{"id":1735,"date":"2023-03-23T03:31:18","date_gmt":"2023-03-23T07:31:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/how-to-build-self-esteem-jack-canfield\/"},"modified":"2023-03-23T03:31:18","modified_gmt":"2023-03-23T07:31:18","slug":"how-to-build-self-esteem-jack-canfield","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/how-to-build-self-esteem-jack-canfield\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Build Self-Esteem | Jack Canfield"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p><em>\u201cWhether you think you can or you think you can\u2019t, you\u2019re right.\u201d \u2013 Henry Ford<\/em><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">Your self-esteem plays a huge role in determining the amount of success you achieve in life. That\u2019s why it\u2019s so important to know <\/span><b>how to build self-esteem<\/b><span style=\"font-weight:400;\"> and develop unshakeable confidence in your ability to survive life\u2019s ups and downs and achieve your goals and dreams.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">When you have faith in your ability to succeed, the obstacles you encounter won\u2019t stop you from achieving your dreams. They won\u2019t lead to negative thinking or cause you to view them as \u201cproof\u201d you\u2019re not meant to make it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">Instead, you\u2019ll be able to shake off your setbacks with ease and see them as valuable learning opportunities that give you important information you need to succeed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">Not only that \u2013 your healthy self-esteem and confidence will make it easier for you to attract the resources and people you need to do so!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">There\u2019s no better time than now to cultivate higher self-esteem and confidence \u2013 so you can launch into the months ahead equipped with the unstoppable mindset you need to achieve great things.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">Let\u2019s get started!\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>What is Self-Esteem?<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"5 Self-Love Tips to Boost Your Self-Esteem | Jack Canfield\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/UPXG5Jyior8?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">Self-esteem is your belief in your inherent worth as a human being. People with good self-esteem and<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/jackcanfield.com\/blog\/self-confidence\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight:400;\">self-confidence<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight:400;\"> have a positive sense of who they are and what they\u2019re capable of achieving.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">They embrace challenging and difficult situations as opportunities for growth, tend to have a higher level of self-compassion and compassion for others and find it easier to build positive relationships with the people in their lives.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">People with low self-esteem, on the other hand, tend to be overly self-critical and often neglect their emotional health and mental and physical well-being.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">They struggle to find confidence and are constantly comparing themselves to others, which makes them feel bad and leads to higher levels of stress, depression, and anxiety.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>Main Causes of Low-Self Esteem<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">Every day we are bombarded by negative messages that can lead to poor self-esteem and impact our mental health.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">TV, movies, and social media perpetuate a beauty standard that is nearly impossible for most regular people to attain.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">Our parents \u2013 imperfect people as we all are \u2013 plant ideas in our heads about what we \u201ccan\u201d and \u201ccannot\u201d do. (Raise your hand if the \u201cinner critic\u201d in your head often sounds like your mother or father!)<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">And modern society with its ideas of who should be considered \u201cworthy\u201d and \u201cpowerful\u201d grossly twists our understanding of who we need to become to be considered a valued member of society.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">The good news is, once you become aware of the signs and impacts of low self-esteem, it becomes so much easier for you to improve your self-esteem \u2013 and do the mental well-being work necessary to free yourself from their hold over you and feel confident in your ability to create the life you want!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>Recognizing the Signs of Low Self-Esteem<\/b><\/h2>\n<h3><b>Negative Self-Talk<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">You know you have an issue with low self-esteem if you often find yourself having negative thoughts like, \u201cI\u2019m so stupid\/weak\/lazy\/careless\/untrustworthy,\u201d or if your immediate response when hearing about an opportunity for growth is, \u201cI can\u2019t do it! There\u2019s no way I\u2019ll ever succeed.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>Self-Doubt and Fear of Failure<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">Another sign of low esteem is shying away from new and unfamiliar experiences and refusing to take any sort of risk because you are convinced you\u2019ll perform poorly and things will end badly for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>Difficulty Accepting Compliments<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">When someone gives you a compliment, what is your automatic reaction? Do you say thank you \u2013 or do you try to negate or diminish it by pointing out all of the ways in which the compliment giver is mistaken?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">If your default setting is disbelieving compliments and doubting your ability to succeed in either your professional or personal life, congratulations! You have low self-esteem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">You\u2019re certainly not alone if so\u2026 Most people struggle with poor self-esteem issues. The good news is, there are simple steps you can take today to <\/span><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">improve your self-esteem<\/span><span style=\"font-weight:400;\"> and feel confident in your ability to accomplish your goals and thrive.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>8 Ways to Boost Your Self-Esteem<\/b><\/h2>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-weight:400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Identify Negative Beliefs Around You<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">Spending a lot of time around negative people whose comments and beliefs encourage you to think badly about yourself and the world around you will have a damaging impact on your self-esteem and mental health.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">Remember that you can\u2019t change what other people say or do, or the events that happen in your life. But you CAN change how you react to them!<\/span><span style=\"font-weight:400;\"><br \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">That\u2019s why I encourage you to avoid negative people and places that darken your outlook and cause you to think negative thoughts. The universe responds to the energy you put out into the world \u2013 so if you are sending out negative vibes, you will attract negative people, experiences, and energy in return.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-weight:400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Use the Power of Positive Thinking<\/b><b><br \/><\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">A positive mindset isn\u2019t something you\u2019re born with \u2013 it\u2019s something you can consciously cultivate. This is important to know if you struggle with low self-esteem and want to improve your mental health!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">Positive affirmations are a great tool to improve self-esteem and self-worth. They\u2019re a powerful way to overcome negative thinking or any other low self-esteem issues you might be struggling with.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">So, what is a positive affirmation? Simply put, it\u2019s a statement that you repeat to yourself several times a day to activate your subconscious mind to assist in creating the reality you want to experience.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">For example, if you want to visualize yourself as a person who is capable of achieving your goals, you say something like, \u201cI am so happy and grateful that I have [achieved this goal] and am [having this experience].\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">After only a few days, you will begin to believe what you are telling yourself and will cultivate the high self-esteem you need to make your affirmations a reality!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-weight:400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Challenge Yourself<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">The best way to convince yourself that you are capable of achieving success is to actually achieve it! In other words, set doable goals for yourself and then accomplish those goals.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">It\u2019s okay to start small and work your way up to bigger goals. The important thing is for you to say \u201cI am going to do this thing,\u201d and then <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">DO that thing<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight:400;\"> so you can see yourself as someone who commits to a goal and then achieves it!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">When you successfully take on new risks, you will become a more confident person and will be inspired to take on even BIGGER risks. And the bigger the risk, the bigger the reward you will experience! This is another incredibly powerful tool for building self-esteem.<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-weight:400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Take Care of Your Well-Being<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">When you feel good in your mind, body, and spirit, it\u2019s much easier to feel positive about yourself and your capacity to achieve your goals in life. That\u2019s why it\u2019s so important to take good care of yourself!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">This means getting enough sleep so you have the mental sharpness to make good decisions and the energy to get stuff done. It also means eating right and getting enough physical activity to keep your body healthy and strong \u2013 and doing what you need to do to feel spiritually connected to others and the world around you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">All of these things will increase your self-esteem and sense of self-worth so you are able to <a href=\"https:\/\/jackcanfield.com\/blog\/how-to-believe-in-yourself\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">believe in your ability<\/a> to achieve anything you can imagine.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-weight:400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Develop Positive Habits and Routines<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">Positivity is the antidote for negativity! If you want to build your self-esteem, focus more time and energy on things that make you feel good about yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">Set an alarm and get up at the time you set for yourself. Go for walks or engage in some other form of physical exercise several days a week. Make your bed every day. Do yoga or some other form of stretching. Commit yourself to taking five concrete actions toward achieving your goals in life \u2013 and then hold yourself accountable for taking those actions!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">That\u2019s how you improve self-esteem and replace your negative thoughts with positive ones: by proving to yourself that YOU are someone who takes action and gets results.<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-weight:400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>It\u2019s Okay to Say \u2018No\u2019<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">One of the reasons we suffer from low self-esteem is that we overcommit ourselves and then fail to complete the tasks and responsibilities we offered to take on, simply because we couldn\u2019t say \u201cno.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">But the fact is, NO ONE is capable of \u201cdoing it all.\u201d And taking on more than you can handle is a surefire way to feel overburdened, resentful, angry, and depressed.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight:400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight:400;\"> So don\u2019t be afraid to say \u201cno!\u201d Your first responsibility is to yourself and your mental health.<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-weight:400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Surround Yourself with Positive People<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">If you find yourself spending a lot of time with people who are constantly negative or don\u2019t support your dreams and vision, find new people to hang out with!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">This means online as well as off. Look for people who have an optimistic outlook and are motivated to make an impact on the world. They will inspire you to feel better about yourself and the world around you and look for ways you can show up in a more impactful way as well!<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-weight:400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Acknowledge Your Success<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">We, humans, tend to obsess over our mistakes and forget about all of the incredible things we achieve, experience, and survive in our lives.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">But if you\u2019re wanting to grow your self-esteem and improve your mental health, it\u2019s critical that you take time regularly to review and acknowledge all of your past successes.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">When you remember everything you\u2019ve accomplished and endured, it allows you to see yourself as someone who is capable of achieving big things and increases your willingness to take on new challenges. And that, in turn, will boost your self-confidence and sense of self-worth. <\/span><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img width=\"1080\" height=\"1080\" alt=\"Take on New Challenge\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cdn-fjlpd.nitrocdn.com\/qNLDYhMdoYzQyKYAhBzBEJiGniyfTRXZ\/assets\/images\/optimized\/rev-ef5660d\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/H3-Take-on-New-Challenges-.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/cdn-fjlpd.nitrocdn.com\/qNLDYhMdoYzQyKYAhBzBEJiGniyfTRXZ\/assets\/images\/optimized\/rev-ef5660d\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/H3-Take-on-New-Challenges--768x768.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" nitro-lazy-srcset=\"https:\/\/cdn-fjlpd.nitrocdn.com\/qNLDYhMdoYzQyKYAhBzBEJiGniyfTRXZ\/assets\/images\/optimized\/rev-ef5660d\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/H3-Take-on-New-Challenges-.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/cdn-fjlpd.nitrocdn.com\/qNLDYhMdoYzQyKYAhBzBEJiGniyfTRXZ\/assets\/images\/optimized\/rev-ef5660d\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/H3-Take-on-New-Challenges--768x768.jpg 768w\" nitro-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/cdn-fjlpd.nitrocdn.com\/qNLDYhMdoYzQyKYAhBzBEJiGniyfTRXZ\/assets\/images\/optimized\/rev-ef5660d\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/H3-Take-on-New-Challenges-.jpg\" class=\"wp-image-29271 nitro-lazy\" decoding=\"async\" nitro-lazy-empty=\"\" id=\"MjcyOjU3OQ==-1\"\/><\/figure>\n<h2><b>Boost Your Self-Esteem in the Months Ahead<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">What do you want the months ahead to look like for you? What are you hoping to accomplish? And do you have an unshakeable belief in your ability to achieve those goals?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">If your answer to that last question isn\u2019t an unequivocal \u201cyes!\u201d I strongly encourage you to focus on cultivating self-esteem and growing your belief in yourself. It\u2019s only when you believe that you are capable of achieving your goals that you will ACTUALLY become capable of achieving them!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">The good news is, I\u2019m here to help!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">My <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/jackcanfield.com\/success\/op\/positive-thinking-guide.html\"><span style=\"font-weight:400;\">free Positive Thinking Guide<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight:400;\"> is designed to help you grow your self-esteem and train your brain to believe in your ability to accomplish anything you set your mind to.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cWhether you think you can or you think you can\u2019t, you\u2019re right.\u201d \u2013 Henry Ford Your self-esteem plays a huge role in determining the amount [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1736,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[15],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1735","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-success"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1735","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1735"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1735\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1736"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1735"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1735"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1735"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}