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This newsletter is going to be different.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Whether you love him, hate him, or just enjoy the spectacle, there\u2019s no denying that Donald Trump is one of the most fascinating figures in modern history. He\u2019s not just a politician. He\u2019s a brand, a movement, a force of nature.<\/p>\n

And if you strip away the noise\u2014the politics, the scandals, the larger-than-life persona\u2014you\u2019re left with something undeniably interesting: a personal growth strategy that has propelled him from real estate mogul to reality TV star to President of the United States\u2026 and back to the political arena again.<\/p>\n

Now, before you throw your phone across the room or start composing an angry tweet, let me be clear: this is NOT an endorsement or a takedown. This is an exploration. A deep dive into the four rules that have shaped Trump\u2019s worldview and, in turn, his success.<\/p>\n

So let\u2019s step back from politics for a moment<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

What if, instead of judging, we simply observed? What if we looked at Trump\u2014not as a politician\u2014but as a case study in personal growth, influence, and the psychology of success?<\/p>\n

What if we examined his mindset?<\/p>\n

Because here\u2019s the truth: The man has defied every expectation, broken every rule of conventional leadership, and still remains one of the most influential figures on the planet. He has lost and won, been written off and resurrected, faced scandals and indictments\u2014and yet, his grip on his followers is unshakable.<\/p>\n

So, what\u2019s his secret?<\/p>\n

What guiding principles have shaped him into the force he is today?<\/p>\n

And perhaps most importantly\u2014is there anything we can learn from them?<\/p>\n

Visiting Mar-a-Lago & the movie The Apprentice<\/em><\/h2>\n

I got a firsthand glimpse into Trump\u2019s world when I was invited to Mar-a-Lago a few months ago. I also have friends who have worked with him, been in meetings with him, and even done business deals with him. The insights they\u2019ve shared with me paint a fascinating picture.<\/p>\n

But what really sparked this letter was watching the film The Apprentice<\/em>. The movie explores Trump\u2019s relationship with the infamous American lawyer Roy Cohn, a man who once defended the mafia and was an ally of Senator Joseph McCarthy during the communist Red Scare in America.<\/p>\n

The acting in the film was phenomenal\u2014 and the actors Sebastian Stan as Trump, Jeremy Strong as Cohn delivered Oscar-worthy performances.\u00a0<\/p>\n

But what struck me the most about the movie wasn\u2019t just the acting\u2014it was how it depicted Trump\u2019s evolution. It showed his transformation from an eager, sweet, and somewhat na\u00efve young man into the relentless, larger-than-life force he eventually became.<\/p>\n

At the heart of it all were three laws that Roy Cohn imparted to Trump. These three rules\u2014plus a fourth one that I picked up from reading The Art of the Deal<\/em> years ago\u2014form the foundation of Trump\u2019s personal growth philosophy.<\/p>\n

Are you ready? Buckle up.<\/p>\n

Who was Roy Cohn?<\/h2>\n

To understand Trump\u2019s personal growth philosophy, you need to understand Roy Cohn. If Trump is the ultimate showman-turned-politician, Cohn was the mastermind behind the curtain.<\/p>\n

Cohn first rose to prominence as Joseph McCarthy\u2019s chief counsel during the infamous Red Scare, where he helped orchestrate the anti-communist witch hunts of the 1950s. He was ruthless, unapologetic, and had a simple rule\u2014never admit defeat, never apologize, and always attack.<\/p>\n

When McCarthy fell from grace, Cohn reinvented himself as a power broker in New York, working as a mob lawyer and rubbing shoulders with the rich and powerful. It was during this time that he became Donald Trump\u2019s mentor.<\/p>\n

Cohn taught Trump how to weaponize the legal system, how to manipulate the press, and\u2014most importantly\u2014how to create an untouchable personal brand. He wasn\u2019t just Trump\u2019s lawyer; he was his strategist, consigliere, and attack dog all rolled into one.<\/p>\n

Cohn had three ironclad rules. Rules that Trump absorbed like a sponge.<\/p>\n

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  1. Attack, attack, attack
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  2. Admit nothing, deny everything
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  3. Always claim victory
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    And then, years later, Trump added his own fourth rule\u2014one that would become his ultimate superpower.<\/p>\n

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    1. Relentless optimism
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      These four rules became the foundation of Trump\u2019s personal philosophy. And whether you agree with them or not, you can\u2019t deny their impact.<\/p>\n

      Ironically, Cohn\u2019s own downfall mirrored the tactics he taught Trump. In 1986, he was disbarred for unethical conduct\u2014fraud, perjury, and unethical business practices. His response? Complete denial. Even as his career crumbled, he insisted he was the victim of a political conspiracy.<\/p>\n

      Trump absorbed all of this. And even after Cohn\u2019s death from AIDS in 1986, his influence lived on in Trump\u2019s philosophy of power and survival.<\/p>\n

      In the movie The Apprentice, it\u2019s suggested that Cohn mentored Trump and asked him to follow the following 3 Rules of Life.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

      Rule #1: Attack, attack, attack<\/h2>\n

      In The Art of War<\/em>, Sun Tzu wrote:<\/p>\n

      \u201cOpportunities multiply as they are seized.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

      In other words: Never play defense. Always strike first.<\/p>\n

      This was Roy Cohn\u2019s number one rule, and Trump didn\u2019t just adopt it\u2014he made it his core philosophy.<\/p>\n

      If you observe Trump\u2019s career, you\u2019ll see one pattern repeating over and over again: He never waits for an attack. He preempts it. He overwhelms. He escalates. He turns every battle into a scorched-earth war.<\/p>\n

      I had a fascinating conversation about this with Richard Branson on Necker Island in September 2024. Branson\u2014who has been quite vocal about his distaste for Trump\u2014shared something revealing.<\/p>\n

      During the 2016 elections, both Trump and Hillary Clinton invited him to separate meetings.<\/p>\n

      When he sat down with Hillary, she spoke about governance, strategy, innovation, and policy.<\/p>\n

      When he met with Trump? The entire conversation was about revenge.<\/p>\n

      Trump listed people who had wronged him, one by one, and described exactly how he planned to destroy them.<\/p>\n

      Branson walked out of that meeting shaken.<\/p>\n

      He had never met someone so singularly obsessed with retaliation.<\/p>\n

      But here\u2019s the thing: It worked.<\/p>\n

      Trump\u2019s relentless attacks obliterated his political rivals. In 2016, one by one, every Republican candidate who stood in his way was demolished.<\/p>\n

      This isn\u2019t just politics. This is branding warfare.<\/p>\n

      Robert Greene, in The 48 Laws of Power<\/em>, puts it this way:<\/p>\n

      \u201cCrush your enemy totally.\u201d<\/p>\n

      Trump doesn\u2019t just defeat opponents. He erases them from relevance.<\/p>\n

      But what about those who stand with him?<\/p>\n

      That\u2019s a different story.<\/p>\n

      At Mar-a-Lago, I saw this firsthand.<\/p>\n

      I had been invited to a private dinner for an incoming governor in March 2024. The attendees were some of the most politically influential people in America. And while I didn\u2019t necessarily share their political views, I found them to be polite, warm, and genuinely kind individuals.<\/p>\n

      But the conversations? Fascinating.<\/p>\n

      One person confidently told me that 350,000 Chinese operatives had crossed the U.S. border and were waiting for China\u2019s signal to attack America.<\/p>\n

      Another person claimed that two million terrorists were currently hiding within the United States.<\/p>\n

      Someone else insisted that Biden wasn\u2019t actually running the country\u2014that Barack Obama was secretly in charge, funded by George Soros.<\/p>\n

      Now, let\u2019s be clear\u2014I don\u2019t think these beliefs hold up under objective scrutiny.<\/p>\n

      But what struck me was this: These weren\u2019t angry, aggressive conspiracy theorists. They were polite, rational, and open to discussion.<\/p>\n

      When I questioned some of their claims, they listened. No tension. No fights. Just discussion<\/em>.<\/p>\n

      And then, Trump walked in.<\/p>\n

      The energy in the room shifted instantly.<\/p>\n

      I have only seen a handful of people who radiate this level of charisma in person. The Dalai Lama is one of them.<\/p>\n

      As he greeted the crowd, he pointed at us and said:<\/p>\n

      \u201cI love you!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

      The room exploded.<\/p>\n

      \u201cWe love you, Mr. President!\u201d<\/em>
      <\/em> \u201cWe\u2019re with you till the end!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

      It was a level of loyalty that is extremely rare for any leader.<\/p>\n

      Regardless of what you think of him, Trump\u2019s magnetism is undeniable.<\/p>\n

      But here\u2019s the paradox: If you oppose him, he will try to destroy you.<\/p>\n

      And in American politics, that Machiavellian strategy has proven to be highly effective.<\/p>\n

      Rule #2: Admit nothing, deny everything<\/h2>\n

      If Rule #1 is about overwhelming your enemies with force, Rule #2 is about something even more powerful: controlling reality itself.<\/p>\n

      This is Roy Cohn\u2019s second golden rule, and Trump has turned it into an art form.<\/p>\n

      The rule is simple: Never admit fault. Never concede. Deny everything. No matter what.<\/p>\n

      This isn\u2019t just about avoiding accountability. This is about bending reality to your will.<\/p>\n

      And Trump has done this over and over again<\/em>, with astonishing effectiveness.<\/p>\n

      Let\u2019s look at some of the most infamous examples.<\/p>\n

      Case study: The lawsuit that \u201cnever happened\u201d<\/h3>\n

      One of Trump\u2019s earliest legal battles came in the 1970s when the U.S. Department of Justice sued Trump\u2019s father\u2019s company for racial discrimination in housing.<\/p>\n

      Trump\u2019s response?<\/p>\n

      They didn\u2019t just deny the charges\u2014they counter-sued the U.S. government.<\/p>\n

      Eventually, the Trumps settled. But how did Trump spin it?<\/p>\n

      \u201cWe didn\u2019t lose. We won.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

      Factually, this was untrue. But in Trump\u2019s world, it became true.<\/p>\n

      And this pattern would repeat throughout his entire career.<\/p>\n

      The 2020 election: The ultimate reality distortion field<\/h3>\n

      Nowhere is this rule more evident than in Trump\u2019s handling of the 2020 election.<\/p>\n

      Every court ruling, every recount, every single legal fact pointed to the same conclusion: Trump lost.<\/p>\n

      And yet, to this day, millions of people still believe he won.<\/p>\n

      Why?<\/p>\n

      Because he never admitted defeat.<\/p>\n

      Instead, he reframed the entire election as a stolen victory. He flooded social media with claims of fraud, manipulated perception, and planted a seed that no amount of evidence could uproot.<\/p>\n

      This is the power of Rule #2.<\/p>\n

      If you simply refuse to acknowledge reality, you force the world to choose: Do they believe their own eyes? Or do they believe you?<\/p>\n

      And if you\u2019re charismatic enough, bold enough, and unyielding enough\u2014people will believe you.<\/p>\n

      Trump\u2019s superpower: The ability to rewrite history in real-time<\/h3>\n

      A few months ago, I spoke to a seminar organizer who used to book Trump for speaking events before<\/em> he became President.<\/p>\n

      He told me something mind-blowing.<\/p>\n

      There was a seminar where 8,000 people attended.<\/p>\n

      After the event, he followed Trump back to his suite for a quick chat.<\/p>\n

      Trump picked up the phone, called Melania, and said:<\/p>\n

      \u201cCan you believe it? 18,000 people showed up to see me!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

      Now\u2014Trump knew the real number.<\/p>\n

      The seminar organizer was sitting right next to him.<\/p>\n

      And yet, in that moment, Trump rewrote the past.<\/p>\n

      Not out of forgetfulness. Not out of a simple exaggeration.<\/p>\n

      But because, in his mind, 18,000 was now a reality.<\/p>\n

      And this is where Trump does something most people can\u2019t comprehend:<\/p>\n

      He doesn\u2019t just lie\u2014he creates a new truth.<\/p>\n

      Most of us, when confronted with reality, adjust our beliefs. Trump does the opposite.<\/p>\n

      He adjusts reality to fit his beliefs.<\/p>\n

      The big leap: Trump and the absence of an \u201cupper limit\u201d<\/h3>\n

      Now, let\u2019s pause for a moment\u2014because there\u2019s a fascinating<\/em> personal growth concept at play here.<\/p>\n

      Gay Hendricks, in The Big Leap<\/em>, talks about something called the Upper Limit Problem.<\/p>\n

      The idea is that most people have an internal thermostat for success, happiness, and self-worth.<\/p>\n

      When we exceed that limit\u2014whether it\u2019s a big career win, a massive relationship breakthrough, or a financial windfall\u2014we subconsciously sabotage ourselves to return to our comfort zone.<\/p>\n

      Trump?<\/p>\n

      He has the opposite problem.<\/p>\n

      He doesn\u2019t see limits at all.<\/p>\n

      He expands<\/em> reality to fit his version of himself.<\/p>\n

      Call it narcissism. Call it delusion.<\/p>\n

      But the reality is\u2014it works.<\/p>\n

      Because the world believes the people who believe in themselves the most.<\/p>\n

      This brings us to\u2026<\/p>\n

      Rule #3: Always claim victory<\/h2>\n

      There\u2019s a phrase in branding and persuasion that goes like this:<\/p>\n

      \u201cIt\u2019s not about the truth. It\u2019s about the truth people believe.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

      And no one embodies this more than Trump.<\/p>\n

      Roy Cohn\u2019s third golden rule was simple but incredibly effective: No matter what happens, always claim victory.<\/p>\n

      Even when you lose.<\/p>\n

      Even when the facts say otherwise.<\/p>\n

      Because here\u2019s the secret: People don\u2019t remember details. They remember the story. And the story that wins is the one told with the most conviction.<\/p>\n

      Trump understands this better than almost anyone alive.<\/p>\n

      He doesn\u2019t just claim victory\u2014he does it with so much confidence that people start questioning reality itself.<\/p>\n

      The 2020 election: The biggest \u201cvictory\u201d that never happened<\/h3>\n

      Let\u2019s take a step back to the 2020 election.<\/p>\n

      By every possible metric\u2014legal, statistical, factual\u2014Trump lost.<\/p>\n

      The courts ruled against him. Recounts confirmed the results. Every piece of credible evidence pointed to the same conclusion: Joe Biden won.<\/p>\n

      But Trump never conceded.<\/p>\n

      Instead, he reframed the loss as a fraudulent victory.<\/p>\n

      He planted the idea that the election was stolen<\/em>, and once that narrative took hold, no amount of evidence could shake it. And here\u2019s what\u2019s absolutely mind-blowing\u2014millions still believe it.<\/p>\n

      Not because the claim was supported by facts. But because it was delivered with conviction.<\/p>\n

      This is why Trump is still the dominant force in Republican politics today. Because he never allowed himself to be seen as a loser. In the world of influence and personal branding, losing is often worse than being wrong. And Trump knows that.<\/p>\n

      The bankruptcy \u201cwins\u201d<\/h3>\n

      The 2020 election wasn\u2019t the first time Trump rewrote history in real-time. In the 1990s, his business empire was crumbling.<\/p>\n