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This photo was taken about ten minutes after Paul McKenna<\/a> <\/strong>and I walked off stage at Mindvalley U.<\/p>\n

1,500 people in the room. And Paul did what I\u2019ve watched him do for two decades now: he brought people up, live, no preparation, no screening, and demonstrated hypnotherapy on them in front of everyone.\u00a0<\/p>\n

People who walked up carrying something heavy walked back to their seats lighter. You could see it in how they moved.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been around transformation my whole adult life. I still don\u2019t fully understand how he does it. But I\u2019ve stopped needing to, because I\u2019ve felt it.<\/p>\n

Paul is one of my dearest friends, and his techniques have helped me and countless people I\u2019ve put in front of him in ways that made me a believer long before we ever worked together.<\/p>\n

And here\u2019s the thing he taught me about confidence that I\u2019ve never forgotten, because it\u2019s completely backwards from what everyone assumes.<\/p>\n

Ever notice the loud person in a room?\u00a0<\/p>\n

The one telling you within four minutes how much they made, who they know, where they just flew in from.<\/p>\n

Paul says that\u2019s usually the least confident person in the room. That\u2019s a performance. A front. An insurance policy against being ordinary.<\/p>\n

Truly confident people don\u2019t perform. They\u2019re comfortable in their own skin. They\u2019re the calm ones, because they\u2019re not spending every ounce of energy managing how they\u2019re coming across.<\/p>\n

Which means confidence isn\u2019t something you add. It\u2019s what\u2019s left when you stop adding things.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Paul told me about a radio broadcaster he met, who\u2019d read his book on confidence twenty years earlier.\u00a0<\/p>\n

The man had a savage voice in his head: you\u2019ll fail, don\u2019t bother, not you.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

He changed that one internal dialogue.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Then he asked out a girl at the station he\u2019d never had the courage to approach.<\/p>\n

Paul asked what happened, and he said: \u201cWe\u2019ve been married for fifteen years.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

One sentence in his head rewired, and he got 15 years of a life he almost didn\u2019t have.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s what programming does.\u00a0<\/p>\n

And I believe most of us are walking around with programming we never chose, running underneath the level where willpower operates, which is exactly why trying harder hasn\u2019t worked.<\/p>\n

Paul works underneath that level.\u00a0<\/p>\n

And this Sunday, once a year, Paul comes LIVE to reprogram the subconscious with our whole community.<\/p>\n

The Paul McKenna Experience: LIVE on Sunday, August 9<\/strong><\/p>\n

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