{"id":11444,"date":"2025-08-29T18:08:04","date_gmt":"2025-08-29T22:08:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/poet-jane-kenyon-on-the-art-of-letting-go-the-marginalian\/"},"modified":"2025-08-29T18:08:04","modified_gmt":"2025-08-29T22:08:04","slug":"poet-jane-kenyon-on-the-art-of-letting-go-the-marginalian","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/poet-jane-kenyon-on-the-art-of-letting-go-the-marginalian\/","title":{"rendered":"Poet Jane Kenyon on the Art of Letting Go \u2013 The Marginalian"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Collected-Poems-Jane-Kenyon\/dp\/1555974783\/?tag=braipick-20\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"320\" height=\"482\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/janekenyon_collectedpoems.jpg?fit=320%2C482&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"cover alignright size-medium\" alt=\"A Heron, a Red Leaf, and a Hole in a Blue Star: Poet Jane Kenyon on the Art of Letting Go\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/janekenyon_collectedpoems.jpg?w=995&amp;ssl=1 995w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/janekenyon_collectedpoems.jpg?resize=320%2C482&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/janekenyon_collectedpoems.jpg?resize=600%2C905&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/janekenyon_collectedpoems.jpg?resize=240%2C362&amp;ssl=1 240w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/janekenyon_collectedpoems.jpg?resize=768%2C1158&amp;ssl=1 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 320px) 100vw, 320px\"\/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>The vital force of life is charged by the poles of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2025\/07\/25\/urns\/\">holding on and letting go<\/a>. We know that the price of love is loss, and yet we <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2024\/03\/22\/love-anyway\/\">love anyway<\/a>; that our atoms will one day <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2022\/01\/10\/alan-lightman-death\/\">belong to generations of other living creatures<\/a> who too will die in turn, and yet we press them hard against the body of the world, against each other\u2019s bodies, against the canvas and the keyboard and the cambium of life. <\/p>\n<p>This is the cruel contract of all experience, of aliveness itself \u2014 that in order to have it, we must agree to let it go. <\/p>\n<p>Poet <strong>Jane Kenyon<\/strong> (May 23, 1947\u2013April 22, 1995) offers a splendid consolation for signing it in her poem \u201cThings,\u201d found in her altogether soul-slaking <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Collected-Poems-Jane-Kenyon\/dp\/1555974783\/?tag=braipick-20\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong><em>Collected Poems<\/em><\/strong><\/a> (<a href=\"https:\/\/search.worldcat.org\/title\/62716147\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>public library<\/em><\/a>).<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"&quot;Things&quot; by Jane Kenyon (read by Maria Popova)\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/GUh308D4DQA?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><strong>THINGS<\/strong><br \/><em>by Jane Kenyon<\/em><\/p>\n<p>The hen flings a single pebble aside<br \/>with her yellow, reptilian foot.<br \/>Never in eternity the same sound \u2014<br \/>a small stone falling on a red leaf.<\/p>\n<p>The juncture of twig and branch,<br \/>scarred with lichen, is a gate<br \/>we might enter, singing.<\/p>\n<p>The mouse pulls batting<br \/>from a hundred-year-old quilt.<br \/>She chewed a hole in a blue star<br \/>to get it, and now she thrives\u2026.<br \/>Now is her time to thrive.<\/p>\n<p>Things: simply lasting, then<br \/>failing to last: water, a blue heron\u2019s<br \/>eye, and the light passing<br \/>between them: into light all things<br \/>must fall, glad at last to have fallen.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Shortly before leukemia claimed her life at only forty-seven, Kenyon captured the miraculousness of the light having passed through us at all \u2014 which contours <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2021\/07\/25\/richard-dawkins-death\/\">the luckiness of death<\/a> \u2014 in a haunting poem that puts any complaint, any lament, any argument with life into perspective: <\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><strong>OTHERWISE<\/strong><br \/><em>by Jane Kenyon<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I got out of bed<br \/>on two strong legs.<br \/>It might have been<br \/>otherwise. I ate<br \/>cereal, sweet<br \/>milk, ripe, flawless<br \/>peach. It might<br \/>have been otherwise.<br \/>I took the dog uphill<br \/>to the birch wood.<br \/>All morning I did<br \/>the work I love.<br \/>At noon I lay down<br \/>with my mate. It might<br \/>have been otherwise.<br \/>We ate dinner together<br \/>at a table with silver<br \/>candlesticks. It might<br \/>have been otherwise.<br \/>I slept in a bed<br \/>in a room with paintings<br \/>on the walls, and<br \/>planned another day<br \/>just like this day.<br \/>But one day, I know,<br \/>it will be otherwise.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Couple with Kenyon\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2015\/09\/15\/jane-kenyon-advice-on-writing\/\">immortal advice on writing and life<\/a>, then revisit poet Donald Hall \u2014 her mate \u2014 on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2022\/07\/13\/donald-hall-the-third-thing\/\">the secret of lasting love<\/a> and Pico Iyer on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2019\/10\/11\/autumn-light-pico-iyer\/\">finding beauty in impermanence and luminosity in loss<\/a>. <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The vital force of life is charged by the poles of holding on and letting go. 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