{"id":645,"date":"2023-01-06T20:23:22","date_gmt":"2023-01-07T00:23:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/vulnerability-is-overrated-impossible\/"},"modified":"2023-01-06T20:23:22","modified_gmt":"2023-01-07T00:23:22","slug":"vulnerability-is-overrated-impossible","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/vulnerability-is-overrated-impossible\/","title":{"rendered":"Vulnerability is Overrated | IMPOSSIBLE \u00ae"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div itemprop=\"text\">\n<p>Vulnerability is overrated. That\u2019s it. That\u2019s the tweet.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-twitter wp-block-embed-twitter\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"500\" data-dnt=\"true\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">Vulnerability is overrated.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s it. That&#8217;s the tweet.<\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Joel Runyon (@joelrunyon) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/joelrunyon\/status\/1536390194856869890?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">June 13, 2022<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/figure>\n<p>Fun story \u2013 I actually sat down next to Brene Brown in a Portland classroom \u201cgreenroom\u201d while we were both getting ready to do breakout talks at one of the first WDS events 10+ years ago.<\/p>\n<p>Great lady, and then next year she went on to give her TED talk on vulnerability that\u2019s got some 17M views and counting. Great job Brene!<\/p>\n<p>Maybe at the time, vulnerability needed some PR, but it\u2019s gone way too far.<\/p>\n<p>Vulnerability has taken over an entire section of social media where people write blogs, do podcasts or do tik toks to slow, sad piano music of things they\u2019re insecure about that get millions of views.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not just unhelpful. It\u2019s depressing.<\/p>\n<p>You have amazing people instead of being inspiriting talking about what they\u2019re amazing at and the limits of human potential \u2013 talking about things that they\u2019re bad at \u2013 like bookkeeping.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s become this ritual \u2013 like some sort of weird, secular confessional where people have to tell people they\u2019re not perfect because they don\u2019t like to bookkeep (even though they have an amazing business, work out like a maniac, and have a great relationship).<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re nailing the big things \u2013 guess what? No one cares if you suck at bookkeeping.<\/p>\n<p>Everyone hates accounting (if you love accounting, we appreciate you).<\/p>\n<p>This public sharing of vulnerability isn\u2019t just unhelpful and uninspiring. It\u2019s borderline dangerous.<\/p>\n<p>It rewires your brain to think loser thoughts.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cI\u2019m good at this one thing, but I\u2019m not that great at this other thing (that doesn\u2019t actually matter)\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cI\u2019m kind of bad at this.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>Then you focus on that.<\/li>\n<li>Then you start believing it.<\/li>\n<li>Then, you start acting out what you believe.<\/li>\n<li>\u201cI\u2019m bad at things\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The worst part? <a href=\"https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/anything-everything\/\" data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"24232\">How you do anything is how you do everything<\/a>. <a href=\"https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/then-die\/\" data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"3461\">Your thoughts bleed into other parts of your life<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>And the focus you put on the things you\u2019re bad at turns into beliefs that you start to carry over into the areas of life where you actually excel and slow you down there.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Stop it.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re bad at something \u2013 cool. Your goal with the things you\u2019re bad <em>is not to make them your strengths<\/em>. <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">The goal should be for your weaknesses not to kill you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s it. Get good enough at them for not to be mortal deficiencies or major hindrances to your goals.<\/p>\n<p>You might not be great \u2013 that\u2019s fine. But are they good enough? That\u2019s passable. Or better \u2013 get someone else who is great to do it for you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Then focus on what you\u2019re good at.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In some respects, your vulnerability isn\u2019t just not useful \u2013 it\u2019s irrelevant. Because it\u2019s not killing you and you have someone to pick up the slack \u2013 <strong>if you get the big things right \u2013 your weaknesses won\u2019t actually matter.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re still laser focused on sharing your weaknesses \u2013 there might be a few reasons why:<\/p>\n<p><strong>You might not be as good as you imagine you are <em>at something you care about<\/em> (emphasis important).<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If that\u2019s you \u2013 the goal shouldn\u2019t be to be vulnerable. <strong>It\u2019s to fix the problem and be better.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I had to do that earlier this year. I wasn\u2019t fat. But I wasn\u2019t not fat either. For [someone who runs a fitness site], that\u2019s a tough pill to swallow. But I took a test, got an objective results and then made some changes.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CcyLTj_JxQw\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\" style=\" background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width:540px; min-width:326px; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); width:calc(100% - 2px);\"\/>\n<p><strong>You enjoy the dopamine hit that comes with praise from sharing vulnerability \u2013 but don\u2019t want to have to do the actual hard work.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>This means you get all the dopamine without actually addressing the issue or accomplishing the hard thing. Instead, you just have to share that you\u2019re not good at something and get the same (or even more) feedback.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s even more dangerous as it\u2019s negatively incentivizing you to keep being vulnerable instead of either 1) patching the weakness or 2) accomplishing the difficult thing.<\/p>\n<p>The point of humility is to act as a buffer against you believing your own BS. From becoming the next Elizabeth Holmes, Adam Neuman, or Icarus and flying too close to the sun. These people lie to themselves so much that when they\u2019re talking to other people \u2013 they\u2019re not lying \u2013 they believe it and eventually their disconnect from reality is their downfall.<\/p>\n<p>But if humility turns into this public self-flagellation where you never can actually act because you\u2019re too busy being vulnerable and humble \u2013 you\u2019re doing it wrong. And it\u2019s not even a helpful trait. It\u2019s harmful \u2013 to you and others.<\/p>\n<p>We get it \u2013 you\u2019re vulnerable and not perfect. Spoiler alert: nobody is. That\u2019s all baked into the assumptions by you being human.<\/p>\n<p>The question therefor \u2013 given that premise \u2013 is \u2013 \u201cnow what?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>My answer? <\/p>\n<p>Focus on what you\u2019re good at. Then be f-cking amazing at it.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/impossible-list\/\" data-type=\"page\" data-id=\"8\">You have impossible things to do<\/a>. Get to work.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s all.<\/p>\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\"\/>\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">This is available as a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/reel\/CewmP5MphrR\/\">rant on Instagram<\/a> or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@joelrunyon\/video\/7109141665541000491\">Tiktok<\/a> as well.<\/p>\n<p><!--<rdf:RDF xmlns:rdf=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/1999\/02\/22-rdf-syntax-ns#\"\n\t\t\txmlns:dc=\"http:\/\/purl.org\/dc\/elements\/1.1\/\"\n\t\t\txmlns:trackback=\"http:\/\/madskills.com\/public\/xml\/rss\/module\/trackback\/\">\n\t\t<rdf:Description rdf:about=\"https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/vulnerability-is-overrated\/\"\n    dc:identifier=\"https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/vulnerability-is-overrated\/\"\n    dc:title=\"Vulnerability is Overrated\"\n    trackback:ping=\"https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/vulnerability-is-overrated\/trackback\/\" \/>\n<\/rdf:RDF>-->\n<\/div>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><script type=\"rocketlazyloadscript\">\n  !function(f,b,e,v,n,t,s)\n  {if(f.fbq)return;n=f.fbq=function(){n.callMethod?\n  n.callMethod.apply(n,arguments):n.queue.push(arguments)};\n  if(!f._fbq)f._fbq=n;n.push=n;n.loaded=!0;n.version='2.0';\n  n.queue=[];t=b.createElement(e);t.async=!0;\n  t.src=v;s=b.getElementsByTagName(e)[0];\n  s.parentNode.insertBefore(t,s)}(window, document,'script',\n  'https:\/\/connect.facebook.net\/en_US\/fbevents.js');\n  fbq('init', '239581073390542');\n  fbq('track', 'PageView');\n<\/script><script async defer src=\"https:\/\/platform.instagram.com\/en_US\/embeds.js\"><\/script><br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Vulnerability is overrated. 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