{"id":4548,"date":"2023-10-14T17:58:32","date_gmt":"2023-10-14T21:58:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/heres-why-you-should-compliment-yourself\/"},"modified":"2023-10-14T17:58:32","modified_gmt":"2023-10-14T21:58:32","slug":"heres-why-you-should-compliment-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/heres-why-you-should-compliment-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"Here\u2019s Why You Should Compliment Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>You glance in the mirror, eyes tracing the contours of your reflection. Somehow, despite the praise showered by others, a voice whispers, \u201c<em>Not. Good. Enough<\/em>.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>But what if the secret to extinguishing this nagging whisper lies in learning how to genuinely compliment yourself?\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>There\u2019s nothing that builds you up the way self-praise does<\/em>,\u201d says <strong>Marisa Peer<\/strong>, the creator of Rapid Transformational Therapy\u00ae and trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s <em>Uncompromised Life<\/em> Quest. And when you learn how to do so, you unlock a reservoir of <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/how-to-believe-in-yourself\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">self-confidence<\/a> and positivity that no external validation can rival.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-why-you-should-praise-yourself\">Why You Should Praise Yourself<\/h2>\n<p>Sure, receiving praise from others can make you feel good at the moment, but without true <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/self-confidence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">self-confidence<\/a>, those compliments won\u2019t amount to anything. When you believe in yourself, the opinions of others don\u2019t have the same influence.<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"bctt-click-to-tweet\"><span class=\"bctt-ctt-text\"><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Fblog.mindvalley.com%2Fself-confidence-and-praising%2F&amp;text=Nothing%2C%20nothing%2C%20nothing%20boosts%20your%20self-esteem%20like%20praise.%20%E2%80%94%20%40MarisaPeer&amp;via=mindvalley&amp;related=mindvalley\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Nothing, nothing, nothing boosts your self-esteem like praise. \u2014 @MarisaPeer <\/a><\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Fblog.mindvalley.com%2Fself-confidence-and-praising%2F&amp;text=Nothing%2C%20nothing%2C%20nothing%20boosts%20your%20self-esteem%20like%20praise.%20%E2%80%94%20%40MarisaPeer&amp;via=mindvalley&amp;related=mindvalley\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"bctt-ctt-btn\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Click To Tweet<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p>The reality is, there are benefits to praising yourself. Here\u2019s a closer look at three, with research studies to support them.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Enhances mental well-being. <\/strong>A <a href=\"https:\/\/self-compassion.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/SC.SE_.Well-being.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">st<\/a>udy by Dr. Kristin Neff draws a direct line between self-compassion, which closely aligns with self-praise, and improved mental health. Her research found that when people are kind to themselves, they experience lower levels of anxiety and depression.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Boosts performance and productivity.<\/strong> According to the findings of a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com\/science\/article\/abs\/pii\/S0022103119303531\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">2020 study<\/a>, when people used their own name to give themselves a pep talk, they did better at tasks and were able to handle their feelings better too.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Better physical health. <\/strong>A <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC5779931\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">2017 study<\/a> brought to light the remarkable influence of self-compassion on physical health, indicating that it not only nurtures the mind but also the body.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>So whenever you find yourself flooded with thoughts of criticism, shame, guilt, and insult, it\u2019s important to turn those thoughts around. As Marisa encourages, \u201c<em>Choose to fall in love with yourself; it is a lifelong romance that never wanes, never disappoints<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Explore more on how to compliment yourself from Marisa Peer:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed aligncenter is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\">\n<p>\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Why Evolved People Praise Themselves (And You Should Too) | Marisa Peer\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/c-om08dYDHk?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/p><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Why Evolved People Praise Themselves (And You Should Too) | Marisa Peer<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-praise-and-compliment-yourself\">How to Praise and Compliment Yourself<\/h2>\n<p>Sometimes, telling yourself \u201cwell done\u201d can be tough, especially when that tiny voice constantly convinces you you\u2019re anything other than awesome.<\/p>\n<p>And figuring out how to compliment yourself without bragging? That\u2019s a tricky one. But it\u2019s so crucial to our self-esteem to discover the ways we can celebrate our own wins without that shadow of arrogance.<\/p>\n<p>So here\u2019s a mini-guide to navigating through the gentle waters of self-appreciation and ensuring the \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/not-good-enough\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">not good enough<\/a>\u201d voice gets a little quieter each time.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-create-a-state-of-confidence\">1. Create a state of confidence<\/h3>\n<p>Do you wonder how some stars shine bright on stage? <strong>Paul McKenna<\/strong>, UK\u2019s #1 hypnotherapist and trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s <em>Total Self-Confidence<\/em> Quest, explains that it\u2019s all about the state of mind.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Just like Elvis Presley used to walk 1,000 yards to build his confidence before a show, you too can master your emotions. So, how do you do it?<\/p>\n<p>Creating a confident emotional state involves understanding and harnessing your mental images and dialogues\u2014or \u201cmovies,\u201d as Paul describes them.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>For example, envisioning yourself as confident at a party versus isolated and uncomfortable illustrates two starkly different mental movies. The first, uplifting and the latter, potentially deflating.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>As you learn to change the pictures in your mind, you too will get conscious control of your life<\/em>,\u201d explains Paul. And this can gradually shape your reality to mirror your optimistic internal views.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-control-your-inner-critic\">2. Control your inner critic<\/h3>\n<p>Understand that we often engage in <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/self-talk\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">self-talk<\/a>. And this internal dialogue, known as our \u201cinner critic,\u201d deeply influences our emotions and confidence, as Paul McKenna highlights in his Mindvalley Quest.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, it limits us, telling us we can\u2019t do something or reminding us of past failures. But here\u2019s the beautiful thing: You absolutely have control over this voice.<\/p>\n<p>If the voice living in your head isn\u2019t supporting you, it\u2019s time to replace it with one that does. \u2014 @ImPaulMcKenna<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>Like it or not<\/em>,\u201d says Paul, \u201c<em>the results you\u2019re getting in your life have everything to do with what that voice keeps telling you<\/em>.\u201d So reshape this voice into one that emboldens you.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>How does it sound when it speaks in a confident and affirmative tone? Locate this new voice and give yourself a compliment.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-pose-like-a-champion\">3. Pose like a champion<\/h3>\n<p>Standing tall, both literally and metaphorically, shapes your emotions and perceptions in a profound way. Indeed, your body language, particularly your posture, speaks volumes about your <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/self-esteem-classes\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">self-esteem<\/a> and mental state.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Paul points out that champion athletes, successful business leaders, and notable figures in showbiz often exhibit a shared characteristic: they carry themselves with upright, relaxed, and confident postures.<\/p>\n<p>What\u2019s wonderful is that adopting this \u201cposture of champions\u201d is something that\u2019s easily accessible. Just imagine a silver cord extending through your spine and pulling you upright.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>Your mind and body are intimately linked in what\u2019s known as a cybernetic loop<\/em>,\u201d Paul explains. \u201c<em>That means that whatever you think about will affect the way your body feels. And the way you use your body will affect the thoughts inside your head<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>So by consistently practicing this upright pose, you subtly rewrite your muscle memory, making this confident posture a predominant habit. This doesn\u2019t merely influence how the world perceives you; it transforms your internal dialogue, injecting positive, robust energy into every endeavor.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-accept-yourself\">4. Accept yourself<\/h3>\n<p>Often, <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/limiting-beliefs\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">limiting beliefs<\/a> seeded in your mind form barriers to extending genuine compliments to yourself. So, how can you navigate through this and embrace self-acceptance? It starts with recognizing your unique qualities and the remarkable things you bring to the world.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>The only person who can make you feel really good about you is you<\/em>,\u201d says Marisa. \u201c<em>You must fall in love with yourself<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.health.harvard.edu\/blog\/greater-self-acceptance-improves-emotional-well-201605169546\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Research<\/a> actually shows that greater self-acceptance improves emotional well-being. So by learning to compliment yourself, you not only shatter those limiting beliefs but also pave the way for robust self-love and esteem.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-use-positive-affirmations\">5. Use positive affirmations<\/h3>\n<p>\u201c<em>The common denominator of all of our emotional issues stems from thinking we\u2019re not enough, not lovable enough, smart enough, interesting enough, attractive enough<\/em>,\u201d explains Marisa. That\u2019s where <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/positive-affirmations\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">positive affirmations<\/a> can help.<\/p>\n<p>They aren\u2019t just lines you repeat to yourself over and over again. What it actually means is speaking to yourself with kindness, encouragement, and recognition of your self-worth.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s the simple truth: the language you employ internally molds your perceptions and, by extension, your realities. Hence, positive affirmations serve as a tool to sculpt a supportive and empowering internal dialogue<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"bctt-click-to-tweet\"><span class=\"bctt-ctt-text\"><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Fblog.mindvalley.com%2Fself-confidence-and-praising%2F&amp;text=When%20you%20know%20you%E2%80%99re%20enough%2C%20guess%20what%3F%20Everyone%20around%20you%20knows%20that%20you%E2%80%99re%20enough%2C%20too%2C%20and%20it%20makes%20your%20life%20extraordinary.%20%E2%80%94%20%40MarisaPeer&amp;via=mindvalley&amp;related=mindvalley\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">When you know you\u2019re enough, guess what? Everyone around you knows that you\u2019re enough, too, and it makes your life extraordinary. \u2014 @MarisaPeer <\/a><\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Fblog.mindvalley.com%2Fself-confidence-and-praising%2F&amp;text=When%20you%20know%20you%E2%80%99re%20enough%2C%20guess%20what%3F%20Everyone%20around%20you%20knows%20that%20you%E2%80%99re%20enough%2C%20too%2C%20and%20it%20makes%20your%20life%20extraordinary.%20%E2%80%94%20%40MarisaPeer&amp;via=mindvalley&amp;related=mindvalley\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"bctt-ctt-btn\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Click To Tweet<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Affirmations gain power through repetition. So saying good things to yourself every day helps put positive thoughts in your mind and push out the bad ones.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img decoding=\"async\" fetchpriority=\"high\" width=\"1456\" height=\"816\" alt=\"A confident man writing down a &quot;compliment yourself&quot; list in a notebook\" class=\"wp-image-68955\" srcset=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2018\/01\/09660ab2-self-confidence-and-praising-mindvalley-blog-03-midjourney-seo-team.webp 1456w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2018\/01\/09660ab2-self-confidence-and-praising-mindvalley-blog-03-midjourney-seo-team-768x430.webp 768w\" data-lazy-sizes=\"(max-width: 1456px) 100vw, 1456px\" src=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2018\/01\/09660ab2-self-confidence-and-praising-mindvalley-blog-03-midjourney-seo-team.webp\"\/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" fetchpriority=\"high\" width=\"1456\" height=\"816\" src=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2018\/01\/09660ab2-self-confidence-and-praising-mindvalley-blog-03-midjourney-seo-team.webp\" alt=\"A confident man writing down a &quot;compliment yourself&quot; list in a notebook\" class=\"wp-image-68955\" srcset=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2018\/01\/09660ab2-self-confidence-and-praising-mindvalley-blog-03-midjourney-seo-team.webp 1456w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2018\/01\/09660ab2-self-confidence-and-praising-mindvalley-blog-03-midjourney-seo-team-768x430.webp 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1456px) 100vw, 1456px\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-15-compliments-to-tell-yourself-every-day\">15 Compliments to Tell Yourself Every Day<\/h2>\n<p>Daily self-compliments can have a transformative effect on your confidence and self-love. Surely, you\u2019ve come across a few, like <em>The Help<\/em>\u2019s \u201c<em>You is kind, you is smart, you is important<\/em>\u201d or <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/dj-bliss\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">DJ Bliss<\/a>\u2019s Bliss List.<\/p>\n<p>When you compliment yourself, it\u2019s not only uplifting but essential. So here\u2019s a list you can use to start yourself off:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>I am resilient.<\/li>\n<li>I am fearless.<\/li>\n<li>My creativity knows no bounds.<\/li>\n<li>I embody strength.<\/li>\n<li>I am uniquely beautiful, inside and out.<\/li>\n<li>My worth is intrinsic.<\/li>\n<li>I believe in my abilities.<\/li>\n<li>My potential is limitless.<\/li>\n<li>I radiate confidence.<\/li>\n<li>My spirit is unbreakable.<\/li>\n<li>I spread joy.<\/li>\n<li>I am enough.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Remember, gently remind yourself of these truths daily, and watch as your <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/self-belief\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">self-belief<\/a> and confidence bloom.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-seek-greatness\">Seek Greatness<\/h2>\n<p>Let\u2019s begin with a small but mighty step: compliment yourself every day. Nice words, like \u201c<em>I am strong<\/em>\u201d or \u201c<em>I am kind<\/em>,\u201d <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/confidence-quotes\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">boost your confidence<\/a> in a big way.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>With help from the wisdom of Marisa Peer and Paul McKenna on Mindvalley, every little effort you make brings you closer to a strong belief in yourself. Plus, the great thing is, you can get access to Marisa and Paul\u2019s classes by simply creating your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindvalley.com\/signup?utm_source=blog_inline_link&amp;utm_campaign=evergreen_freemium&amp;utm_medium=end_of_article&amp;otag=mv_blog_freemium&amp;utm_content=self-confidence_and_praising\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>free Mindvalley account<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Those who\u2019ve gone through their quests have found their way to self-confidence. Like:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/stories.mindvalley.com\/show\/uncompromised-life\/this-work-has-had-the-most-impactful-effect-on-my-life\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Daminee Basu<\/a>, an actor from Kolkata, India, who took Marisa\u2019s program and wrote, \u201c<em>I got rid of toxic [codependent] relationships, draining efforts in work, in confidence, and self-sabotaging bullsh*t. This work literally saw me emerge with the strength of a lion<\/em>.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/stories.mindvalley.com\/show\/total-self-confidence\/total-self-confidence-is-something-i-aspire-to-have-and-this-quest-couldn-t-have-come-at-a-better-time\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Valerie van Ginhoven<\/a>, a manifestation coach from Lima, Peru, who took Paul\u2019s program and wrote, \u201c<em>It was practical and applicable, and every day, I could notice myself feeling more confident in the way I was doing things<\/em>.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>And just like them, the more you keep telling yourself good things, the more likely it\u2019s that you\u2019ll watch your future become bright and hopeful.<\/p>\n<p>Welcome in.<\/p>\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n<p class=\"has-small-font-size\"><em>Images generated on Midjourney.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You glance in the mirror, eyes tracing the contours of your reflection. 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