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Note: This is a guest post from Angela G. Horn of Mostly Mindful.<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

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January was Get A Balanced Life Month.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Can you even remember that far back? More to the point, why am I pointing this out when it\u2019s already May?\u00a0<\/p>\n

Well, we\u2019re more than a third of the way into 2023. So I figured now would be the perfect time to see how things are going. Let\u2019s start with a question.<\/p>\n

How balanced is your life right now?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the thing. There\u2019s a lot you can do to get organized at the outset of the new year. Decluttering, cleaning up your inbox, getting your admin in order, and so on.<\/p>\n

But unlike the examples listed above, balance isn\u2019t a box you check off on your to-do list and then move on with your day. Between work, family, friends, and health<\/a>, it can often feel as if life is a never-ending juggle.<\/p>\n

Most of us are never going to reach a point where all areas of our lives are in perfect harmony. And that\u2019s okay. You can\u2019t expect to give the same amount of effort to everything.<\/p>\n

Depending on what you have going on, one area will always need more attention than the rest.<\/p>\n

A big project at work means extra hours at the office. A health setback makes self-care a priority. Small children or elderly parents will have family taking precedence.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s how life is. Things happen. If you haven\u2019t laid the groundwork for balance, your life will feel like an endless game of Whack-a-Mole.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s agree to make 2023 the year that stops happening. I\u2019ll get to the steps to a balanced further down, but first, a quick primer on Stephen Covey\u2019s four-quadrant time management system.<\/p>\n

The Four Quadrants: Where to Focus Your Attention<\/h2>\n

Stephen Covey\u2019s four quadrants is a time management concept that helps individuals prioritize their activities based on urgency and importance. The concept is outlined in more detail in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People<\/a><\/em>.<\/p>\n

The four quadrants are:<\/p>\n

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  1. Quadrant 1 (Urgent and Important)<\/strong>: Activities that are both urgent and important. These are tasks that require immediate attention, such as emergencies or impending deadlines.<\/li>\n
  2. Quadrant 2 (Not Urgent but Important)<\/strong>: Activities that are important but not urgent. These are tasks that contribute to long-term goals and success but may not have a specific deadline or immediate consequences.<\/li>\n
  3. Quadrant 3 (Urgent but Not Important)<\/strong>: Activities that are urgent but not important. These are tasks that may be time-sensitive but do not contribute significantly to long-term goals or success.<\/li>\n
  4. Quadrant 4 (Not Urgent and Not Important)<\/strong>: Activities that are neither urgent nor important. These are tasks that do not contribute to long-term goals and are often time-wasting activities, such as scrolling through social media, watching TV, or getting stuck in the latest news cycle<\/a>.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Covey suggests that individuals should focus on Quadrant 2 activities to achieve their long-term goals and minimize Quadrant 1 activities through effective planning and organization. Quadrant 3 and 4 activities should be minimized or eliminated as they do not contribute significantly to personal success.<\/p>\n

    5 Steps to a More Balanced Life\u00a0<\/h2>\n

    The aim of these five steps is to help you minimize stress and maximize wellbeing. By dialing those down and up respectively, you\u2019ll be better positioned to achieve and maintain a sense of equilibrium in your life. And in doing so, free yourself up to focus on the things that are important.\u00a0<\/p>\n

    Implementing the suggestions below won\u2019t make all your days zen perfect, but they\u2019re sure to be a huge improvement on your previous status quo. Sayonara Whack-a-Mole. Hello, balance.<\/p>\n

    1. Figure Out Your #1 Self-Care Habit<\/h3>\n

    When life gets busy, taking care of yourself is often the first thing to suffer. Between deadlines at work, raising kids, and being active in your community, finding time for you<\/em> can be tough.<\/p>\n

    Michelle Segar, a leading researcher in the science of sustainable health behaviors, says one of the most important things we can do is identify our #1 self-care habit. That one thing that keeps us energized, plugged in, and ready to rock.<\/p>\n

    For her, it\u2019s sleep. For her husband, it\u2019s exercise. I used to think that exercise was mine, too, until I skipped my morning meditation practice three days in a row. It wasn\u2019t pretty.\u00a0<\/p>\n

    What\u2019s your one thing? Whatever it is, make it a non-negotiable priority in your life. Schedule it into your calendar, and stick to it no matter what. Remember, you can\u2019t take care of those around you if you don\u2019t first take care of yourself.<\/p>\n

    2. Decide Which Burner to Turn Off<\/h3>\n

    I learned about The Four Burners Theory<\/a> from the habit guru James Clear.<\/p>\n

    Imagine that your life is represented by a stove with four burners on it. Each burner symbolizes one major quadrant of your life.<\/em><\/p>\n

    1. The first burner represents your family<\/em><\/p>\n

    2. The second burner is your friends.<\/em><\/p>\n

    3. The third burner is your health.<\/em><\/p>\n

    4. The fourth burner is your work.<\/em><\/p>\n

    The Four Burners Theory says that \u201cin order to be successful you have to cut off one of your burners. And in order to be really successful, you have to cut off two.<\/em><\/p>\n

    As James points out, that leaves you with two options.<\/p>\n

    The first is to choose a more balanced life and accept that you\u2019ll never reach your full potential in any one of the quadrants. The second is to go all out in one area at the expense of one the others.<\/p>\n

    If you dream of going to the Olympics or creating the next Google, turning off two burners is how you\u2019ll get there. If not, turning off one is plenty.\u00a0<\/p>\n

    But how do you decide which one to turn off?<\/p>\n

    You need to get clear on what\u2019s most important to you. Six months or a year from now it might be different, but focus on what matters most to you in this moment. Once you know what that is, you\u2019ll know which burner to turn off.<\/p>\n

    If work is most important, health and family might come next, which means friends are out of the picture for now. Turning a burner off might be hard, but you\u2019ll know in your gut which one has to cool for a while.<\/p>\n

    3. Create Foolproof Systems<\/h3>\n

    This is another tip I learned from James Clear. He says that instead of setting goals, you need to focus on creating systems. I\u2019ve always been more of a fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants type of person, but since reading Atomic Habits<\/a><\/em>, I\u2019m a convert.\u00a0<\/p>\n

    I finally understand the importance of creating foolproof systems. You don\u2019t have to think, you just do. How is this helpful? Surely operating on autopilot kills creativity?<\/p>\n

    It\u2019s actually the opposite. When you avoid decision fatigue<\/a>, you free your brain up to focus on the important stuff. Whatever that is for you.<\/p>\n

    These systems also act as insurance. I won\u2019t say you\u2019ll never forget something, but the chances are a lot slimmer than they are when you\u2019re in Whack-a-Mole mode.<\/p>\n

    Write down all the things you need (and would like) to get done on a daily basis. Some, like brushing your teeth and driving to work, are already ingrained. It\u2019s the things you keep forgetting that you need to install systems for.<\/p>\n

    Those systems can be simple. I kept forgetting to write in my gratitude journal before going to bed, so I started placing my journal on my pillow after making the bed in the morning. Problem solved.<\/p>\n

    Think about how you can use this tactic in your own life. For example, do mornings always run late because the kids can\u2019t find their stuff? Have them pack their bags and leave them in the hall before bed.<\/p>\n

    Are you always misplacing things? Give everything in your house a place. When you get home you hang up your car keys on the hook behind the door.<\/p>\n

    The idea is that eventually, all these things will become rote activities. When you reach that point, your brain is on autopilot. The chance of you forgetting something is close to zero.<\/p>\n

    4. Get Help When You Need It<\/h3>\n

    Asking for help is tricky, especially for us women. Men hate asking for directions, but we hate asking for pretty much anything. It\u2019s ridiculous. I mean, why wouldn\u2019t you get some help when you need it?<\/p>\n

    Help can be anything from employing a cleaning service to hiring a babysitter to paying someone to do your taxes for you. It doesn\u2019t matter.\u00a0<\/p>\n

    The important thing is that you ask for help when you need it. Trying to do everything on your own will drive you crazy. Also, it\u2019s a surefire way to keep your life in a constant state of imbalance.<\/p>\n

    If you can\u2019t afford to pay for the help you need you could always barter with friends and family. We all have different skills to bring to the table. You might be great at admin, while someone else in your clan is a food prep maestro. Perhaps it\u2019s as simple as agreeing to carpool your kids so everyone has at least a couple of mornings free.<\/p>\n

    Think about how that could work in your immediate family, your friendship circle, and even among work colleagues. We\u2019re all different, but one thing the majority of us have in common nowadays is a shortage of time. Teamwork makes the dream work.<\/p>\n

    5. Breathe, Let It Go, and Enjoy<\/h3>\n

    Regardless of how well you plan or how many systems you have in place, things will sometimes go awry. It could be a blocked drain, a fender bender, a bout of flu, or whatever.<\/p>\n

    What\u2019s important is how you respond to these situations. You can either argue with reality (and lose) or you can breathe and let it go. Accept that you\u2019re behind on your day, and make the best of it.<\/p>\n

    When you\u2019re so focused on balancing everything, it\u2019s easy to take life a little too seriously. Remember to give yourself free time to relax and regroup.\u00a0<\/p>\n

    Downtime is as much a part of getting a balanced life as being productive is. Take a trip, get a massage, or go to a movie, whatever appeals to you. You\u2019ll come back more balanced than you left.<\/p>\n

    Final Thoughts on Re-Centering Yourself<\/h2>\n

    Becoming un-busy<\/a> can take work. You need to extricate yourself from the old way of doing things. You need to put systems in place and retrain yourself to operate more efficiently. But, get it right and you\u2019ll have freed up not only the time, but the mental bandwidth to focus more fully on Covey\u2019s second quadrant.<\/p>\n

    Even better, you\u2019ll find that life is more balanced.<\/p>\n

    ***<\/p>\n

    Angela lives in Cape Town. She enjoys\u00a0spending her\u00a0time drinking coffee and writing about her urban hippie adventures on Mostly Mindful<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n

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