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Ever found yourself wishing you knew how to start a conversation, especially in situations where it matters the most?\u00a0<\/p>\n

For example, you\u2019re at a coffee shop, and you notice someone interesting sitting a few tables away. Yet, the weight of that initial \u201chello\u201d feels a whole lot heavier than the coffee mug you\u2019re holding.<\/p>\n

Starting a conversation\u2014whether it\u2019s with a potential partner, a coworker, or even a stranger\u2014is an art form. And, undeniably, it\u2019s one that many of us find challenging.<\/p>\n

But with the help of Mindvalley experts, you\u2019ll have the know-how so that you\u2019re never at a loss for words again.<\/p>\n

How to Start a Conversation On a Date<\/h2>\n

The dating world is like the internet\u2014you put yourself out there, and you don\u2019t always know what you\u2019re going to get. And then there\u2019s the wonder of what you\u2019re going to talk about.<\/p>\n

From families to jobs to likes and dislikes, there are plenty of topics to cover. However, the Love & Money Survey<\/a> from The Balance<\/em> found that 44% of daters say that talking about money ruins the chances of a second date. (So note to self: keep that conversation for another day.)<\/p>\n

According to Keith Ferrazzi<\/strong>, a leading networking expert and trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s Mastering Authentic Networking<\/em> Quest, \u201cevery conversation you have is an invitation to reveal the real you<\/em>.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n

So knowing how to start a conversation on a date can be mighty useful.<\/p>\n

How to start a conversation with a girl<\/h3>\n

Imagine you\u2019re in the shoes of Albert Brennaman from Hitch<\/em>\u2014a bit clumsy, a whole lot nervous, and trying to win the attention of someone like Allegra Cole. It\u2019s daunting, isn\u2019t it?\u00a0<\/p>\n

However, even if you feel like you\u2019re walking on a tightrope when thinking about how to start a conversation with a girl, there are tips you can use to make sure you don\u2019t topple over. And while you may not have a dating coach like Alex Hitchens to guide you, you can still master the art of the approach.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how to not be socially awkward<\/a> and make a lasting first impression:<\/p>\n

1. Be memorable<\/h4>\n

\u201cHow do you want people to feel before, during, and after interacting with you?<\/em>\u201d That\u2019s the question Vanessa Van Edwards<\/strong>, a behavioral scientist and trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s Magnetic Charisma<\/em> Quest, poses.<\/p>\n

According to her, most of our opening lines are negative, even if it\u2019s by accident. These are the \u201cUgh, traffic was terrible<\/em>\u201d or \u201cThis weather is unbearable!<\/em>\u201d or \u201cIt\u2019s been \u2018a day\u2019<\/em>\u201d conversations.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen you say those words, it actually makes people feel more stressed, busy, terrible, bad<\/em>,\u201d she explains.<\/p>\n

What you can do: <\/strong>Do something surprising. It can be something small, but make it unexpected.<\/p>\n

Small, unexpected things create beautiful, authentic ways to surprise. \u2014 @vvanedwards<\/p>\n

For example, instead of asking them if they\u2019d like to go grab some coffee, invite them out to get a taco instead. Or a waffle. Or a lemonade.\u00a0<\/p>\n

The point is, it\u2019s something unexpected, which then makes it memorable.<\/p>\n

2. Indulge in conscious conversations\u00a0<\/h4>\n

Now, shallow chitchat isn\u2019t the aim of striking up conversations with a girl. It\u2019s crafting a list of things to talk about and speaking them from the heart\u2014what Neelam Verma<\/strong> calls \u201cconscious communication.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s heart-centered communication that\u2019s expressed with kindness and clarity<\/em>,\u201d explains the founder of Integrity Dating and trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s Finding Love With Integrity Dating<\/em> Quest. \u201cIt requires you to be intentional, vulnerable, and respectful so you can create a safe space to connect<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n

Conscious conversations lead to conscious relationships. \u2014 @neelamverma <\/a><\/span>Click To Tweet<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

What you can do: <\/strong>This interpersonal communication<\/a> requires you to share your own dreams, desires, and thoughts first. And then ask questions about them. It\u2019s like saying, \u201cHey, here\u2019s a piece of my world. What about you?<\/em>\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen you dive right in, you ask the most important questions first, and you not only honor your time and energy but also your dates<\/em>,\u201d says Neelam. And that can be a dating game-changer because you\u2019re aligning your paths right from the get-go.<\/p>\n

3. Use the \u201csteeple\u201d gesture<\/h4>\n

Your body language<\/a> accounts for the majority of what you say. And one of the most powerful gestures you can use is something called \u201csteeple.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n

According to Allan Pease<\/strong>, \u201cMr. Body Language\u201d and trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s Mastering Body Language: Truth, Lies, Love & Power<\/em> Quest, here\u2019s why it\u2019s so effective:<\/p>\n