{"id":1156,"date":"2023-02-11T06:20:15","date_gmt":"2023-02-11T10:20:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/3-simple-steps-to-rewire-your-brain-to-create-the-life-you-want\/"},"modified":"2023-02-11T06:20:15","modified_gmt":"2023-02-11T10:20:15","slug":"3-simple-steps-to-rewire-your-brain-to-create-the-life-you-want","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/3-simple-steps-to-rewire-your-brain-to-create-the-life-you-want\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Simple Steps to Rewire Your Brain to Create the Life You Want"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Humans are hardwired to avoid and escape pain<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

As such, we seek the fastest, most efficient route to avoid and escape.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We seek short-term fixes in lieu of long-term solutions and inner peace.<\/span><\/p>\n

When our lives are unfulfilling, when we know we\u2019re not filling our full potential, when we ask, <\/span>\u201cIs this all there is?\u201d<\/span><\/i> or \u201c<\/span>Aren\u2019t I meant for more?\u201d<\/span><\/i>, we\u2019re experiencing pain.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Our soul\u2019s deepest desire is to create meaning; it\u2019s intrinsic to us.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

One of the ways we create meaning is to pursue our life\u2019s calling, fueled by our mission.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I delineate the two as:<\/span><\/p>\n

A Life\u2019s Calling is the task (writing, speaking, teaching, composing, sculpting, etc.).<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

The mission is the why (serving something more significant than ourselves).<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Combined, they are the energy that shoots us out of bed each morning and that we\u2019re willing to put it all on the line for.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The pain we experience, the angst, the frustration, the disillusionment, the sense of betrayal (I did all the things I was supposed to do, WTF?), and the emptiness are products of not having a calling and mission or having a calling and mission \u2013 but being paralyzed by fear and unable to take action.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Because our life\u2019s calling<\/a>, the reason we\u2019re here is terrifying.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It flies in the face of how our brains are wired. Our brains don\u2019t give a crap about purpose, meaning, and fulfillment.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

They care about keeping us alive and do a damn good job of it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Unfortunately, this is to the detriment of our souls and the overall quality of our lives.<\/span><\/p>\n

So we chase short-term fixes, which are nothing more than short-term escapes:<\/span><\/p>\n

We escape through the superficiality of social media, alcohol, drugs, affairs, porn, and binging on Netflix.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Something, anything, so we don\u2019t have to confront the one person we can\u2019t run from, the one person we can\u2019t escape \u2013 but we try our damndest to escape:<\/span><\/p>\n

Ourselves.<\/span><\/p>\n

Because no matter how fast we run, we will never outrun ourselves.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Here are 3 reasons why:<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. The short-term high from the short-term escape is, guess what? Short-term.\u00a0<\/b>When the high fades, when the escape fails, we\u2019ll find ourselves facing ourselves and the truth we don\u2019t want to confront, and we\u2019re back to the chase.\u00a0<\/span>It\u2019s the Golden Treadmill of endless escapism.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
  2. Every short-term escape creates long-term, painful consequences.\u00a0<\/b>Think that scrolling social media is innocuous and harmless? When we waste our precious time scrolling, we will never be grateful we did when it\u2019s time to breathe our last breath.\u00a0<\/span>We will die with regret.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. When we habitually attempt to escape our reality and ourselves through the superficial, <\/span>we ignore the deepest expression of ourselves.\u00a0<\/b>We\u2019re living out of alignment.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    We create a gap between who we are and who we know we want to be.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    The more significant the gap, the greater the need to escape.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    So the questions become:<\/span><\/p>\n