{"id":2601,"date":"2023-05-23T00:32:57","date_gmt":"2023-05-23T04:32:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/success-and-happiness-can-you-have-both\/"},"modified":"2023-05-23T00:32:57","modified_gmt":"2023-05-23T04:32:57","slug":"success-and-happiness-can-you-have-both","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/success-and-happiness-can-you-have-both\/","title":{"rendered":"Success and Happiness: Can You Have Both?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p><em>\u201cMoney can\u2019t buy happiness.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cYou\u2019ve got to choose between success and happiness.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cHappiness and success are just for the rich and famous.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>These ideas may have shaped your experiences, but is there any truth to them? Is it actually possible to be both happy and successful?<\/p>\n<p>The short answer is yes.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>So explore how you can find the key balance between the two:<\/p>\n<p>As you may know, what brings joy and fulfillment to one person may not be the same for another. It\u2019s important to recognize that there\u2019s no one-size-fits-all solution to achieving a joyful life.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>That correlation between happiness and success is not as simple as it looks<\/em>,\u201d explains <strong>Kristina M\u00e4nd-Lakhiani<\/strong>, author of <em>Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life<\/em>. \u201c<em>And it flows, surprisingly, in another direction.<\/em>\u201d<em>\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p>However, with the right guidance, you may just find yourself heading in that direction toward a life of both.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"4904\" height=\"3263\" src=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/05\/41fe252e-success-and-happiness-kristina-mand-lakhiani-mv-karen-harms.webp\" alt=\"Kristina M\u00e4nd-Lakhiani, author of Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life\" class=\"wp-image-67301\" srcset=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/05\/41fe252e-success-and-happiness-kristina-mand-lakhiani-mv-karen-harms.webp 4904w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/05\/41fe252e-success-and-happiness-kristina-mand-lakhiani-mv-karen-harms-768x511.webp 768w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/05\/41fe252e-success-and-happiness-kristina-mand-lakhiani-mv-karen-harms-1536x1022.webp 1536w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/05\/41fe252e-success-and-happiness-kristina-mand-lakhiani-mv-karen-harms-2048x1363.webp 2048w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/05\/41fe252e-success-and-happiness-kristina-mand-lakhiani-mv-karen-harms-736x491.webp 736w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/05\/41fe252e-success-and-happiness-kristina-mand-lakhiani-mv-karen-harms-442x295.webp 442w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 4904px) 100vw, 4904px\"\/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Kristina M\u00e4nd-Lakhiani, author of<em> Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-success-and-happiness-key-differences-and-similarities\">Success and Happiness: Key Differences and Similarities<\/h2>\n<p>When people think of success and happiness, oftentimes, they automatically believe the two go hand in hand. After all, didn\u2019t society teach us all along that success is supposed to bring only joy and fulfillment? It may come as no surprise that it\u2019s not always the case.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s break down the definitions of these two and see how they\u2019re different, but also why they show some similarities:<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-differences\">Differences<\/h3>\n<p>Success is, in general, about completing something you set out to do. On the other hand, happiness is a subjective feeling of contentment and satisfaction.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s a side-by-side comparison between the two:<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\">\n<table>\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td><strong>Success<\/strong><\/td>\n<td><strong>Happiness<\/strong><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>External and often universal<\/td>\n<td>Internal and personal<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>Achievement or accomplishment<\/td>\n<td>A state of being in your emotional world<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>It focuses on gaining wealth (be it material, social, or intellectual)<\/td>\n<td>It focuses on improving your life from the inside out<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>It usually needs material objects to be achieved<\/td>\n<td>It\u2019s usually about subjective moments of well-being that can be triggered unexpectedly<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/figure>\n<p>In her book, Kristina points out that oftentimes success is highly defined by our society. Its views on what it means to be a super successful person trigger our standards of <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/how-to-overcome-perfectionism\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">perfectionism<\/a> in different ways:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Success in relationships. <\/strong>A relationship stands up to the standards in relation to its longevity.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Success in finance. <\/strong>In society, financial achievements equate to overall success.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Success in health. <\/strong>It\u2019s often associated with having a top-model body and going on restrictive diets or work-out routines.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u201c<em>Success, as we can see, is quite sadly, clearly defined. Yet, when we think about happiness, the story is not as simple and clear<\/em>,\u201d says Kristina. \u201c<em>We, as a society, fail to define happiness. And, not surprisingly, we have hard times measuring and optimizing it.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-similarities\">Similarities<\/h3>\n<p>There are, without a doubt, a few commonalities between success and happiness. Here are a few of them:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Both require effort and perseverance,<\/li>\n<li>Are fueled by an optimistic mindset, and<\/li>\n<li>Can be redefined according to personal values.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>They\u2019re not mutually exclusive, but they\u2019re also not interchangeable.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>You can be successful without being happy, and you can be happy without being successful. However, some would jokingly argue that it\u2019s always better to cry on a yacht than while riding a bicycle.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-does-success-bring-happiness\">Does Success Bring Happiness?<\/h2>\n<p>This age-old question is a matter of perspective. It\u2019s like the \u201cchicken or the egg\u201d debate, but with more money and fame involved.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>On one hand, being successful can allow us to live the kind of life we\u2019ve always dreamed of, which could lead to happiness. For example, in <em>The Pursuit of Happyness<\/em>, Chris Gardner\u2019s success in becoming a stockbroker helped him find the happiness and love he had sought for so long.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, being happy doesn\u2019t necessarily equal the traditional form of success we\u2019re familiar with. An example would be the many talented people who decided to take their lives because of the \u201csuccess\u201d that comes with fame.<\/p>\n<p>So, is there any scientific evidence that success brings happiness? There are two important findings to highlight:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>The results of a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pnas.org\/doi\/epdf\/10.1073\/pnas.2208661120\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">2021 study<\/a> found that money can buy happiness, but up to a point. The magic number discovered by the researchers was $100k a year.\n<p>However, the idea that success is the only thing that brings joy in life falls into the category of yet another <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/happiness-myths\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">happiness myth<\/a>. The study showed that achieving a high monetary value improves life satisfaction, but not overall emotional well-being.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>According to this <a href=\"https:\/\/www.apa.org\/pubs\/journals\/releases\/bul-1316803.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">2005 study<\/a>, happiness actually leads to success. It reports, \u201c<em>The results reveal that happiness is associated with and precedes numerous successful outcomes, as well as behaviors paralleling success<\/em>.\u201d<em> <\/em>Simply put, when you prioritize nurturing and connecting with the true happiness within, your actions and thought will align to create long-lasting success.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Of course, it\u2019s easier said than done. So often people end up putting success and happiness in the same basket because they\u2019re trying to create change so eagerly. And in doing so, they lose the pleasure of finding true joy within.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-ways-to-increase-happiness-according-to-kristina-mand-lakhiani\">3 Ways to Increase Happiness, According to Kristina M\u00e4nd-Lakhiani<\/h2>\n<p>Kristina believes that happiness is not just a feeling but a state of being.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>True happiness, as she explains in her book, will come from within and cannot be achieved only by chasing external markers of success like money or fame. Instead, it requires a shift in mindset and a commitment to cultivating joy in all areas of life.<\/p>\n<p>However, she highlights that <em>\u201chappiness is a personal phenomenon<\/em>,\u201d meaning each person\u2019s view of \u201chappiness\u201d is a little different from another\u2019s\u2014even yours. <em>\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Here are three insights from her on how to invite more mindfulness and joy into your life:<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-prioritize-your-happiness\">1. Prioritize your happiness<\/h3>\n<p>As simple as it sounds, people do forget to prioritize their happiness.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cWe place success on a pedestal, we prioritize it over everything else, and we do it with one goal in mind\u2014to be happy at the end of this grueling race<\/em>,\u201d Kristina explains.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>In the world of personal development, hard work and effort are praised as the only requisites that will bring the desired results. But what about our happiness? Do we work any harder to achieve it or think that it\u2019ll surprisingly fall out of the sky at some point?<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>We strive for success to be happy<\/em>,\u201d she adds. \u201c<em>So, the ultimate goal is happiness. But the priority is on success; happiness is often secondary in our daily plans<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Kristina M\u00e4nd-Lakhiani\u2019s insight: <\/strong><em>\u201cI believe that happiness must be actively trained as a skill.\u201d <\/em>Kristina encourages you to put happiness on your priority list instead of seeing it as a reward for a life well lived. And see how your day-to-day life may change and revolve around the things that make you happy, instead of those that seem to bring you success.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-embrace-your-flawesomeness\">2. Embrace your flawesomeness<\/h3>\n<p>According to Kristina, you should embrace your flawesomeness (the awesomeness of your flaws) as part of what makes you unique and lovable. So don\u2019t hide those quirks and imperfections\u2014they make you who you are.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not about settling for mediocrity or giving up on self-improvement, but rather about being kind to yourself in the process and realizing that being human comes with its ups and downs.<\/p>\n<p>Think of it like this: your flaws are like the unexpected spice of a perfectly baked cake\u2014they add character and depth to the deliciousness.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>So go ahead, give yourself a break, and practice some <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/self-compassion\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">self-compassion<\/a>. It\u2019s one of the greatest acts of self-love.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><strong>Kristina M\u00e4nd-Lakhiani\u2019s insight: <\/strong><em>\u201cYou can live authentically, sincerely, and unapologetically. You can embrace your flawesomeness and love yourself unconditionally. It is all accessible to you right now, without any further delays.\u201d <\/em>After all, life is a dance between light and darkness, and you can\u2019t fully appreciate one without the other.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-align-your-definitions-of-happiness-and-success\">3. Align your definitions of happiness and success<\/h3>\n<p>Here\u2019s a scenario: you\u2019re chasing after your dreams, sprinting towards your goals, and you stop for a minute and realize that happiness is nowhere to be found. If this is relatable, then chances are, you\u2019ve put success as #1.<\/p>\n<p>As mentioned, happiness is more likely to lead you to success. So when you start prioritizing it, it\u2019s like having your cake and eating it too.<\/p>\n<p>So a good practice to have, according to Kristina, goes as follows:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Write down your definition of happiness.<\/li>\n<li>Then define what success means to you\u2014how do you know you are successful?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Once you\u2019ve got your definitions down, ask yourself: how can you align them even more? Then compare the lists and see how they align and how they contradict each other.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Kristina M\u00e4nd-Lakhiani\u2019s insight: <\/strong><em>\u201cIf happiness is a destination unique to each person, then why are we told to follow exactly the same map?\u201d <\/em>Once you define what it means for you, you may be more likely to find your own unique path.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-daily-routine-for-happiness-and-success\">Daily Routine for Happiness and Success<\/h2>\n<p>Routines are like the unsung heroes of our lives, quietly building our habits for happiness and success.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.msrlab.pitt.edu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/07\/Galla-2015-More-than-resisting-temptation_-Ben.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Science<\/a> has said it too: having a daily routine is associated with\u2026<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Better mental health,<\/li>\n<li>Increased feelings of control, and<\/li>\n<li>Reduced levels of perceived stress.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Additionally, <a href=\"https:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/10.1111\/j.0963-7214.2006.00420.x\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">research<\/a> suggests that people who engage in self-care activities on a regular basis are more likely to experience positive emotions and overall life satisfaction.<\/p>\n<p>But where to start? According to Kristina, it all begins with awareness.<\/p>\n<p>Think of it like planting a seed. You should nurture it before it grows into something beautiful. And just like a plant needs water and sunshine, change needs the right conditions to take root.<\/p>\n<p>Kristina recommends doing the following exercise daily:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Set an awareness alarm for yourself 5-10 times a day.\u00a0<\/li>\n<li>And every time it goes off, take a moment to check in with yourself. What are you up to? How are you feeling? What\u2019s on your mind?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Sounds simple, right? But that\u2019s the magic of it. By incorporating these moments of awareness into your daily routine, you\u2019ll start to build new habits that actually make you happy and fulfilled.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>Awareness usually supplies enough motivation to start changing your life in little but consistent ways.<\/p>\n<p><cite>\u2014 Kristina M\u00e4nd-Lakhiani, author of <em>Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life<\/em><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1456\" height=\"816\" src=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/05\/19f0c138-success-and-happiness-mindvalley-blog-01-midjourney-seo.webp\" alt=\"Success and happiness\" class=\"wp-image-67302\" srcset=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/05\/19f0c138-success-and-happiness-mindvalley-blog-01-midjourney-seo.webp 1456w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/05\/19f0c138-success-and-happiness-mindvalley-blog-01-midjourney-seo-768x430.webp 768w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/05\/19f0c138-success-and-happiness-mindvalley-blog-01-midjourney-seo-540x304.webp 540w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/05\/19f0c138-success-and-happiness-mindvalley-blog-01-midjourney-seo-442x249.webp 442w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1456px) 100vw, 1456px\"\/><\/figure>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-quotes-on-happiness-and-success\">Quotes on Happiness and Success<\/h2>\n<p>Words may serve as inspiration. So here are a few quotes to inspire more happiness and success in your life:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>The people that you love do not need your sacrifice\u2014they want you to be happy. Not only is your sacrifice of personal happiness pointless, but it is also a heavy burden on those for whom you so selflessly want to make the offering.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u2014 Kristina M\u00e4nd-Lakhiani, author of <em>Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life<\/em><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u2014 Winston Churchill<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Happiness is not the belief that we don\u2019t need to change; it is the realization that we can.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u2014 Shawn Achor<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>You will do this world a great favor if you allow yourself to prioritize your own happiness.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u2014 Kristina M\u00e4nd-Lakhiani, author of <em>Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life<\/em><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u2014 Aristotle<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t forget that happiness lies in the little moments that spark up the joy within. Open your heart to those moments, and let yourself be surprised at how your happiness may be closer than you have thought before.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-embrace-success-and-happiness-from-the-inside-out\">Embrace Success and Happiness From the Inside Out<\/h2>\n<p>Maybe you, too, have been on the journey of striving for success and perfection to be happy. And you may have noticed how it didn\u2019t really work out.<\/p>\n<p>However, that kind of genuine happiness is like a hidden treasure that seems so far away, but it may only lie in the one place we often forget to look: inside ourselves.<\/p>\n<p>So if you need a little guidance on the path to reconnecting with your authentic self, Kristina\u2019s book, <strong><em>Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life<\/em><\/strong>,<em> <\/em>may hold just the answers you\u2019re looking for.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be afraid to take the next step to meet the best version of yourself. And you might be surprised that happiness was just around the corner, waiting for you all along.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cMoney can\u2019t buy happiness.\u201d \u201cYou\u2019ve got to choose between success and happiness.\u201d \u201cHappiness and success are just for the rich and famous.\u201d These ideas may [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2602,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[16],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2601","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-happiness"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2601","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2601"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2601\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2602"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2601"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2601"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2601"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}