{"id":418,"date":"2022-12-23T21:02:51","date_gmt":"2022-12-24T01:02:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/why-are-people-so-surprised-when-someones-polite\/"},"modified":"2022-12-23T21:02:51","modified_gmt":"2022-12-24T01:02:51","slug":"why-are-people-so-surprised-when-someones-polite","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/why-are-people-so-surprised-when-someones-polite\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Are People So Surprised When Someone\u2019s Polite?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Are you surprised when folks have good manners? While common courtesy was expected years ago, courteous behavior is scarce today. In fact, some say that decency and grace are more the exception than the rule.<\/p>\n

What does it take to pick up after yourself, be respectful of others, or display proper cell phone etiquette? What does it take to show up on time, wait your turn, or respond to emails in a timely fashion? What does it take to say please and thank you, give someone else a turn, or chew with your mouth closed? (Yes, please.) You shouldn\u2019t be surprised when someone\u2019s polite. After all, as Alexander McCall Smith, the British writer, said, \u201cManners are the basic building blocks of civil society.\u201d<\/p>\n

Yet according to a recent Wall Street Journal <\/em>article<\/a>, \u201cWhat the #@$%! Happened to Our Manners at Work?\u201d, people are cursing more and handshaking less, quitting on shorter notice, and waiting longer to answer emails and texts.<\/p>\n

Some people say this phenomenon is due to the pandemic \u2014 people were isolated from others and that caused some folks to forget how to behave. Others say it\u2019s caused by the decline in face-to-face-communication since the advent of texting, email, and social media.<\/p>\n

Some people say things via social media that they\u2019d never say in person.<\/p>\n

Being courteous isn\u2019t like climbing Mount Kilimanjaro. It\u2019s quite effortless. Yet it seems when people display good manners, it\u2019s not only appreciated\u2026it\u2019s viewed as out of the ordinary. Who would have thought that you could distinguish yourself simply by being polite?<\/p>\n

People Notice\u2026Believe Me<\/h3>\n

What does it say about someone who cuts in line, fails to show gratitude, and would rather watch<\/em> you work than lift a finger? These are the same folks who look down their nose at people, text at the dinner table, and quite frankly physically look like slobs.<\/p>\n

I wonder if they realize, or care about, the message that they\u2019re sending.<\/p>\n

Some folks with poor manners offer excuses, such as \u201cI never learned\u201d or \u201cI don\u2019t have the time<\/a>.\u201d Yet others, with huge egos<\/a>, may think, \u201cI\u2019m the boss. Manners don\u2019t apply to me.\u201d The fact is, it doesn\u2019t take more effort to be kind, courteous, and respectful<\/a>. What\u2019s more, when you disregard and disrespect others you show a lack of respect for yourself.<\/p>\n

Good manners help make people feel good about themselves, as well as help make others feel good about you.<\/p>\n

Make a Good Impression<\/h3>\n

Some people go to great lengths to make a good impression \u2014 when it counts. If it\u2019s possible to be courteous once, why would you lower the bar other times? When you do the right thing day in and day out, it\u2019s habit forming. The converse is also true.<\/p>\n

If you want to be a standout<\/em> in life, sometimes all it takes is doing something ordinary<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Being courteous and considerate isn\u2019t too much to ask. All it takes is a conscious decision to act that way. Show a little pride in yourself. While being polite may seem like a very small deal, behaving that way says a lot about you. As Bryant H. McGill, the thought leader, said, \u201cGood manners are appreciated as much as bad manners are abhorred.\u201d That shouldn\u2019t come as a surprise to you.<\/p>\n

Check out Frank\u2019s new book,\u00a0The Path to a Meaningful Life<\/i><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Are You Surprised When Someone\u2019s Polite?<\/h3>\n

Please leave a\u00a0comment<\/a>\u00a0and tell us what you think or\u00a0share it with someone who can benefit from the information.<\/b><\/p>\n

Additional Reading:
It\u2019s Vital to Say Please and Thank You. Here\u2019s Why\u2026<\/a>
Mind Your Manners<\/a>
What Does It Take to Show a Little Kindness?<\/a>
Ways to Say You Care<\/a>
Are People Invisible to You?<\/a>
Do Your Friends Feel Comfortable Around You?<\/a>
Reputation: You Can\u2019t Run from Your Shadow<\/a><\/p>\n

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