{"id":5631,"date":"2024-01-03T21:03:49","date_gmt":"2024-01-04T01:03:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/the-dangers-of-comparing-yourself-to-others\/"},"modified":"2024-01-03T21:03:49","modified_gmt":"2024-01-04T01:03:49","slug":"the-dangers-of-comparing-yourself-to-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/the-dangers-of-comparing-yourself-to-others\/","title":{"rendered":"The Dangers of Comparing Yourself to Others"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Comparing yourself to others is a reliable way to reduce your confidence, motivation, and self-esteem. It must be natural to make these types of comparisons, because nearly everyone does it. However, that doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s a good move.<\/p>\n

If you want to become the best possible you, avoid comparing yourself to others.<\/p>\n

The Dangers<\/strong><\/p>\n

There are several challenges that occur when you compare yourself to someone else:<\/h3>\n

1. Everyone has a different starting point.<\/strong> You might be just learning to play golf, but your friend has been playing for 10 years. You might be interested in playing basketball, but you\u2019re only 5-feet tall and your friend is 18 inches taller than you are.<\/p>\n

\u2013 You can\u2019t compare progress, results, or success unless the starting points are the same, and they never are.<\/p>\n

2. Everyone has a different level of talent.<\/strong> Some people are born with a high IQ. Some people naturally have amazing hand-eye coordination. Others have a natural knack for music or math. Again, different starting points.<\/p>\n

3. The resources available to you and another person are different.<\/strong> If you want to play the violin and your father is a wealthy concert violinist, you have a huge advantage over someone born into a financially-challenged family that has no experience in music.<\/p>\n

4. We tend to compare ourselves to the best in the world.<\/strong> You don\u2019t compare your Texas Hold\u2019em skills to your neighbor the electrician. You compare yourself to the tournament winners. We don\u2019t compare ourselves to the average. We compare ourselves to the best the world has to offer.<\/p>\n

5. There\u2019s always someone better.<\/strong> There are only a handful of people that can make a reasonable claim to being the best at anything. There are nearly eight billion people in the world. That\u2019s a lot of people you have to surpass to be the best.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to see why making comparisons can be dangerous. There\u2019s little to gain and too much risk. Comparing yourself to others doesn\u2019t provide useful information. You\u2019re only going to upset yourself, and that type of comparison isn\u2019t fair in the first place.<\/p>\n

The Solution<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s what you can do instead:<\/h3>\n

1. Compare yourself to yourself.<\/strong> A better option is to compare yourself to yourself. Pay attention to your progress over time. Notice your improvement. As long as you\u2019re making headway, you have a good reason to be excited! Strive to become better each day.<\/p>\n

2. Limit your exposure to social media.<\/strong> In theory, social media exists to connect people. In actuality, social media is often used as a way of showing off.<\/p>\n

\u2013 You rarely get the real story. What you get is someone\u2019s best attempt to make their life look better than it really is. Everyone, except you, seems to be living a spectacular life. It\u2019s not true.<\/p>\n

\u2013 Be cautious with social media. Most people report being happier when they removed social media from their lives.<\/p>\n

3. Use the success of others as inspiration.<\/strong> The success of others can be useful to you. You can study how they became so successful. Their success can inspire you to become the best you can be. Just avoid comparing your success to theirs.<\/p>\n

Do you compare yourself to others? Making this type of comparison can be detrimental to your confidence and self-esteem. Instead, compare your current version of yourself to the version of yourself from three months ago. That\u2019s a fair comparison to make. It becomes easy to see your progress or lack of progress.<\/p>\n

The best comparison you can make is to your past self. Set a few goals and spend some time each day working on those goals. You\u2019ll be happy when you see the progress you\u2019ve made.<\/p>\n

Originally posted 2019-09-18 14:28:28. <\/small><\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n

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