{"id":3311,"date":"2023-07-13T07:31:46","date_gmt":"2023-07-13T11:31:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/4-insights-from-dr-neeta-bhushan\/"},"modified":"2023-07-13T07:31:46","modified_gmt":"2023-07-13T11:31:46","slug":"4-insights-from-dr-neeta-bhushan","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/4-insights-from-dr-neeta-bhushan\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Insights from Dr. Neeta Bhushan"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>Just when you think life is going good, you find yourself face-to-face with gut-wrenching moments that shake you to your core. The loss of a loved one, a devastating illness, losing a job that you loved, or what have you\u2014you\u2019re left feeling absolutely lost, broken, and uncertain about the future.<\/p>\n<p>And happiness? It feels like a distant memory, leaving you wondering if you\u2019ll ever find your way back to it.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s during these difficult moments that a guiding light can help\u2014someone who has walked through the darkness and emerged stronger, wiser, and more resilient. And <a href=\"https:\/\/neetabhushan.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>Dr. Neeta Bhushan<\/strong><\/a>, the co-founder of the Dharma Coaching Institute and founder of the Global Grit Institute, is that ray of sunshine.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>There\u2019s a really big point of struggle, definitely<\/em>,\u201d she explains in her conversation with Vishen, the founder of Mindvalley, as she opens up about her own struggles and the valuable lessons she learned along the way. \u201c<em>I mean, it\u2019s contributed to how, obviously, I\u2019ve been able to create the audacity of resilience<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>From the loss of loved ones to her battle with depression and anxiety, Neeta faced moments that tested her resilience. Instead of letting these experiences define her, she used them as catalysts for growth and transformation.<\/p>\n<p>This episode of The Mindvalley Show isn\u2019t solely about Neeta\u2019s story, though. Rather, it\u2019s about how to overcome life\u2019s hardest moments in four steps\u2014and it\u2019s with this that you\u2019ll find hope, purpose, and resilience even on the darkest of days.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Listen to the full podcast episode here:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe style=\"border-radius:12px\" src=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/embed\/episode\/4SFb7TF4OZlY6Y8GaWS4gs?utm_source=generator&amp;theme=0\" width=\"100%\" height=\"352\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; fullscreen; picture-in-picture\" loading=\"lazy\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-why-being-tough-isn-t-always-the-answer\">Why Being Tough Isn\u2019t Always the Answer<\/h2>\n<p>How many times have you put on a brave face? Or push through exhaustion without having so much as a bite to eat or a good night\u2019s sleep? Or keep to yourself because you couldn\u2019t bear the thought of another mindless conversion about what the Kardashians are up to?<\/p>\n<p>These are often our go-to shows of strength. Because \u201c<em>the buzzword of resiliency is toughness<\/em>,\u201d as Neeta highlights in the interview. \u201c<em>We\u2019ve got to be tough<\/em>,\u201d she adds.<em> <\/em>\u201c<em>We\u2019ve got to be strong<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>However, she goes on to explain that being tough\u2014putting on a brave face and the like\u2014isn\u2019t the most effective approach to navigating difficult moments. While faking happiness can give us a momentary burst of positivity, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.apa.org\/pubs\/journals\/features\/bul-bul0000194.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">research<\/a> shows that it doesn\u2019t contribute to meaningful and lasting change in our overall happiness.<\/p>\n<p>When we try to be tough, we often build walls around ourselves, preventing the natural flow of emotions and inhibiting our ability to process and heal. And this can have a major <a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/AWq3layvR_w\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">negative impact on our physical bodies<\/a>, sometimes leading to illnesses.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Neeta suggests acknowledging our vulnerabilities. And learning to work with them can create a more sustainable and resilient foundation.<\/p>\n<p>So instead of toughness, it\u2019s about <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/emotional-agility\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">emotional agility<\/a>. It\u2019s about the ability to be with your full emotional experience, according to Susan David, a Harvard Medical School psychologist who specializes in this very topic.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>When we become open to all of our emotions, we start recognizing that we can walk with fear in one hand and courage in the other<\/em>,\u201d she explains on another episode of The Mindvalley Show. \u201c<em>And that there is a bothness and an allowability of both of these at once<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CuTsFY8r2bI\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\" style=\" background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; min-width:326px; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); width:calc(100% - 2px);\"\/>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-bounce-factor\">The Bounce Factor<\/h2>\n<p>To say Neeta has been through a lot is an understatement. She did, after all, lose her mother, father, and brother within a span of two years\u2014before the age of 20.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>She went on to become a dentist but felt trapped in her job. And to add salt to the wound, she found herself in a tumultuous, abusive relationship.<\/p>\n<p>So sucky times? Check. <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/low-self-esteem\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Low self-esteem<\/a>? Check. Grief and sadness? Check and check.<\/p>\n<p>But December 31st, she says to Vishen, is a day\u2014<em>the day<\/em>\u2014she made a conscious choice to turn it all around.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>That day\u2014December 31st\u2014would fully shift my life<\/em>,\u201d she explains, \u201c<em>because that\u2019s when I had to realize that I was living my life for other people, that I had not really integrated. I had not worked through a lot of the grief. I had not accepted my reality.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Looking at her now, you couldn\u2019t tell the rollercoaster of a life she\u2019d been through. But what helped her shift her <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/mindset-definition\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">mindset<\/a>? It\u2019s something she calls \u201cThe Bounce Factor,\u201d her powerful 4-step to \u201cbounce back.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s a closer look at each:<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-make-peace-with-your-upbringing\">1. Make peace with your upbringing<\/h3>\n<p>Think about it\u2014how you were raised, the beliefs instilled in you, and the environment you grew up in all play a significant role in shaping how you express and navigate emotions.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Maybe you were taught to suppress certain feelings or that vulnerability was a sign of weakness. Or perhaps you were encouraged to speak your truth and embrace your emotions fully.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s easy to blame your parents for how you were raised\u2014the things you were or weren\u2019t subjected to. But as Neeta says, \u201c<em>We cannot change anything; we can only make peace with it<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That doesn\u2019t mean blaming or resenting your past. Instead, it\u2019s about giving yourself <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/self-compassion\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">self-compassion<\/a> so that you can understand the lessons and patterns that were instilled in you.<\/p>\n<p>This\u2019ll help you consciously choose to let go of unhelpful patterns and cultivate healthier ways of navigating life\u2019s difficulties. And it\u2019ll lay the foundation for embracing emotional authenticity and building resilience from within.<\/p>\n<p><strong>What you can do, according to Dr. Neeta Bhushan:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Reflect on your early experiences and the messages you received about emotions.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Were you encouraged to express your feelings authentically?\u00a0<\/li>\n<li>Were your thoughts and opinions valued and listened to?\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Acknowledging the impact of your upbringing can help you gain insights into how it shaped your emotional expression. It\u2019s an opportunity to heal any wounds from the past and move forward with greater resilience.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-welcome-in-the-good-stress\">2. Welcome in the good stress<\/h3>\n<p>Contrary to popular belief, stress is not always negative. In fact, certain forms of stress can propel us to new heights of personal growth and resilience\u2014and it\u2019s called \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/med.stanford.edu\/news\/all-news\/2012\/12\/good-stress-bad-stress.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">good stress<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s something that Neeta encourages you to welcome into your life. It pushes you out of your comfort zone and encourages you to face your fears and limitations.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>If we\u2019re inviting more and more incremental changes of good stress, we\u2019re actually building our resiliency<\/em>,\u201d she says. \u201c<em>We are building our strength in that way. We are building our agility to grow<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>What you can do, according to Dr. Neeta Bhushan:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Intentionally seek out challenges. By doing so, you expand your comfort zone and develop the skills necessary to overcome obstacles.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Ask yourself:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Are you settling for complacency?\u00a0<\/li>\n<li>Are you open to challenges as you strive to build unshakable resilience?\u00a0<\/li>\n<li>Are you facing your fears and stepping out of your comfort zone?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Stepping into the unknown and embracing discomfort is a powerful way to train your resilience muscles. It helps you become more adaptable and better equipped to handle adversity.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-address-your-emotional-capacity\">3. Address your emotional capacity<\/h3>\n<p>Do you judge certain emotions? Do you try to hide them or pretend they\u2019re not there?<\/p>\n<p>It goes without saying that how you deal with your feelings can have a huge impact on your resilience. According to a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4050437\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">2014 study<\/a>, your emotions can affect how you think, make decisions, and solve problems, especially when it comes to tasks that require thinking.<\/p>\n<p>This is, as Neeta points out, where being able to stretch your emotional capacity comes in.<\/p>\n<p>She explains to Vishen that it\u2019s \u201c<em>to really allow ourselves room for perhaps some anger that we\u2019ve suppressed, maybe allow ourselves the room to feel rage<\/em>.\u201d Because the thing is, positive emotions are absolutely important. But negative emotions are just as valid.<\/p>\n<p><strong>What you can do, according to Dr. Neeta Bhushan:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Take a moment to dig deep and uncover the reasons behind your emotional patterns. Why do you react the way you do?\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>And hey, it\u2019s not about blaming yourself or beating yourself up. It\u2019s about understanding yourself better and finding healthier ways to process and express your feelings.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>Feeling these feelings\u2014in fact, it\u2019s actually really good for you<\/em>,\u201d says Neeta.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-build-your-radical-self-awareness\">4. Build your radical self-awareness<\/h3>\n<p>What in the world is \u201cradical self-awareness,\u201d you ask? As its name hints, it\u2019s the practice of developing a deep sense of <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/self-awareness\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">self-awareness<\/a>.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>It allows you to\u2026<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Hone in on your intuition,<\/li>\n<li>Recognize the signs of misalignment, and<\/li>\n<li>Ask yourself crucial questions about your choices and motivations.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>And by doing so, you become attuned to your authentic selves. This can help you make conscious choices that foster resilience and personal fulfillment.<\/p>\n<p><strong>What you can do, according to Dr. Neeta Bhushan:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Instead of \u201cWhy is this happening to me?\u201d as Neeta explains, the question now becomes \u201cHow am I playing a role in this?\u201d and \u201cWhat do I want to create?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And in doing so, you\u2019re not going into a victim state. You\u2019re going into <em>a victor state<\/em>.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>When we\u2019re asking more of those questions, then we\u2019re actually inviting opportunities for change, for growth, for evolution<\/em>,\u201d she adds. \u201c<em>We\u2019re not sitting in the stock anymore. We\u2019re now inviting possibilities for what that\u2019s going to look like<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CtCCmd2uiQz\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\" style=\" background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; min-width:326px; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); width:calc(100% - 2px);\"\/>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-so-now-what\">So\u2026Now What?<\/h2>\n<p>Neeta\u2019s story isn\u2019t just about the tough times. Rather, it\u2019s a testament to the power of transformation and the beautiful opportunities that can arise from the darkest tragedies.<\/p>\n<p>So, if you find yourself grappling with the \u201csucky\u201d moments in life or navigating major changes, know that if Neeta can come out of the darkness, so can you.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>If you need a little help, though, Mindvalley is a place you can turn to. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindvalley.com\/signup?utm_source=blog_inline_link&amp;utm_campaign=evergreen_freemium&amp;utm_medium=end_of_article&amp;otag=mv_blog_freemium&amp;utm_content=neeta-bhushan\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>Sign up for a free Mindvalley account<\/strong><\/a><strong> <\/strong>and discover the vast library of courses for your journey of resilience and grit.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s where you can start:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong><em>Be Extraordinary<\/em><\/strong><strong> Quest with Vishen. <\/strong>Discover the secrets to manifesting your desires and bending reality to create the life you truly desire.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong><em>From Awesome to Flawesome<\/em><\/strong><strong> Quest with Kristina M\u00e4nd-Lakhiani. <\/strong>Learn to embrace your fully awesome self\u2014flaws and all\u2014and step into a life of unwavering self-acceptance and unparalleled happiness.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong><em>Magical Living<\/em><\/strong><strong> Quest with Tim Storey.<\/strong> Break free from negative thinking and unlock a world of bigger adventures, abundant opportunities, and profound meaning.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>When you unlock your Mindvalley access, you can watch the first few lessons of each Quest for free. What\u2019s more, you\u2019ll be part of a global community of changemakers, so you can find a kindred spirit to buddy up with.<\/p>\n<p>Now, the thing is, Neeta Bhushan\u2019s message is clear: no matter how hard life gets, there is always hope, and there is always a way forward.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>And happiness? It no longer feels like a distant memory. Because you know you\u2019ll always find your way back to it.<\/p>\n<p>Welcome in.<\/p>\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n<p><strong><em>Dr. Neeta Bhushan\u2019s latest book, <\/em><\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/neetabhushan.com\/book\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>That Sucked. Now What?<\/strong><\/a><strong><em>, is available for purchase.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><script async defer src=\"https:\/\/platform.instagram.com\/en_US\/embeds.js\"><\/script><br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Just when you think life is going good, you find yourself face-to-face with gut-wrenching moments that shake you to your core. 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