{"id":1299,"date":"2023-02-21T07:33:35","date_gmt":"2023-02-21T11:33:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/good-times-build-confidencebad-times-build-character\/"},"modified":"2023-02-21T07:33:35","modified_gmt":"2023-02-21T11:33:35","slug":"good-times-build-confidencebad-times-build-character","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/good-times-build-confidencebad-times-build-character\/","title":{"rendered":"Good Times Build Confidence\u2026Bad Times Build Character"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>When times are good, people are upbeat. They think the sky\u2019s the limit and good times will last forever. On the other hand, when times are tough, people get anxious, gloomy, and even lash out at others. They think, \u201cWhy Me?\u201d Then, they proceed to blame the world for their circumstances. Although it\u2019s hard to have hope when you\u2019re in the eye of a storm, your character is shaped during those periods. While that might not be of much comfort to you, the truth is that good times build confidence. Bad times build character.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">People think good times will last forever\u2026until they don\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p>Do you take adversity in stride or think the world\u2019s coming to an end? Do you feel sorry for yourself, take your frustration out on others, and behave totally out of character or do you live with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/live-with-grace-and-dignity\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">dignity and grace<\/a>? Setbacks are a way of life. There\u2019s no way around them. But tough times reveal your true character. As T.S Eliot said, \u201cIf you aren\u2019t in over your head, how do you know how tall you are?\u201d<\/p>\n<h3>Bad Times Build Character<\/h3>\n<p>How do you act when things get tough? Do you:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Face up to reality<\/strong> or raise false hopes?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Own the problem<\/strong> or expect others to bail you out?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Remain calm and levelheaded<\/strong> or work yourself into a funk?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Build a solid support network<\/strong> or go it alone?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Take the bull by the horns<\/strong> or expect the situation to get better by itself?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Surround yourself with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/posters\/youre-only-as-good-as-the-company-you-keep\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">positive people<\/a><\/strong> or let folks drag you down?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Tackle things <em>within<\/em> <em>your control<\/em><\/strong> or waste time addressing the <em>uncontrollable<\/em>?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Treat others with kindness and respect<\/strong> or take your frustration out on them?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Make tough choices<\/strong> or freeze like a deer in headlights?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Address high-priority items<\/strong> or consider everything important?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Lend support to others in need<\/strong> or think only about yourself?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Live with honor and integrity<\/strong> or compromise your values?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Keep the faith<\/strong> or give up hope \u2014 and quit.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Learn from the experience<\/strong> or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/why-learn-the-hard-way\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">repeat the mistakes<\/a> of the past?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>Hold Your Head Up High<\/h3>\n<p>There will be periods when you\u2019ll go through tough times. It may result from ending a relationship, losing a job, suffering a financial loss, or having a health scare. Even though it might seem like the storm clouds will never disappear, they most often do. But the way that you respond to the situation will last a very long time.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, some people react emotionally during adversity. This causes them to behave irrationally, make bad decisions, and take their frustration out on others. That not only affects the people you care about, but it\u2019ll impact you as well. While it\u2019s understandable to go through the grieving process, you owe it to yourself to hold your head up high and live with dignity and grace.<\/p>\n<p>Given that, will you cringe at the way that you carried yourself during those dark hours? Will you regret the way you handled yourself, the relationships you damaged, and the flawed decisions that you made? Or will you be proud of the way that you met the challenge by refusing to abandon your principles? As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, \u201cWhat lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you.\u201d The choice is yours.<\/p>\n<p>Check out Frank\u2019s latest book,\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/B09VPTBF34\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><i>The Path to a Meaningful Life<\/i><\/a>.<\/p>\n<h3>How Do You Act During Tough Times?<\/h3>\n<p><b>Please leave a\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/good-times-build-confidence-bad-times-build-character\/#respond\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">comment<\/a>\u00a0and tell us what you think or\u00a0share it with someone who can benefit from the information.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><strong>Additional Reading:<\/strong><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/what-do-tough-times-say-about-you\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">What Do Tough Times Say About You?<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/the-power-of-a-positive-attitude\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">The Power of a Positive Attitude<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/9-powerful-reasons-why-your-moral-character-matters\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">9 Powerful Reasons Why Your Moral Character Matters<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/get-it-done\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Success Begins With a Can-Do Attitude<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/is-asking-for-help-a-weakness\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Is Asking for Help a Weakness?<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/17-action-steps-to-take-during-hard-times\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">17 Action Steps to Take During Tough Times<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/how-do-you-respond-in-a-crisis\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">How Do You Respond in a Crisis?<\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #808080;\">If you like this article, subscribe to our blog so that you don\u2019t miss a single post. 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