{"id":10633,"date":"2025-05-06T05:37:38","date_gmt":"2025-05-06T09:37:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/how-cant-and-wont-shape-your-life-frank-sonnenberg\/"},"modified":"2025-05-06T05:37:38","modified_gmt":"2025-05-06T09:37:38","slug":"how-cant-and-wont-shape-your-life-frank-sonnenberg","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/how-cant-and-wont-shape-your-life-frank-sonnenberg\/","title":{"rendered":"How \u201cCan\u2019t\u201d and \u201cWon\u2019t\u201d Shape Your Life \u2014 Frank Sonnenberg"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>Ever wonder why some people say <em>can\u2019t <\/em>while others say <em>won\u2019t<\/em>? One reflects a limitation beyond your control, while the other reveals an attitude and a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/mediocre-behavior-is-a-choice\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">choice<\/a>. Despite this difference, both often yield the same result: a failure to achieve a goal or complete a task. Understanding the distinction could reshape how you see challenges \u2014 and how you face them. But the impact goes further.<\/p>\n<p>Your attitude not only shapes your self-esteem but also your relationships and career success. As motivational speaker Zig Ziglar said, \u201cA bad attitude is like a flat tire. You can\u2019t go anywhere until you change it.\u201d What does your attitude say about you?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>Can\u2019t <\/em>shows what you\u2019re unable to do; <em>won\u2019t<\/em> reveals what you refuse to do.<\/p>\n<h3>Do You Need an Attitude Makeover?<\/h3>\n<p>People may overlook your limitations, but a bad attitude is harder to excuse because it\u2019s always a choice. Which of these describe you best?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Do you consider what others need or do you only care about\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/are-you-selfless-or-selfish\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>your <\/em>needs<\/a>?<\/li>\n<li>Are you willing to do menial tasks or do you consider them beneath your status?<\/li>\n<li>Do you pull your own weight or rely on others to make up any shortfall?<\/li>\n<li>Do you take on tasks beyond your job description or do you say, \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/do-you-say-its-not-my-job\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">It\u2019s not my job<\/a>\u201d?<\/li>\n<li>Do you take the time to double-check your work or do you submit it prematurely?<\/li>\n<li>Do you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/its-easier-to-criticize-than-to-contribute\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">criticize<\/a> others regularly but rarely find fault with yourself?<\/li>\n<li>Do you embrace change or do you stick to a \u201cwe\u2019ve always done it this way\u201d mind-set?<\/li>\n<li>Do you focus on providing maximum value or do you play politics and undermine others to get ahead?<\/li>\n<li>Do you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/do-you-do-your-best-or-just-enough-to-get-by\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">do your best<\/a> or just the minimum it takes to get by?<\/li>\n<li>Do you work hard to earn your rewards or do you believe you\u2019re entitled to them?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>Choices Have Consequences<\/h3>\n<p>If you\u2019re like most people, you seek recognition, respect, and a strong sense of self-worth. However, these qualities aren\u2019t given freely \u2014 they\u2019re earned. While others may overlook limitations beyond your control, a poor attitude is difficult to ignore. No matter how talented you are, negativity and lack of effort can overshadow your abilities. In fact, don\u2019t be surprised if colleagues call you out, if you\u2019re passed over for promotions, or if you lose confidence in yourself. If you\u2019re unwilling to make the effort, you forfeit the right to complain about the outcome.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>Can\u2019t<\/em> reveals limitations, while <em>won\u2019t<\/em> reflects a choice.<\/p>\n<p>The next time you face a choice between being <a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/the-power-of-a-positive-attitude\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">positive<\/a> or negative, proactive or reactive, enthusiastic or indifferent, give it some thought. As the legendary coach Lou Holtz said, \u201cAbility is what you\u2019re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.\u201d Attitude is everything!<\/p>\n<h3>Is Won\u2019t In Your Vocabulary?<\/h3>\n<p><strong><b>Please leave a\u00a0comment\u00a0and tell us what you think or\u00a0share it with someone who can benefit from the\u00a0information.<\/b><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Additional Reading:<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/mental-barriers-whats-holding-you-back\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Mental Barriers: What\u2019s Holding You Back?<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/if-you-believe-you-cant-you-wont\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">If You Believe You Can\u2019t, You Won\u2019t<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/where-does-confidence-come-from\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Where Does Confidence Come From?<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/do-you-have-a-victim-mentality\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Do You Have a Victim Mentality?<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/great-things-start-with-great-expectations\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Great Things Start With Great Expectations<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/posters\/15-signs-that-you-need-an-attitude-adjustment\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">15 Signs That You Need An Attitude Adjustment<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/is-self-reliance-more-than-a-buzzword\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Is Self-Reliance More Than a Buzzword?<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.franksonnenbergonline.com\/blog\/do-you-have-a-healthy-mindset\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Do You Have a Healthy Mindset?<\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #808080;\">If you like this article, subscribe to our blog so that you don\u2019t miss a single post. 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