{"id":4717,"date":"2023-10-25T18:55:13","date_gmt":"2023-10-25T22:55:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/how-to-make-your-honeymoon-phase-last-according-to-jamie-wheal\/"},"modified":"2023-10-25T18:55:13","modified_gmt":"2023-10-25T22:55:13","slug":"how-to-make-your-honeymoon-phase-last-according-to-jamie-wheal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/how-to-make-your-honeymoon-phase-last-according-to-jamie-wheal\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Make Your Honeymoon Phase Last, According to Jamie Wheal"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>Many of us go into a relationship all lovey-dovey. We can\u2019t keep our hands off our partners. And the sex? <em>Amazing<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>But as weeks, months, years go by, life does what it does best\u2014it happens. With jobs and kids thrown into the mix, the lust burns out.<\/p>\n<p>What if there was a way, though, to ignite that spark again? And not only that, but keep it burning?<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>There\u2019s this giant missing chapter of the story of human sexuality and what we can do with it<\/em>,\u201d explains <strong>Jamie Wheal<\/strong>, the founder of the Flow Genome Project and author of <em>Recapture the Rapture: Rethinking God, Sex, and Death in a World That\u2019s Lost Its Mind<\/em>, on The Mindvalley Show with Vishen.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>If we understand it and if we can then reclaim it<\/em>,\u201d he adds, \u201c<em>[we can] put it towards the highest purposes and passions of our existence<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed aligncenter is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\">\n<p>\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Ep #017 | Sex, Psychedelics, and How to Make Your Honeymoon Phase Last Forever\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/bx1OlnGp2HU?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/p><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Ep #017 | Sex, Psychedelics, and How to Make Your Honeymoon Phase Last Forever<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-jamie-wheel-on-why-sex-is-important-in-a-relationship\">Jamie Wheel On Why Sex Is Important In a Relationship<\/h2>\n<p>Sex\u2014it\u2019s often associated with pleasure or to continue our lineage. However, it\u2019s also a profound language of love and an expression of trust. And it\u2019s one of the most effective <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/relationship-hacks-jon-missy-butcher\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">relationship hacks<\/a> to deepen our connections as a species.<\/p>\n<p>As Jamie says, \u201c<em>Our whole pleasure and reward system maps one to one with the sexual arousal network because if any animal doesn\u2019t figure out how to procreate, we die<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>But how deep does this bond go in real-life relationships? The Pew Research Center provides some <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pewresearch.org\/social-trends\/2019\/11\/06\/how-married-and-cohabiting-adults-see-their-relationships\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">insights<\/a>: many married and cohabiting couples are satisfied with their sex lives; however, it\u2019s the married ones who often feel a deeper emotional connection. In fact, 78% of them view their spouse as their closest confidant, compared to 55% of cohabiting couples.<\/p>\n<p>This data, however, doesn\u2019t detract from the importance of sex; instead, it reinforces Jamie\u2019s insights that sex is a gateway to deeper states of bonding and understanding. The essence isn\u2019t just in the act, but in the shared experiences, the mutual explorations, and the unity it can foster between two individuals.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-science-behind-sex-and-lasting-relationship-bliss\">The science behind sex and lasting relationship bliss<\/h3>\n<p>When two people come together, it\u2019s not just about feeling good and harnessing their <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/sexual-energy\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">sexual energy<\/a>. In fact, there\u2019s a whole list of benefits that come along with this type of pleasure.<\/p>\n<p>Sexual activity promotes the release of four key chemicals. These are dopamine, which rewards and motivates us; endorphins, which relieve pain and stress; oxytocin, which bonds and connects us; and serotonin, which stabilizes mood and well-being.<\/p>\n<p>Research even shows that sex generally improves relationships. Here\u2019s a closer look at three:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>A <a href=\"https:\/\/psycnet.apa.org\/record\/2016-18117-001\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">2016 study<\/a> published in the <em>Journal of Family Psychology<\/em> suggests that having a good sex life is important for a happy long-term relationship.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Another <a href=\"https:\/\/www.tandfonline.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1080\/00926230591006719\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">study<\/a> in the <em>Journal of Sex &amp; Marital Therapy<\/em> found that both good communication and a satisfying sex life make marriages happier.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>One more <a href=\"https:\/\/link.springer.com\/article\/10.1007\/s10508-011-9766-9\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">study<\/a> in the <em>Archives of Sexual Behavior<\/em> found that if dating couples don\u2019t have as much sex as they want, it can make them less happy, and their relationship might not last as long.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>So doing the \u201cgood thing\u201d creates intense pleasure and improves your mood, for sure. But it also promotes communication and bonding, relieves stress and pain, promotes memory, and increases self-esteem.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>Once you\u2019re in that neurochemical state, creating a neurochemical cascade<\/em>,\u201d Jamie highlights, \u201c<em>magically, you feel lust. You feel attraction. You feel novelty<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-spice-up-your-sex-life-here-are-5-tips-from-jamie-wheal\">How to Spice Up Your Sex Life? Here Are 5 Tips From Jamie Wheal<\/h2>\n<p>Maintaining a sex life, let alone a thriving one, can pose a challenge. And it\u2019s especially true for females looking to have <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/sex-after-menopause\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">sex after menopause<\/a> or males who\u2019re going through a <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/midlife-crisis\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">midlife crisis<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>But it can\u2019t be denied that the zest for intimacy and passion remains essential throughout your life. So what can you do about it? In his sit-down with Vishen, Jamie laid out three pivotal ways to keep the flame burning in any relationship.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-sexual-fitness-make-it-a-routine\">1. Sexual fitness\u2014make it a routine<\/h3>\n<p>Having a good sex life is like working out; it needs regular attention. And the practice of doing so can be done intentionally.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>We have the ability to, like, literally make love<\/em>,\u201d Jamie explains. \u201c<em>We can create and precipitate the neurochemical cascade<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>So what\u2019s the next step? Set aside consistent time for intimacy, just as you would for a gym session. This not only keeps the passion alive and deepens your bond, but it also naturally boosts your <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/sexual-confidence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">sexual confidence<\/a> as an added bonus.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-timing-is-everything\">2. Timing is everything<\/h3>\n<p>Understanding a woman\u2019s rhythms can elevate intimacy to new heights. Throughout the month, women\u2019s bodies undergo a series of hormonal changes known to influence mood, energy, and desire.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>In fact, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4720522\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">research<\/a> in the journal <em>Hormones and Behavior<\/em> notes a peak in women\u2019s sexual desire around ovulation, credited to a spike in estrogen levels. Conversely, the latter half of the cycle sees a rise in progesterone, sometimes leading to symptoms like mood swings.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>If you\u2019re going to plan what, you know, in the UK they call your \u2018dirty weekend,\u2019 where are you going to go away to a hotel right to make love and have privacy, you want to time it 100% for the weekend that overlaps with the woman\u2019s ovulatory week<\/em>,\u201d Jamie points out.<\/p>\n<p>And so, understanding these natural rhythms and being attuned to your partner\u2019s unique cycle can be incredibly transformative.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-master-the-art-of-cl-t-stimulation\">3. Master the art of cl*t stimulation<\/h3>\n<p>Society has made rapid progress in many fields, yet it wasn\u2019t until the late \u201890s that urological surgeon Helen O\u2019Connell fully mapped the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.academia.edu\/22796305\/Anatomy_of_the_Clitoris\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">anatomy of the clitoris<\/a>. This complex structure boasts nerve endings that far surpass those in a man\u2019s counterpart.<\/p>\n<p>This organ, radiating around a woman\u2019s pelvis, offers a vast realm of stimulation and sensation, essential for understanding genuine feminine pleasure.<\/p>\n<p>To harness its power, Jamie suggests trying a month-long commitment: 15 minutes a day of focused clitoral stimulation with no further expectations. This approach, according to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.frontiersin.org\/articles\/10.3389\/fpsyg.2021.708973\/full\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">res<\/a>earch, not only bolsters intimacy but also lays the groundwork for genuine mutual understanding.<\/p>\n<p>Plus, it\u2019s crucial to synchronize timings: before even considering penetration, ensure a woman has experienced at least one orgasm. Such simple shifts can immensely transform the landscape of a relationship, reigniting passion and deepening connection.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-afternoon-delights-anyone\">4. Afternoon delights, anyone?<\/h3>\n<p>Job, family responsibilities, and all else\u2014there\u2019s always so much going on. So it\u2019s no wonder intimacy often takes a backseat, and our <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/sexual-confidence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">sexual confidence<\/a> dwindles as the urge for sex turns into \u201c<em>I\u2019m too tired<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s the thing to understand, though: The natural rhythm of a man\u2019s testosterone, as Jamie explains, is that the man will wake up often with an erection, which will taper<em> <\/em>through the morning, and come back up in the early afternoon with more oxytocin.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>If a woman just wants, you know, a quick and dirty, your morning man\u2019s the guy, right?<\/em>\u201d he adds. \u201c<em>But if she actually wants relatedness and connection with passion, afternoon delight, skyrockets in flight, right? That\u2019s the time<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>So, couples should prioritize intimacy, perhaps scheduling an \u201cafternoon delight\u201d\u2014no excuses\u2026 Well, maybe <em>sexcuses<\/em>.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-forget-the-wine-try-these-aphrodisiacs-instead\">5. Forget the wine\u2014try these aphrodisiacs instead<\/h3>\n<p>We often don\u2019t realize that many of us already mix drugs with sexuality, from alcohol to antidepressants like SSRIs. And the thing is, they can significantly dampen libido. The pressing question is: how can we harness chemicals responsibly to optimize our sexual experiences?\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Psychedelic pioneers like <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Pihkal-Chemical-Story-Alexander-Shulgin\/dp\/0963009605\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Sasha Shogun<\/a> and his wife Anne delved into this very question, meticulously documenting their erotic adventures under the influence of various substances. They found compounds like 2CB from the mescaline family to be both magical and arousing. Others, like MDMA (widely recognized as \u201cecstasy\u201d), on the other hand, posed challenges for male arousal.<\/p>\n<p>Venturing into these territories can unlock profound experiences, from deeply personal traumas to expansive, collective empathies. As a result, they forever change one\u2019s perspective on intimacy.<\/p>\n<p><strong>It\u2019s important to note, though, to tread with caution. Consult with trusted medical professionals and do your due diligence before experimentation.<\/strong><\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" fetchpriority=\"high\" width=\"1880\" height=\"1054\" alt=\"Jamie Wheal, the founder of the Flow Genome Project and author of Recapture the Rapture: Rethinking God, Sex, and Death in a World That\u2019s Lost Its Mind\" class=\"wp-image-69446\" style=\"aspect-ratio:1.7836812144212524;width:840px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/10\/021af348-jamie-wheal-a-festcolombia-0c2a1840-photobykerstiniglas.webp 1880w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/10\/021af348-jamie-wheal-a-festcolombia-0c2a1840-photobykerstiniglas-768x431.webp 768w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/10\/021af348-jamie-wheal-a-festcolombia-0c2a1840-photobykerstiniglas-1536x861.webp 1536w\" data-lazy-sizes=\"(max-width: 1880px) 100vw, 1880px\" src=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/10\/021af348-jamie-wheal-a-festcolombia-0c2a1840-photobykerstiniglas.webp\"\/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" fetchpriority=\"high\" width=\"1880\" height=\"1054\" src=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/10\/021af348-jamie-wheal-a-festcolombia-0c2a1840-photobykerstiniglas.webp\" alt=\"Jamie Wheal, the founder of the Flow Genome Project and author of Recapture the Rapture: Rethinking God, Sex, and Death in a World That\u2019s Lost Its Mind\" class=\"wp-image-69446\" style=\"aspect-ratio:1.7836812144212524;width:840px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/10\/021af348-jamie-wheal-a-festcolombia-0c2a1840-photobykerstiniglas.webp 1880w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/10\/021af348-jamie-wheal-a-festcolombia-0c2a1840-photobykerstiniglas-768x431.webp 768w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/10\/021af348-jamie-wheal-a-festcolombia-0c2a1840-photobykerstiniglas-1536x861.webp 1536w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1880px) 100vw, 1880px\"\/><\/noscript><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Jamie Wheal, founder of the Flow Genome Project and author of <em>Recapture the Rapture: Rethinking God, Sex, and Death in a World That\u2019s Lost Its Mind<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-unleash-your-sensual-surge\">Unleash Your Sensual Surge<\/h2>\n<p>The constant touching and playing turns into absentminded, robotic kisses and \u201c<em>you\u2019re in and then you\u2019re out<\/em>.\u201d It\u2019s the typical love story, and it happens to the best of us. But when it does, you know it\u2019s time to resuscitate your sex life.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>You can absolutely dive into Jamie Wheal\u2019s books, <em>Stealing Fire: How Silicon Valley, the Navy SEALs, and Maverick Scientists Are Revolutionizing the Way We Live and Work<\/em> and <em>Recapture the Rapture: Rethinking God, Sex, and Death in a World That\u2019s Lost Its Mind<\/em>, for insights and wisdom.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>However, if you want to take your sex life to a whole other level, you can learn from the experts at Mindvalley. If you\u2019re already a Member, you can check out the <strong><em>Waves of Pleasure<\/em> Quest<\/strong> with Bibi Brzozka, <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/category-13\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Category 13<\/a> with <strong><em>Lifebook<\/em>\u2019s<\/strong> Jon and Missy Butcher, and <strong><em>Neo-Tantra<\/em> Quest<\/strong> with Layla Martin, among others.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re yet to be a Member, you can still sample their classes when you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindvalley.com\/signup\/?utm_source=blog_inline_link&amp;utm_campaign=evergreen_freemium&amp;utm_medium=end_of_article&amp;otag=mv_blog_freemium\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>sign up for a free Mindvalley account<\/strong><\/a><strong>.<\/strong> By doing so, you unlock the first few lessons of the quests. Not only that, you\u2019ll also get access to daily meditations to help bolster your journey to lasting sexual and relationship bliss.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>By committing to sexuality as a practice and perfecting how to make love, how to actually prime the neurochemistry of the lust and the attraction that fires us up in the beginning<\/em>,\u201d says Jamie, \u201c<em>we can actually bring it back and light our path ahead<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Welcome in.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Many of us go into a relationship all lovey-dovey. 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