{"id":1840,"date":"2023-03-30T09:14:18","date_gmt":"2023-03-30T13:14:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/narcissistic-projection-and-how-to-deal-with-it-with-examples\/"},"modified":"2023-03-30T09:14:18","modified_gmt":"2023-03-30T13:14:18","slug":"narcissistic-projection-and-how-to-deal-with-it-with-examples","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/narcissistic-projection-and-how-to-deal-with-it-with-examples\/","title":{"rendered":"Narcissistic Projection and How To Deal With It (With Examples)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div itemprop=\"text\">\n<p>At some point, you\u2019ll likely collide with a narcissist.<\/p>\n<p>It could be a family member, friend, or colleague \u2014 and they\u2019ll drive you batty.<\/p>\n<p>But narcissists are much easier to handle if you know what you\u2019re working with.<\/p>\n<p>To that end, today, we\u2019re breaking down signs a narcissist is projecting \u2014 a common defense mechanism of the uber-egotistical.<\/p>\n<p>We\u2019ll unpack why it happens, provide a few common examples, and end with ideas on how to deal with it.<\/p>\n<p>So if you\u2019re ready to regain the upper mental hand, keep reading.<\/p>\n<p><span id=\"more-116819\"\/><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"0-what-is-narcissistic-projection-\">What is Narcissistic Projection?\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p>Projection is one of the narcissist\u2019s favorite battle weapons. <\/p>\n<p>So what is it? How does it work?<\/p>\n<p>Ultimately, projection is a defensive mechanism people deploy when faced with something about themselves they don\u2019t want to acknowledge. <\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s a way of externalizing and brushing an issue under the proverbial carpet.<\/p>\n<p>To be fair, we all project insecurities and fears. It\u2019s a human emotional instinct embedded in our survival DNA. Everyday examples include:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Assuming someone can do something because you can<\/li>\n<li>Saying someone doesn\u2019t like you because, deep down, you don\u2019t like them<\/li>\n<li>Judging someone as \u201cstuck up\u201d because they didn\u2019t pay as much attention to you as you\u2019d like<\/li>\n<li>Chastising someone for their makeup or fashion sense because you\u2019re secretly insecure about your aesthetic\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>But narcissists take things to an unbearable level. Moreover, they\u2019re typically incapable of recognizing their poor behavior. <\/p>\n<p>For them, every little criticism or disagreement is an opportunity to gaslight and <a href=\"https:\/\/kimsaeed.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">pelt projection<\/a> at the person who triggered their insecurity.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>In most instances, narcissists whip out their defensive shields when faced with feelings of jealousy, loss of control, fear, and inferiority.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Ultimately, being targeted by people with narcissistic personality styles can erode your mental health. <\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, you may internalize their projection and grow to believe they\u2019re right.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"1-6-ways-narcissists-use-projection-with-examples\">6 Ways Narcissists Use Projection With Examples<\/h2>\n<p>We\u2019ve discussed projecting behavior and why it\u2019s a default gear for egomaniacs.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Now, let\u2019s unpack a few narcissistic projection examples to give you a peek inside the minds of delusionally conceited people.<\/p>\n<h3 id=\"2-1-media-mayhem\">1. Media Mayhem<\/h3>\n<p>Narcissists see their personal judgments and opinions as facts, and sometimes it reaches a point where they can\u2019t handle when others disagree with their views on subjective matters.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>For example, it\u2019s not unusual for someone with these entrenched personality traits to grow unnecessarily upset if someone doesn\u2019t agree with them about a song, movie, or show.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"couple talking on sofa woman is upset Narcissistic Projection\" class=\"wp-image-116823\" width=\"656\" height=\"460\" srcset=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d3-a-little-bit-of-body-text.jpeg 875w, https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d3-a-little-bit-of-body-text-300x210.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d3-a-little-bit-of-body-text-768x538.jpeg 768w\" data-lazy-sizes=\"(max-width: 656px) 100vw, 656px\" src=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d3-a-little-bit-of-body-text.jpeg\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d3-a-little-bit-of-body-text.jpeg\" alt=\"couple talking on sofa woman is upset Narcissistic Projection\" class=\"wp-image-116823\" width=\"656\" height=\"460\" srcset=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d3-a-little-bit-of-body-text.jpeg 875w, https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d3-a-little-bit-of-body-text-300x210.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d3-a-little-bit-of-body-text-768x538.jpeg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 656px) 100vw, 656px\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p>When you disagree with their assessments, all of a sudden, it\u2019s pursed lips, a huffed and dismissive sigh, followed by something along the lines of, \u201cI guess it\u2019s just one of those things that\u2019s only appealing to people who appreciate dry wit\u201d or \u201cI cannot believe you don\u2019t like it! I guess you just don\u2019t \u2018get it.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Since they can\u2019t handle a minor difference of artistic opinion, narcissists feel the need to passive-aggressively crawl their way back to a place of dominance (in their mind\u2019s eye).\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3 id=\"3-2-professional-peril\">2. Professional Peril<\/h3>\n<p>Heaven help you if the narcissist in your life is a colleague, family member, or friend with similar professional aspirations. Some might even argue that having a genuinely caring relationship is impossible under such circumstances.<\/p>\n<p>Because they cannot handle coming in second, and they have mini nervous breakdowns whenever they feel threatened professionally \u2014 even when there\u2019s no reason to be.<\/p>\n<p>Take, for example, the tale of Tina and Robin. Tina was a technical writer, and Robin was a playwright \u2014 two tracks at polar-opposite ends of the authoring spectrum. Yet, whenever Tina got a promotion or landed a new client, Robin would slap backhand barbs at her \u201cfriend\u201d like, \u201cyou are the luckiest person in the world; I don\u2019t know how you keep finding work!?\u201d<\/p>\n<h3 id=\"4-3-fashion-faux-pas\">3. Fashion Faux Pas<\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/03\/emotional-abuse\/narcissistic-mirroring\">Narcissists see themselves<\/a> as fashionistas. In their heads, they\u2019re the trendsetters, not the followers.<\/p>\n<p>So when a person with deep NPD tendencies feels like someone\u2019s look is a little too similar to their own, they may flip out and start accusing their fashion twin of \u201cstealing\u201d their style.<\/p>\n<p>In these cases, if you want to keep the peace, don\u2019t point out they\u2019re not the only person who dresses a certain way. They\u2019ll snip at you and start nitpicking your wardrobe to regain a sense of sartorial dominance.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"couple talking on sofa Narcissistic Projection\" class=\"wp-image-116824\" width=\"656\" height=\"460\" srcset=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d-a-l3ittle-bit-of-body-text.jpeg 875w, https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d-a-l3ittle-bit-of-body-text-300x210.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d-a-l3ittle-bit-of-body-text-768x538.jpeg 768w\" data-lazy-sizes=\"(max-width: 656px) 100vw, 656px\" src=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d-a-l3ittle-bit-of-body-text.jpeg\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d-a-l3ittle-bit-of-body-text.jpeg\" alt=\"couple talking on sofa Narcissistic Projection\" class=\"wp-image-116824\" width=\"656\" height=\"460\" srcset=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d-a-l3ittle-bit-of-body-text.jpeg 875w, https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d-a-l3ittle-bit-of-body-text-300x210.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/DELEAd2d-a-l3ittle-bit-of-body-text-768x538.jpeg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 656px) 100vw, 656px\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p>The story of Emily and Madison is a prime example of this type of narcissistic tantrum. Emily is a content creator working to build her brand. So she hired a stylist and photographer for a shoot. <\/p>\n<p>When Madison saw the pictures, she was immediately upset and said, \u201cWhy did you pick my style for this project!? Why are you copying my style!?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>When Emily explained the stylist made the wardrobe choices, Madison continued to accuse her friend of being uncreative and derivative.<\/p>\n<h3 id=\"5-4-psychological-hot-potato\">4. Psychological Hot Potato<\/h3>\n<p>What happens when you ask a therapist specializing in narcissistic personality disorder how to tell someone with NPD that they\u2019re self-centered? <\/p>\n<p>They\u2019ll advise you not to even try.<\/p>\n<p>Why?<\/p>\n<p>Because 9.9 times out of 10, the narcissists will immediately try to flip the script and aggressively insist you\u2019re the one who needs to find a counselor\u2019s couch ASAP.<\/p>\n<p>In these instances, they\u2019ll typically try to give themselves a measure of plausible deniability by saying something like, \u201cI\u2019m your friend, I care about you, and I really think you should find someone to talk to. <\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t look good, and you\u2019re acting unreasonable.\u201d Narcissists will also throw around comments like, \u201cWhat\u2019s wrong with you!?\u201d and \u201cYou need help!\u201d<\/p>\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n<p><strong>More Related Articles<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/03\/emotional-abuse\/narcissistic-mirroring\">Everything You Should Know About Narcissistic Mirroring and How It Impacts You<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/03\/relationships\/stop-overthinking-infidelity\">You\u2019ve Been Cheated On and Can\u2019t Stop Thinking About It: 17 Ways to Stop Overthinking It<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/03\/relationships\/married-man-using\">17 Hard-To-Admit Signs a Married Man Is Using You<\/a><\/p>\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n<h3 id=\"6-5-intelligence-invasion\">5. Intelligence Invasion<\/h3>\n<p>Don\u2019t underestimate a narcissist\u2019s capacity to believe their own intellectual hype.<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019re the folks who lie about their IQ, and they genuinely don\u2019t understand when they\u2019re not hired for a position or picked for an award.<\/p>\n<p>When their intellectual prowess is challenged, they will immediately belittle the person who made them feel \u201cless than.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/10\/emotional-abuse\/vulnerable-narcissist\">Vulnerable narcissists<\/a> will typically take a passive-aggressive route and say something like, \u201cWell, we all couldn\u2019t have tutors like you\u201d or \u201cyou\u2019re so lucky you\u2019re part of a group that\u2019s given entitlements.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/08\/emotional-abuse\/malignant-narcissist\">Malignant and dominant narcissists<\/a> will be more direct and shoot off blunt comments like, \u201cWell, the higher-ups are afraid of my intelligence; that\u2019s why I didn\u2019t get the position,\u201d or \u201cit\u2019s amazing how mediocrity is rewarded these days.\u201d<\/p>\n<h3 id=\"7-6-jealousy-jubilee\">6. Jealousy Jubilee<\/h3>\n<p>Envy is the narcissist\u2019s touchstone. When it arises, they cannot control themselves and will immediately spiral into a pit of jealousy when confronted with a situation that makes them feel inferior.<\/p>\n<p>Anything can trigger them. If you get a used car that\u2019s newer than theirs, they\u2019ll comment about how it has a horrible safety rating. If you work hard and save money to buy a home, they\u2019ll assume someone gave you a chunk of money.<\/p>\n<p>Then, when you invite them over for a housewarming party, they\u2019ll spend the whole time dolling out backhanded \u201ccompliments\u201d and nitpicking every tiny flaw.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Furthermore, people with NPD tendencies cannot genuinely feel happy for others\u2019 wins when they don\u2019t somehow benefit from it. In extreme situations, they may even start telling people you made fun of them for not having the object of their desire.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"8-how-to-deal-with-narcissistic-projection-\">How to Deal with Narcissistic Projection\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p>Sure, exceptions exist. But 99.99% of people with extreme forms of narcissism won\u2019t ever admit when they\u2019re wrong, nor will they acquire the necessary <a href=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/02\/emotional-abuse\/narcissist-self-aware\">self-awareness<\/a> to confront their selfishness. <\/p>\n<p>To them, everything is always somebody else\u2019s fault.<\/p>\n<p>So, how can you deal with narcissists without pummeling your mental health? Let\u2019s explore a few ideas.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Assess Your Behavior: <\/strong>Are you making yourself an easy target? Are you constantly making excuses for the narcissist and enabling their behavior? If so, think about what <a href=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/05\/relationships\/healthy-boundaries-in-relationships\">boundaries you can draw<\/a> to shield yourself from their projection and emotional manipulation.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Work on Yourself: <\/strong>Instead of focusing on the narcissist, turn your attention inward. Plot out your goals and get to work. The more focused you are on your prize, the less consumed you\u2019ll be with the machinations of an insecure megalomaniac.\u00a0\u00a0<\/li>\n<li><strong>Practice Mindfulness: <\/strong>Studies show that <a href=\"https:\/\/mindfulzen.co\/inner-child-healing-exercises\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">mindfulness<\/a> is a great way to reduce anxiety and improve cognitive function. When your brain is sharp and firing on all cylinders, you\u2019ll be better able to brush off some of the narcissist\u2019s bad behavior.\u00a0<\/li>\n<li><strong>View it as a Decoder: <\/strong>Though challenging, try to see narcissists\u2019 projections as windows into their souls. Because essentially, every time they throw a biting remark in your face, they\u2019re actually admitting their fears and insecurities. Use what they give you!<\/li>\n<li><strong>Don\u2019t Engage: <\/strong>No rule says you must engage with people behaving poorly. So when the narcissist infesting your life starts acting up, respond by ignoring their behavior. Refusing to throw fuel on their dramatic fire turns down the temperature \u2014 (and has the added bonus of ticking them off).\u00a0<\/li>\n<li><strong>Wittily Point Out Their Projection: <\/strong>While confronting a narcissist can be emotionally dangerous, landing a witty remark at their expense can be surprisingly effective. Under the right conditions, it works like a muzzle and knocks the narcissist off their high horse.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 id=\"9-final-thoughts\">Final Thoughts<\/h2>\n<p>Dealing with a narcissist is excruciating. But sometimes, you can\u2019t immediately escape them because the person in question may be a family member, colleague, or spouse.<\/p>\n<p>To maintain your mental health, it\u2019s helpful to remember that people with narcissistic personality disorders usually get that way because of severe childhood trauma. Seeing them through the lens of a hurt child can smooth out the rough edges.<\/p>\n<p>At the same time, don\u2019t compromise yourself, and try not to enable their behavior. In most cases, you won\u2019t be able to change them. The desire to get better rests solely with the narcissist.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>At some point, you\u2019ll likely collide with a narcissist. It could be a family member, friend, or colleague \u2014 and they\u2019ll drive you batty. 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