{"id":1904,"date":"2023-04-04T06:15:40","date_gmt":"2023-04-04T10:15:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/are-you-selfless-or-selfish\/"},"modified":"2023-04-04T06:15:40","modified_gmt":"2023-04-04T10:15:40","slug":"are-you-selfless-or-selfish","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/are-you-selfless-or-selfish\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You Selfless or Selfish?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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When most folks hear the word selfish, they think of Scrooge-like people who won\u2019t part with money or their highly prized possessions. True. But being selfish is not<\/em> always about money. In fact, some of the greatest gifts don\u2019t have any monetary value. To put it simply, you don\u2019t have to be rich to give; your gift can be as simple as a smile. That\u2019s why being selfless is a virtue we should all strive for. Are you selfless<\/em> or selfish<\/em>?<\/p>\n

There are various types of selfish<\/em><\/strong> people. First and foremost, stingy<\/strong> people have no place in their life for kindness, compassion, or charity. Others are egotistical<\/a> and self-centered<\/strong>. They think the world revolves around them. (Ugh!) Additionally, some folks are lazy<\/strong>. They wouldn\u2019t lift a finger unless their life depended on it. That places a greater burden on the rest of us. Other people are entitled<\/strong>. They demand rewards but refuse to work hard to earn them. Additionally, some folks game the system<\/strong>. They look for clever loopholes \u2014 or ways to outsmart rules and regulations \u2014 for personal gain and off-load the costs to others. In the same light, some folks win at the expense of others<\/strong>. That involves stealing the credit or getting an undeserved promotion. What\u2019s more, some folks are hypocrites<\/strong><\/a>. They have strong opinions about issues but expect others to shoulder the burden. Last, some folks kick the can down the road<\/strong>. They care about their needs today and expect someone else to deal with the problem in the future.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not what<\/em> you give, but rather that<\/em> you give.<\/p>\n

Be Selfless for Selfish Reasons<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Most people instinctively put themselves first. After all, if you don\u2019t fend for yourself, who will? The problem with being selfish<\/em> is that \u201cwhat\u2019s in it for me\u201d becomes all-important. That said, when you suggest folks become more selfless<\/em>, their immediate reaction is that they\u2019re giving something up.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s simply not true.<\/p>\n

Putting others first doesn\u2019t take something away from you; you gain something incredibly important. Every time you lend a hand, make someone feel special<\/a>, or help others in need it will make your heart smile. You can take great comfort knowing that you made a difference in someone\u2019s life, which will make you feel good and strengthen your self-worth. Moreover, you\u2019ll obtain side benefits such as winning the trust and respect of people you know. The reality is that being selfless will come back to you in ways you\u2019ll never expect. It will do wonders for your relationships, career, and even your health and well-being. But that\u2019s not why you should behave that way. In fact, don\u2019t give of yourself because you expect something in return, do it because it\u2019s the right thing to do<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Being selfless is not an activity, it\u2019s who you are. It\u2019s being kind and compassionate, putting someone else\u2019s needs ahead of your own, and being genuinely happy for the well-being of others. Just think what the world would be like if everyone cared as much about their neighbor\u2019s happiness as they did their own. As James Keller, the Catholic priest, said, \u201cA candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.\u201d<\/p>\n

Check out Frank\u2019s latest book,\u00a0The Path to a Meaningful Life<\/i><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Are You Selfless or Selfish?<\/h3>\n

Please leave a\u00a0comment<\/a>\u00a0and tell us what you think or\u00a0share it with someone who can benefit from the information.<\/b><\/p>\n

Additional Reading:
What Does It Take to Show a Little Kindness?<\/a>
Are You Helping or Hurting?<\/a>
Being Generous Doesn\u2019t Cost a Penny<\/a>
Be Humble: Don\u2019t Let Success Go to Your Head<\/a>
Selfish People Are Losers<\/a>
Are You Enthusiastic for the Success of Others?<\/a>
Karma: Make Your Own Luck<\/a><\/p>\n

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