in a way that creates a hostile mental atmosphere, or you can believe in a way that helps develop a healthy atmosphere for you and the people around you.<\/p>\n<p>Tell yourself that you are in control and that no one can make you feel inferior. Doing this will help calm you down if you are beginning to feel angry. Learn to practice both present and future affirmations so you can use this technique to prevent anger and deal with it when it occurs.<\/p>\n<p>To get started, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.happierhuman.com\/affirmations-anger\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-lasso-id=\"44959\">here are 60 calming affirmations for managing your anger<\/a>.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Use daily positive affirmations to let go of anger and resentment and to let go of anger in the moment.\" style=\"width:503px;height:377px\" class=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/how-to-let-go-anger-affirmations.jpg\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/how-to-let-go-anger-affirmations.jpg\" alt=\"Use daily positive affirmations to let go of anger and resentment and to let go of anger in the moment.\" style=\"width:503px;height:377px\" class=\"\"\/><\/noscript><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"> Recurring anger is an affirmation. You need to replace these negative affirmations with positive ones. <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-11-express-yourself-in-a-journal\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"11_Express_yourself_in_a_journal\"\/>11. Express yourself in a journal<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Writing about your anger in a journal is one of the most effective ways to express and understand your feelings. <u><a href=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/mindful_writing\/\" data-lasso-id=\"44960\">Through writing<\/a><\/u>, you can process your thoughts carefully.<\/p>\n<p>Once you identify the root causes of your anger, you will have the control you need to analyze your responses. Writing about your anger will help you learn from it and take positive action to protect yourself in the future by increasing your self-awareness.<\/p>\n<p>Some people choose to draw or paint what they are feeling instead of writing it down in words. This is also an effective method of journaling. Draw what your anger looks like to you, and express yourself creatively to help yourself move on.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-12-change-your-environment\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"12_Change_your_environment\"\/>12. Change your environment.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Sometimes, your immediate surroundings cause irritation. Problems may begin to weigh you down and make you feel trapped. You can escape this by making sure you set aside personal time.<\/p>\n<p>Elements in your environment may be making you more likely to get angry. For example, if you often get angry in the mornings when you are rushing around and trying to get everyone up and ready for the day, try to find a way to reduce this stress the night before so you can lighten your load in the morning.<\/p>\n<p>Alternatively, if you have been in a relationship that has gone sour, avoid doing anything that reminds you of the person who hurt you. This includes not going to places where you used to go together and even not listening to songs that remind you of that person. You might need to find alternate routes to work or school to bypass areas that remind you of this person and recreate your routine to avoid negative thoughts.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-13-become-more-self-aware\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"13_Become_more_self-aware\"\/>13. Become more self-aware.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Becoming more <u><a data-lasso-id=\"44961\" href=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/what-is-self-awareness\/\">self-aware<\/a><\/u> can help you prevent your anger from happening. Becoming aware of your false beliefs requires introspective work, including developing the skills to focus on your mind and dissect some of your negative thoughts. Once you become aware of what triggers your anger, you can apply your techniques to change the dynamics that are going on in your mind and causing your emotions.<\/p>\n<p>If you can embrace yourself and avoid a victim mentality, the results of your self-awareness practices can lead to a permanent change. By becoming self-aware, you can identify the primary elements or feelings that trigger your anger, such as fear or pain.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-14-laugh\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"14_Laugh\"\/>14. Laugh.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Can you think of an experience where you laughed at something that made you mad? This moment can be transformational because humor is both healing and empowering. <strong>If you can laugh about something, you can gain power over it instead of allowing it to control you<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>If you can&#8217;t find any humor in the situation that makes you angry, turn to things you know will make you laugh and get into this positive frame of mind. For example, you can watch a funny movie or video or meet up with a friend who always makes you laugh. This is a good way to change your mindset and get your mind off whatever makes you angry.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"657\" height=\"493\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Learn how to use laughter to let go of anger and resentment and stop holding grudges at work.\" style=\"width:493px;height:370px\" class=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/how-to-let-go-anger-laughter.jpg\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"657\" height=\"493\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/how-to-let-go-anger-laughter.jpg\" alt=\"Learn how to use laughter to let go of anger and resentment and stop holding grudges at work.\" style=\"width:493px;height:370px\" class=\"\"\/><\/noscript><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"> If you laugh about something, you gain power over it instead of allowing it to have power over you. <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-15-take-deep-breaths\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"15_Take_deep_breaths\"\/>15. Take deep breaths.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Stopping to take intentional deep breaths will force you to calm down. Stop what you are doing and count down from three while inhaling, hold it for five seconds, and then exhale. This will help you take a moment before reacting to something irrationally.<\/p>\n<p>For example, imagine someone just cut you off in traffic,, and you can feel yourself becoming enraged. Instead of immediately reacting, take a moment for some deep and intentional breaths. This will give your body a chance to calm down and give you time to think twice about how you react.<\/p>\n<p>Stress-relief tools and toys can be used as preventative measures or to calm you down in the moment. If you can focus on something you are playing with or channel your aggression into a physical object, you may be able to reduce your feelings of anger.<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">==&gt;&gt; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.happierhuman.com\/best-stress-balls\/\" data-lasso-id=\"97249\">See 15 Best Stress Balls to Help You Achieve Calm<\/a><\/p>\n<p>If you need something to squeeze to let out your aggression, this <u><a data-tcb-href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/YoYa-Toys-Squeezing-Adults-Risk-Free\/dp\/B06XSGXLJC\/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;linkCode=ll1&amp;tag=dghletgoanger-20&amp;linkId=7e6b26877bb722c02ababd734946197c&amp;language=en_US\" data-amzn-asin=\"B06XSGXLJC\" data-lasso-id=\"44965\" data-lasso-name=\"YoYa Toys DNA Balls - Fidget Balls Set - 3 Pack - Colorful Soft and Squishy Rubber Balls - Squishies forAdults - - Water SpheresToys\" href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/B06XSGXLJC\/?tag=dghgeneral-20\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow sponsored noopener\">stress ball<\/a><\/u> is great to keep in your bag or your car so you can take it out at any time and use it.<\/p>\n<p>If you need something to inspire you,\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/B00QFODCCI\/?tag=dghgeneral-20\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow sponsored noopener\" data-lasso-id=\"97250\" data-lasso-name=\"Amazon\"><u>these <\/u><\/a>balls\u00a0have sayings on them that can enhance your positive affirmations and remind you to use them when needed.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-17-avoid-the-person-who-causes-you-pain\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"17_Avoid_the_person_who_causes_you_pain\"\/>17. Avoid the person who causes you pain.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>If possible, avoid coming into contact with the person who caused you pain. Instead, surround yourself with people who lift you up and empower you to feel good about yourself. Take control over your emotions by not allowing other people to impact them and avoiding being around people who try to negatively affect your feelings.<\/p>\n<p>After having a bad experience, avoid saying \u201cnever\u201d and \u201calways.\u201d Instead, try to isolate your lousy experience and realize no absolutes. Sure, something may happen more than once, and you want to acknowledge that\u2014but using words like <em>never<\/em> and <em>always<\/em> is not a rational way of thinking.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-18-be-assertive\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"18_Be_assertive\"\/>18. Be assertive.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p><u><a href=\"https:\/\/www.happierhuman.com\/assertive-behavior-examples\/\" data-lasso-id=\"97251\">Being assertive<\/a><\/u> is an important communication skill,\u00a0<strong>different from being aggressive<\/strong>. When you are assertive, you clearly express yourself and defend your point of view while still <strong>respecting other people&#8217;s beliefs<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Assertive communication can help you earn the respect of others and boost your self-esteem. It shows that you are confident in what you are talking about and willing to stand your ground while still maintaining self-control.<\/p>\n<p>This can help <strong>reduce stress<\/strong> because you will know that you have clearly expressed your wants or needs to another person. To start being assertive, learn to say what you mean and mean what you say.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-19-don-t-sweat-the-small-stuff\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"19_Dont_sweat_the_small_stuff\"\/>19. Don&#8217;t sweat the small stuff.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Do you ever find that you are giving up happiness for minor inconveniences out of your control?<\/p>\n<p>Your happiness is primarily impacted by your ability to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.happierhuman.com\/letting-go-quotes-rj1\/\" data-lasso-id=\"97252\">let things go<\/a> and to realize what you can and can&#8217;t control.<\/p>\n<p>When something happens, your initial feelings of anger are natural and unavoidable because chemical reactions in your body create them. But those chemicals last only about six seconds. Anything that happens after that is due to your own decision to ruminate.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Let the small things go<\/strong>. If someone jumped in front of you in line, don&#8217;t stress over this minor event. Focus instead on the good things in your life. Pick your battles and allow your happiness to overcome your mild frustrations. (<a data-lasso-id=\"44968\" href=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/not-let-things-bother-you\/\">Here&#8217;s how to not let things bother you so much.<\/a>)<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"800\" height=\"2800\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"How to Let Go of Anger and Resentment and how to let go of the past and move forward. #infographic #psychology #mentalhealth #mindset #positivethinking #positivity #anxiety #happiness #selfimprovement #relationship #menandwomen\" style=\"width:400px;height:1400px\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/How-to-Let-Go-of-Anger.jpg\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"800\" height=\"2800\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/How-to-Let-Go-of-Anger.jpg\" alt=\"How to Let Go of Anger and Resentment and how to let go of the past and move forward. #infographic #psychology #mentalhealth #mindset #positivethinking #positivity #anxiety #happiness #selfimprovement #relationship #menandwomen\" style=\"width:400px;height:1400px\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Free_Download_Self-Care_Planner\"\/>Free Download: Self-Care Planner<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>This Self-Care Planner helps you create simple, consistent routines that support your emotional well-being. It gives you space to reflect, recharge, and build habits that keep stress and negativity in check.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/drive.google.com\/drive\/folders\/1hoef-wc1WHPgdqsZPHF8g7ypB25kFxcY?usp=sharing\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\" title=\"\">Download your copy and start taking better care of your mind and energy.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>(The link opens up a Google Drive folder where you can get the PDF download in a variety of sizes: A4 and US Letter.)<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Self-Care-Planner.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"790\" height=\"1024\" alt=\"Self-care plan worksheet with sections for Pampering, Mental, and Emotional care, each with weekly checkboxes and lines to write activities.\" class=\"wp-image-47198\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Self-Care-Planner-790x1024.png 790w, https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Self-Care-Planner-232x300.png 232w, https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Self-Care-Planner-768x995.png 768w, https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Self-Care-Planner.png 795w\" data-lazy-sizes=\"(max-width: 790px) 100vw, 790px\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Self-Care-Planner-790x1024.png\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"790\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Self-Care-Planner-790x1024.png\" alt=\"Self-care plan worksheet with sections for Pampering, Mental, and Emotional care, each with weekly checkboxes and lines to write activities.\" class=\"wp-image-47198\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Self-Care-Planner-790x1024.png 790w, https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Self-Care-Planner-232x300.png 232w, https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Self-Care-Planner-768x995.png 768w, https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Self-Care-Planner.png 795w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 790px) 100vw, 790px\"\/><\/noscript><\/a><\/figure>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-final-thoughts-on-anger-and-resentment\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Final_Thoughts_on_Anger_and_Resentment\"\/>Final Thoughts on Anger and Resentment<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>It\u2019s clear that holding onto anger affects you mentally and physically. The steps listed above are a great start to the \u201cletting go\u201d process and free yourself from the pain. Eventually,\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/burn-boats\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-lasso-id=\"97253\">you need to learn to \u201cburn the boats<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You can begin reversing your anger habit by taking small steps each day. Visualize how relieved you will feel once you\u2019ve learned to let go of that pent-up emotion.<\/p>\n<p><strong>See more ideas on controlling your anger and bringing more calm to your life:<\/strong><\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-resized\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/how-to-let-go-of-anger.jpg\" data-lasso-id=\"44970\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" alt=\"Learn Strategies on How to Let Go of Anger and Resentment and how to let go of the past and move forward.\" class=\"wp-image-28342\" style=\"width:587px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/how-to-let-go-of-anger-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/how-to-let-go-of-anger-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/how-to-let-go-of-anger.jpg 735w\" data-lazy-sizes=\"(max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/how-to-let-go-of-anger-683x1024.jpg\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/how-to-let-go-of-anger-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Learn Strategies on How to Let Go of Anger and Resentment and how to let go of the past and move forward.\" class=\"wp-image-28342\" style=\"width:587px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/how-to-let-go-of-anger-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/how-to-let-go-of-anger-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.developgoodhabits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/how-to-let-go-of-anger.jpg 735w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\"\/><\/noscript><\/a><\/figure>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ever catch yourself replaying the same frustrating moment over and over in your head? 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