{"id":4480,"date":"2023-10-10T05:35:56","date_gmt":"2023-10-10T09:35:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/are-you-doing-your-fair-share\/"},"modified":"2023-10-10T05:35:56","modified_gmt":"2023-10-10T09:35:56","slug":"are-you-doing-your-fair-share","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/are-you-doing-your-fair-share\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You Doing Your Fair Share?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Who contributes more to a household, the person who washes the dishes or the one who takes out the garbage? The person who cooks dinner or the one who does the laundry? The main breadwinner or the one who spends more time with the kids? If you think keeping score in any relationship is petty, you\u2019re right. But it happens every day. Unfortunately, this sort of rivalry can breed resentment, jealousy, and even anger. Do you do your fair share?<\/p>\n

Keeping score in any relationship is a losing game.<\/p>\n

When you keep score, the focus shifts from the contribution that you\u2019re making to nitpicking someone else\u2019s level of involvement. When that happens, who\u2019s doing more<\/em> takes center stage. If you think this routine is a waste of energy, you\u2019re right.<\/p>\n

Are You a Team Player?<\/h3>\n

There are many ways that you can give of yourself \u2014 working hard<\/a>, assisting financially, giving someone a well-deserved break, volunteering to take on more, providing emotional support, or giving your time.<\/p>\n

The presumption that everyone\u2019s contribution should be equal is seriously flawed.<\/p>\n

First, people don\u2019t always see eye to eye on the value of their contribution. While you may think you\u2019re contributing a lot, it may pale in comparison to what others are doing. That can happen if a task is difficult for you but easy for others. In that case, they may value your contribution less.<\/p>\n

Additionally, some activities are difficult to quantify \u2014 and downplayed as a result. For example, what\u2019s the value of a positive and upbeat person or someone who provides emotional support? If something can\u2019t be measured, is it less important? In addition, is a career<\/em> more important than ensuring that your home<\/em> functions properly? The truth is \u2014 they\u2019re both important.<\/p>\n

Teamwork is an essential component of achieving success. When individuals work together toward a common goal, it leads to better outcomes. Here are 10 ways to foster collaboration:<\/p>\n

Set expectations. <\/strong><\/span>Agree what needs to get done, the best person to do the job, and an understanding of each other\u2019s expectations. That way very few things should come as a surprise.<\/p>\n

Play to each other\u2019s strengths. <\/strong><\/span>Know your strengths and volunteer to do things that capitalize on them. The same holds true for others.<\/p>\n

Accept menial work. <\/strong><\/span>There\u2019s always a thankless job that must get done, but nobody wants to do it. Share in that effort.<\/p>\n

Work as a team.<\/strong><\/span> Instead of complaining and criticizing<\/a>, channel your energy into getting stuff done.<\/p>\n

Be reasonable.<\/span> <\/strong>Never make demands of people that they can\u2019t deliver.<\/p>\n

Strike a balance. <\/strong><\/span>Make sure to focus on both the short and long term, meet people halfway, and do your fair share.<\/p>\n

Keep your paws off.<\/strong><\/span> Do you push people away because you\u2019re a control freak<\/a> \u2014 and then complain that you\u2019re doing all the work yourself? If you want to encourage ownership<\/em>, don\u2019t micromanage.<\/p>\n

Get on the same page.<\/strong><\/span> One of the primary sources of arguments is lack of communication<\/a>. As Mark Sanborn, the bestselling author, said, \u201cIn teamwork, silence isn\u2019t golden, it\u2019s deadly.\u201d<\/p>\n

Do your best. <\/strong><\/span>Failing to achieve something is excusable; failing to try is not.<\/p>\n

Do things for the right reason. <\/strong><\/span>When you do something nice, do it quietly. When you give of yourself, never rub it in someone\u2019s face or expect something in return.<\/p>\n

Do Your Fair Share<\/h3>\n

If you feel guilty reading this, it\u2019s time to get with the program. After all, if you\u2019re not doing your fair share, you\u2019re forcing others to accept the burden. When you take people or things for granted, you put them in jeopardy. It\u2019s not enough to make up for neglect after they\u2019ve slipped away. Do your fair share today.<\/p>\n

Physical presence is not the same as being there.<\/p>\n

Being a team player means identifying what needs to get done, being sympathetic of what others are doing, and giving willingly of yourself without expecting something in return. In healthy relationships, you place others\u2019 interests ahead of your own and they do the same for you \u2014 no questions asked. There isn\u2019t a formal agreement. The commitment is much stronger. It\u2019s called a relationship<\/em> \u2014 and it\u2019s where you share, grow, and benefit together. Of course, you will have periods when you take on more responsibility, and periods when others will do the same for you. Over the course of a lifetime things balance out! Will it work out evenly? Probably not, but that\u2019s the point. The joy is in the giving. As Helen Keller said, \u201cAlone, we can do so little; together, we can do so much.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Are You Doing Your Fair Share?<\/h3>\n

Please leave a\u00a0comment<\/a>\u00a0and tell us what you think or\u00a0share it with someone who can benefit from the information<\/b><\/p>\n

Additional Reading:
Good Relationships Don\u2019t Keep Score<\/a>
Are You Selfless or Selfish?<\/a>
Do You Have a Strong Work Ethic?<\/a>
What Does It Take to Show a Little Kindness?<\/a>
Selfish People Are Losers<\/a>
Win-Win Business Relationships<\/a>
Relationships: A Marriage Made in Heaven<\/a><\/p>\n

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