{"id":3034,"date":"2023-06-23T23:26:56","date_gmt":"2023-06-24T03:26:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/3-simple-steps-to-reinvent-your-extraordinary-life\/"},"modified":"2023-06-23T23:26:56","modified_gmt":"2023-06-24T03:26:56","slug":"3-simple-steps-to-reinvent-your-extraordinary-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/3-simple-steps-to-reinvent-your-extraordinary-life\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Simple Steps to Reinvent Your Extraordinary Life"},"content":{"rendered":"

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76% of people die with the same regret. <\/span>\u201cNot fulfilling their ideal self.\u201d<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

This is from a Cornell study conducted a few years back.<\/span><\/p>\n

The \u201cideal self\u201d is the attributes you would ideally like to possess, such as hopes, goals, aspirations, or wishes.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s the forsaken dreams, romantic interests not pursued, and choosing the \u201csafe\u201d job instead of the adventurous position.<\/span><\/p>\n

It ties nicely to the #1 regret of the dying, according to Bronnie Ware:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI wish I\u2019d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

So how do you become the minority?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How do you become the 24%?<\/span><\/p>\n

First, we must understand that we have two double whammies to contend with.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Our lizard brains<\/b><\/h2>\n

Our deepest human need is to survive.<\/span><\/p>\n

Our brains are survival machines and nothing more. They\u2019re designed to keep us alive.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

As part of this hard-wiring, we\u2019re also efficiency machines.<\/span><\/p>\n

Our brains seek the path of least resistance. It\u2019s a primal desire to conserve calories to ensure our survival.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Anything outside our comfort zone is unknown and, therefore, an \u201cunnecessary\u2019 risk.<\/span><\/p>\n

So we seek the comfort of not leaping into our unforsaken dreams<\/a>, the comfort of not being rejected by the romantic interest, the comfort of the \u201csafe\u201d job.<\/span><\/p>\n

Complacency trumps courage.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cLife isn\u2019t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.\u201d \u2013 George Bernard Shaw<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

2. Conditioning<\/b><\/h2>\n

We\u2019re conditioned by family, friends, and society to chase certain things to be happy.<\/span><\/p>\n

Those things are almost always outside ourselves:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The right job title, the right amount of money, the right car, the right clothes, etc.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The most significant trouble with externals is that they do supply happiness in the short term.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Long-term, they transform into regrets; for example, the parent who worked 80-hour weeks to maintain a house that was too big and missed family and connection time along the way.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

So back to the million-dollar question:<\/span><\/p>\n

How do we become the 24%?<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n

We reinvent ourselves from a chaser of things to a creator of meaning<\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Your purpose in life isn\u2019t to stare at a spreadsheet all day or out-maneuver John for the corner office so you can chase more things.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I believe there\u2019s more than one purpose to life and one of them is this:<\/span><\/p>\n

To find what makes us come alive, commit to its accomplishment, and share it with the world.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

These are the 3 C\u2019s to a meaningful life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Connect:<\/b><\/h4>\n

We must learn about ourselves, what matters to us, and who we are. We must get clear on who we want to be and want we want our lives to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

We\u2019ve got to connect with ourselves and find what makes us come alive.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

When we seek what makes us come alive (Life Calling), we connect with ourselves on a profound level.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We create an opportunity to live in alignment.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

When we live in alignment, we cultivate deeper connections with those around us because we\u2019re connected deeper to ourselves.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We improve our relationships (with ourselves and others).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We cultivate self-trust and confidence.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We give purpose and meaning to our lives.<\/span><\/p>\n

Create:<\/b><\/h4>\n

When we commit to creating\/giving life to our Life Calling, we give ourselves one of the greatest gifts of being alive; we give ourselves a mission.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

A mission cultivates joy, intention, purpose, meaning, self-trust, confidence, and fulfillment.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

A mission gives us focus, direction, and aim.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We wake up in the morning with reason and purpose.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We give purpose and meaning to our lives.<\/span><\/p>\n

Contribute:<\/b><\/h4>\n

When we share our creations, we give back to the world that gave us the ability to create what we created.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We\u2019re of service to something more significant than ourselves. We bring inspiration into the world and show others what\u2019s possible, which creates more creation.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This is one of the highest purposes we can serve.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Just because 76% of people die with the same regret doesn\u2019t mean you will.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You have, at any time, the opportunity to enter the 24%.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not too late, you\u2019re not too old, you didn\u2019t miss your chance.<\/span><\/p>\n

Reinvention Reminder: <\/span>A year from now, you can regret that you didn\u2019t start a year ago o<\/span>r a <\/span>year from now, you can be in awe at how far you\u2019ve come.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n

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