{"id":4025,"date":"2023-09-05T11:06:44","date_gmt":"2023-09-05T15:06:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/ask-us-anything-elizabeth-and-i-answer-questions-about-writing\/"},"modified":"2023-09-05T11:06:44","modified_gmt":"2023-09-05T15:06:44","slug":"ask-us-anything-elizabeth-and-i-answer-questions-about-writing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/ask-us-anything-elizabeth-and-i-answer-questions-about-writing\/","title":{"rendered":"Ask Us Anything: Elizabeth and I Answer Questions About Writing"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>In <a href=\"https:\/\/gretchenrubin.com\/podcast\/438-act-like-a-teenager-pick-up-your-food-in-person-and-ask-us-anything-about-writing\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">episode 438<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> of the <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Happier with Gretchen Rubin<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> podcast, Elizabeth and I answered listener questions about writing in an \u201cAsk Us Anything.\u201d Here are some highlights:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>How does writing a novel differ from writing TV? Is doing one preparation for doing the other, or are they really different?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Elizabeth: They\u2019re very different, very challenging in different ways. Writing a novel right now feels harder, because I haven\u2019t done it as often as I write TV. It\u2019s a lot of fun, but I find it extremely intimidating, because I think it\u2019s hard to keep someone\u2019s attention. It feels like a big responsibility.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Writing TV is all about using as few words as possible, being brief. In novel writing, you can use a lot of words, and I wonder \u201cHow am I going to fill up all these pages?\u201d Then I find myself overwriting, and I have to go back and cut.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In television, everything has to be in dialogue, whereas in a novel, you can really get into the interior monologue, which I love.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And also, one thing that\u2019s fun about writing a novel is that you don\u2019t have to think about the cost. Something can explode, you can have five hundred characters, you can travel the world, because it all costs the same amount to print the page. When we\u2019re writing TV, we spend so much time thinking about production.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Do you sit at your desk at a prescribed writing time even if you don\u2019t have a clear idea of what you\u2019ll write?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gretchen: Yes, I do. If I don\u2019t know what I\u2019m going to write, I\u2019ll putter around with something. I\u2019ve always got a lot of stuff to write.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Elizabeth: I don\u2019t, but I probably should. When I\u2019m working, I have so many things to do that writing gets fit in wherever I can. That\u2019s part of what I struggle with writing the novel, I don\u2019t have these prescribed times.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>How do you restart a project that\u2019s been languishing for a while?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gretchen: I would say: Get back into it. Set aside some time every day. Use all your <a href=\"https:\/\/gretchenrubin.com\/articles\/my-new-book-about-habit-formation-as-distilled-in-21-sentences\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">habit-formation strategies<\/a>\u00a0to make consistent time for it. Read through the whole thing without editing it, and figure out how you want to start engaging. Do you want to pick up and start writing again? Do you want to start at the beginning and edit?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This could be a situation where \u201cIt\u2019s not a bug, it\u2019s a feature.\u201d If they can, many writers will put something away for six months, so that when they come back to it, they\u2019ll have a fresh eye. In the end, it might benefit your creative project that you have a bit of distance from it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>What tips do you have for solo writers who need inspiration, collaboration, accountability, and just plain help to keep going or get through a rough patch?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gretchen: Both of us are big fans of being in writers\u2019 groups, but this to me sounds like a straight-up accountability problem. Unfurl the list of accountability strategies, use <a href=\"https:\/\/thehappierapp.com\/?utm_campaign=article-writing-questions&amp;utm_source=gr&amp;utm_medium=web\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">the <em>Happier<\/em>\u2122 app<\/a><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, the <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/the-happiness-project.com\/collections\/all\/products\/dont-break-the-chain-habit-tracker?utm_campaign=article-writing-questions&amp;utm_source=gr&amp;utm_medium=web\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Don\u2019t Break the Chain Habit Tracker<\/a>\u2014<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">there are lots of tools you can use once you realize you need external accountability.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Elizabeth: And the ultimate accountability: Take an online writing class where you have to turn stuff in. Most of us want to be good students.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>How do you take your work from a single idea into a full fleshed-out piece?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Elizabeth: That\u2019s the million-dollar question. For me, because I work with a partner, it\u2019s a lot of talking. We go from an idea, to notes for a pitch, to a pitch, to an outline. We\u2019ll talk about a scene and go off and write the outline for that scene, taking turns, and then go to script. It\u2019s a long, many-step process, and I think it\u2019s similar for the novel as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gretchen: For me, often I\u2019ll have an idea or a question I want to answer, and I always start with the research. Tons of reading and note-taking, often throwing spaghetti against the wall: anything that appeals to me, anything that strikes my interest, anything that surprises me. I take a lot of notes that never end up paying off, because they represent dead-ends. At a certain point, I\u2019ll know the subject well enough to have a theory\u2014for instance, with with habit-formation. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And there\u2019s the problem of the structure, which is always very difficult to figure out. If you look at any of my books, you might think I just picked the most obvious structure, but every time, it was months of labor\u2013and then I\u2019ll realize I need to do more research. Then there\u2019s often a huge amount of cutting. For my book<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/gretchenrubin.com\/books\/life-in-five-senses\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"> Life in Five Senses<\/a><\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, I cut out probably three times as much finished material as what appears in the book. People often ignore that part when talking about writing: a lot of it is cutting.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>How do you approach writing about a personal experience that close friends or family <\/b><b>might be offended by?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Elizabeth: One thing I know people do is change more than the name. Change other details\u2014job, gender, where the person lives\u2014so that you really can\u2019t tell who it is. That person, depending on the story, still might recognize themselves. You have to ask yourself, \u201cAm I okay with this?\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Writers feel very differently about this. Some people feel, \u201cThis is my lived experience and I\u2019m going to write what I want to write,\u201d and other people will show someone a chapter of their book and ask if they\u2019re okay with publishing it. It really comes down to your personal philosophy.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><br style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\/>More questions I\u2019m often asked:<\/h2>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/gretchenrubin.com\/articles\/a-question-im-often-asked-how-do-i-spark-my-creativity\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How do I spark my creativity?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/gretchenrubin.com\/articles\/whats-my-process-for-taking-notes\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What\u2019s my process for taking notes?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/gretchenrubin.com\/articles\/how-do-i-become-a-published-author\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How does a person become a published author?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/gretchenrubin.com\/articles\/frequently-asked-question-how-do-i-read-so-much\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">How do I read so much?<\/a><\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In episode 438 of the Happier with Gretchen Rubin podcast, Elizabeth and I answered listener questions about writing in an \u201cAsk Us Anything.\u201d Here are [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4026,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[19],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4025","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-habits"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4025","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4025"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4025\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4026"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4025"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4025"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4025"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}