{"id":2344,"date":"2023-05-05T07:35:18","date_gmt":"2023-05-05T11:35:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/octavio-paz-on-love-the-marginalian\/"},"modified":"2023-05-05T07:35:18","modified_gmt":"2023-05-05T11:35:18","slug":"octavio-paz-on-love-the-marginalian","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/octavio-paz-on-love-the-marginalian\/","title":{"rendered":"Octavio Paz on Love \u2013 The Marginalian"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Double-Flame-Love-Eroticism\/dp\/0151001030\/?tag=braipick-20\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"320\" height=\"446\" class=\"cover with-border alignright size-medium jetpack-lazy-image\" alt=\"The Double Flame: Octavio Paz on Love\" decoding=\"async\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/paz_thedoubleflame.jpg?w=1200&amp;ssl=1 1200w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/paz_thedoubleflame.jpg?resize=320%2C446&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/paz_thedoubleflame.jpg?resize=600%2C836&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/paz_thedoubleflame.jpg?resize=240%2C334&amp;ssl=1 240w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/paz_thedoubleflame.jpg?resize=768%2C1069&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/paz_thedoubleflame.jpg?resize=1103%2C1536&amp;ssl=1 1103w\" data-lazy-sizes=\"(max-width: 320px) 100vw, 320px\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/paz_thedoubleflame.jpg?fit=320%2C446&amp;ssl=1&amp;is-pending-load=1\"\/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>We love to forget ourselves, but also to remember what we are: mortal creatures lustful of meaning, radiant with life, eternally alone and eternally longing for home \u2014 home in ourselves and home in each other. \u201cI hold this to be the highest task of a bond between two people: that each should stand guard over the solitude of the other,\u201d Rilke wrote in his exquisite reckoning with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2018\/09\/03\/rilke-love-marriage\/\">the interplay of freedom and togetherness in love<\/a> \u2014 Rilke, who also knew that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2014\/12\/10\/joanna-macy-a-year-with-rilke-death-mortality\/\">\u201cdeath is our friend precisely because it brings us into absolute and passionate presence with all that is here, that is natural, that is love.\u201d<\/a><\/p>\n<p>The delicate, eternal, life-magnifying relationship between love and death, between union and freedom, is what Nobel laureate <strong>Octavio Paz<\/strong> (March 31, 1914\u2013April 19, 1998) explores throughout his timeless book <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Double-Flame-Love-Eroticism\/dp\/0151001030\/?tag=braipick-20\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong><em>The Double Flame: Love and Eroticism<\/em><\/strong><\/a> (<a href=\"https:\/\/worldcat.org\/title\/34989621\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>public library<\/em><\/a>), composed in the final years of his long life.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_80224\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" width=\"680\" height=\"453\" class=\"size-full wp-image-80224 jetpack-lazy-image\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/octaviopaz_cosmic.jpg?w=1200&amp;ssl=1 1200w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/octaviopaz_cosmic.jpg?resize=320%2C213&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/octaviopaz_cosmic.jpg?resize=600%2C400&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/octaviopaz_cosmic.jpg?resize=240%2C160&amp;ssl=1 240w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/octaviopaz_cosmic.jpg?resize=768%2C512&amp;ssl=1 768w\" data-lazy-sizes=\"(max-width: 680px) 100vw, 680px\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/octaviopaz_cosmic.jpg?resize=680%2C453&amp;is-pending-load=1#038;ssl=1\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" data-lazy-fallback=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/octaviopaz_cosmic.jpg?resize=680%2C453&amp;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"680\" height=\"453\" class=\"size-full wp-image-80224\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/octaviopaz_cosmic.jpg?w=1200&amp;ssl=1 1200w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/octaviopaz_cosmic.jpg?resize=320%2C213&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/octaviopaz_cosmic.jpg?resize=600%2C400&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/octaviopaz_cosmic.jpg?resize=240%2C160&amp;ssl=1 240w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/octaviopaz_cosmic.jpg?resize=768%2C512&amp;ssl=1 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 680px) 100vw, 680px\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\"\/><\/noscript><figcaption class=\"wp-caption-text\">Octavio Paz<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Paz writes: <\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>In love, predestination and choice, objective and subjective, fate and freedom intersect.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>This dialogue between fate and freedom permeates Paz\u2019s reckoning with love. Love, he observes, is not merely \u201cthe passionate attraction toward a single person\u201d but, in the particularity of that person, requires \u201cthe transformation of the erotic object into a free and unique subject.\u201d An epoch after Rilke, Paz writes:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Love is a bet, a wild one, placed on freedom. Not my own; the freedom of the Other.<\/p>\n<p>[\u2026]<\/p>\n<p>Love\u2026 transforms the subject and object of the erotic encounter into unique persons\u2026 Its cornerstone is freedom: the mystery of the person.<\/p>\n<p>[\u2026]<\/p>\n<p>The transformation of the erotic object into a person immediately makes the person a subject who possesses free will. The object I desire becomes a subject who desires me \u2014 or rejects me. The giving up of personal sovereignty and the voluntary acceptance of servitude involves a genuine change of nature: by way of the bridge of mutual desire the object becomes desiring subject and the subject becomes desiring object. Love, then, is represented in the form of a knot. A knot made of two intertwined freedoms.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<figure class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2012\/12\/05\/an-abz-of-love\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/abzlove19.jpg?is-pending-load=1\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/data:image\/gif;base64,https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" class=\" jetpack-lazy-image\"\/><noscript><img data-lazy-fallback=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/abzlove19.jpg\"\/><\/noscript><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-caption-text\">Art from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2012\/12\/05\/an-abz-of-love\/\"><em>An ABZ of Love<\/em><\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Again and again, Paz returns to \u201cthe conjunction of fate and freedom\u201d in love:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Whether the relationship is the result of accident or predestination, to reach fulfillment the complicity of our will is required. Love, any love, implies a sacrifice; and we choose that sacrifice without batting an eye. This is the mystery of freedom\u2026 In short, love is freedom personified, freedom incarnated in a body and a soul.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Lamenting the deficiency of language as a vessel to hold our most oceanic experiences, he adds:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>How precarious and elusive are the ideas with which we attempt to explain the mystery of love. A mystery that is part of a greater one: the human being, who, suspended between chance and necessity, transforms his predicament into freedom.<\/p>\n<p>[\u2026]<\/p>\n<p>There is an intimate, causal relation between love and freedom.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Freedom, Paz intimates, is not willed but attained through that most difficult of human achievements \u2014 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2021\/02\/27\/calvino-if-on-a-winters-night-a-traveler-love\/\">surrender<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>True love consists precisely of the transformation of the appetite for possession into surrender.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<figure id=\"attachment_64208\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/society6.com\/product\/how-calm-how-solemn-it-grows-to-ascend-the-atmosphere-of-lovers_print?sku=s6-8967910p4a1v45?curator=brainpicker\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" width=\"680\" height=\"899\" class=\"size-full wp-image-64208 jetpack-lazy-image\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/margaretcook_leavesofgrass10.jpg?w=1200&amp;ssl=1 1200w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/margaretcook_leavesofgrass10.jpg?resize=240%2C317&amp;ssl=1 240w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/margaretcook_leavesofgrass10.jpg?resize=320%2C423&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/margaretcook_leavesofgrass10.jpg?resize=768%2C1015&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/margaretcook_leavesofgrass10.jpg?resize=600%2C793&amp;ssl=1 600w\" data-lazy-sizes=\"(max-width: 680px) 100vw, 680px\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/margaretcook_leavesofgrass10.jpg?resize=680%2C899&amp;is-pending-load=1#038;ssl=1\"\/><noscript><img data-lazy-fallback=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/margaretcook_leavesofgrass10.jpg?resize=680%2C899&amp;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"680\" height=\"899\" class=\"size-full wp-image-64208\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/margaretcook_leavesofgrass10.jpg?w=1200&amp;ssl=1 1200w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/margaretcook_leavesofgrass10.jpg?resize=240%2C317&amp;ssl=1 240w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/margaretcook_leavesofgrass10.jpg?resize=320%2C423&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/margaretcook_leavesofgrass10.jpg?resize=768%2C1015&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/margaretcook_leavesofgrass10.jpg?resize=600%2C793&amp;ssl=1 600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 680px) 100vw, 680px\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\"\/><\/noscript><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-caption-text\">Art by Margaret C. Cook from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2018\/04\/11\/leaves-of-grass-margaret-cook\/\">a 1913 English edition<\/a> of Walt Whitman\u2019s <em>Leaves of Grass<\/em>. (Available <a href=\"https:\/\/society6.com\/product\/how-calm-how-solemn-it-grows-to-ascend-the-atmosphere-of-lovers_print?sku=s6-8967910p4a1v45?curator=brainpicker\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">as a print<\/a>.)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>But here is the transcendent, devastating heart of the matter: When we surrender to love, we are also surrendering to time \u2014 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2022\/04\/07\/the-more-loving-one-auden-universe-in-verse\/\">the entropic emperor of human destiny<\/a>. Paz writes: <\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Human love is the union of two beings subject to time and its accidents: change, sickness, death. Although it does not save us from time, it opens it a crack, so that in a flash love\u2019s contradictory nature is manifest: that vivacity which endlessly destroys itself and is reborn, which is always both now and never.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>With an eye to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2023\/04\/30\/annie-dillard-for-the-time-being\/\">our destiny as mortal creatures<\/a>, \u201cplaythings of time and accident,\u201d Paz insists that \u201clove is one of the answers that humankind has invented in order to look death in the face.\u201d He writes:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Love is life to the full, at one with itself: the opposite of separation. In the sensation of the carnal embrace the union of the couple becomes feeling, and feeling in turn becomes awareness; love is the discovery of the unity of life. But in that instant the compact unity is broken in two, and time reappears: it is a great hole that swallows us\u2026 Total fusion includes the acceptance of death. Without death, life \u2014 ours, here on this earth \u2014 is not life. Love does not vanquish death but makes it an integral part of life.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Observing that love is \u201cbound to earth by the body\u2019s gravitation, which is pleasure and death,\u201d Paz considers the essential polarity of our richest and most life-affirming experience:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Like all the great creations of humanity, love is twofold: it is the supreme happiness and the supreme misfortune\u2026 Lovers pass constantly from rapture to despair, from sadness to joy, from wrath to tenderness, from desperation to sensuality\u2026 The lover is perpetually driven by contradictory emotions. Popular language, in all times and all places, abounds in expressions that describe the vulnerability of a person in love: love is a wound, an injury. But as St. John of the Cross says, it is \u201ca wound that is a gift,\u201d a \u201cgentle cautery,\u201d a \u201cdelightful wound.\u201d Yes, love is a flower of blood. It is also a talisman: the vulnerability of lovers protects them. Their shield is their lack of defense; their armor is their nakedness.<\/p>\n<p>[\u2026]<\/p>\n<p>Yet despite all the ills and misfortunes it brings, we always endeavor to love and be loved. Love is the closest thing on this earth to the beatitude of the blessed.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<figure id=\"attachment_76837\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2022\/05\/12\/sophie-blackall-things-to-look-forward-to\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" width=\"680\" height=\"811\" class=\"size-full wp-image-76837 jetpack-lazy-image\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/sophieblackall_thingstolookforwardto_FallinginLove.jpg?w=1161&amp;ssl=1 1161w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/sophieblackall_thingstolookforwardto_FallinginLove.jpg?resize=320%2C382&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/sophieblackall_thingstolookforwardto_FallinginLove.jpg?resize=600%2C716&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/sophieblackall_thingstolookforwardto_FallinginLove.jpg?resize=240%2C286&amp;ssl=1 240w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/sophieblackall_thingstolookforwardto_FallinginLove.jpg?resize=768%2C916&amp;ssl=1 768w\" data-lazy-sizes=\"(max-width: 680px) 100vw, 680px\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/sophieblackall_thingstolookforwardto_FallinginLove.jpg?resize=680%2C811&amp;is-pending-load=1#038;ssl=1\"\/><noscript><img data-lazy-fallback=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/sophieblackall_thingstolookforwardto_FallinginLove.jpg?resize=680%2C811&amp;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"680\" height=\"811\" class=\"size-full wp-image-76837\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/sophieblackall_thingstolookforwardto_FallinginLove.jpg?w=1161&amp;ssl=1 1161w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/sophieblackall_thingstolookforwardto_FallinginLove.jpg?resize=320%2C382&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/sophieblackall_thingstolookforwardto_FallinginLove.jpg?resize=600%2C716&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/sophieblackall_thingstolookforwardto_FallinginLove.jpg?resize=240%2C286&amp;ssl=1 240w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.themarginalian.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/sophieblackall_thingstolookforwardto_FallinginLove.jpg?resize=768%2C916&amp;ssl=1 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 680px) 100vw, 680px\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\"\/><\/noscript><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-caption-text\">Art by Sophie Blackall from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2022\/05\/12\/sophie-blackall-things-to-look-forward-to\/\"><em>Things to Look Forward to<\/em><\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>All of our situational vulnerability springs from the supreme existential vulnerability we are born into \u2014 our mortality, the haunting fact of it, the stark assurance of it in every smallest act of dissolution pointing the arrow of time at death. A generation before the poet Mark Doty observed in his <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2021\/09\/26\/whitman-love-death-doty\/\">superb Whitman-lensed meditation on love and death<\/a> that \u201cyou need to both remember where love leads and love anyway,\u201d Paz writes:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Love does not preserve us from the risks and misfortunes of existence. No love, not even those that are most peaceful and happy, escapes the disasters and calamities of time. Love, any love, is made up of time, and no love can avoid the great catastrophe: the beloved is subject to the assaults of age, infirmity, and death.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Echoing Borges\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2016\/09\/19\/a-new-refutation-of-time-borges\/\">timeless refutation of time<\/a> and Kierkegaard\u2019s insistence that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2017\/04\/18\/kierkegaard-concept-of-anxiety-time\/\">\u201cthe moment is not properly an atom of time but an atom of eternity,\u201d<\/a> he adds:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>There is no remedy for time. Or, at least, we do not know what it is. But we must trust in the flow of time, we must live.<\/p>\n<p>[\u2026]<\/p>\n<p>We are time and cannot escape its dominion. We can transfigure it but not deny it or destroy it. This is what the great artists, poets, philosophers, scientists, and certain men of action have done. Love, too, is an answer: because it is time and made of time, love is at once consciousness of death and an attempt to make of the instant an eternity. All loves are ill-starred, because all are made of time, all are the fragile bond between two temporal creatures who know they are going to die. In all loves, even the most tragic, there is an instant of happiness that it is no exaggeration to call superhuman: it is a victory over time, a glimpse of the other side, of the there that is a here, where nothing changes and everything that is, truly is.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>What emerges is a conception of love not as <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2020\/04\/10\/antidotes-to-fear-of-death-rebecca-elson\/\">an antidote to death<\/a> but as its vitalizing antipode:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Love does not defeat death; it is a wager against time and its accidents. Through love we catch a glimpse, in this life, of the other life. Not of the eternal life, but\u2026 of pure vitality.<\/p>\n<p>[\u2026]<\/p>\n<p>Love is not eternity; nor is it the time of calendars and watches, successive time. The time of love is neither great nor small; it is the perception of all times, of all lives, in a single instant. It does not free us from death but makes us see it face to face\u2026 We are the theater of the embrace of opposites and of their dissolution, resolved in a single note that is not affirmation or negation but acceptance\u2026 the presence that dissolves into splendor: pure vitality, a heartbeat of time.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Double-Flame-Love-Eroticism\/dp\/0151001030\/?tag=braipick-20\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong><em>The Double Flame<\/em><\/strong><\/a> is a superb read in its entirety. Complement it with Hannah Arendt on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2019\/02\/25\/love-and-saint-augustine-hannah-arendt\/\">love and how to live with the fundamental fear of its loss<\/a> and French philosopher Alain Badiou on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2015\/10\/26\/alain-badiou-in-praise-of-love\/\">why we fall and how we stay in love<\/a>, then revisit this florilegium of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.themarginalian.org\/2022\/12\/13\/time\/\">two centuries of great minds reckoning with time<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We love to forget ourselves, but also to remember what we are: mortal creatures lustful of meaning, radiant with life, eternally alone and eternally longing [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2345,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2344","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-purpose"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2344","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2344"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2344\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2345"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2344"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2344"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2344"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}