{"id":7264,"date":"2024-04-23T01:00:46","date_gmt":"2024-04-23T05:00:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/how-a-book-club-can-make-you-happier\/"},"modified":"2024-04-23T01:00:46","modified_gmt":"2024-04-23T05:00:46","slug":"how-a-book-club-can-make-you-happier","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/how-a-book-club-can-make-you-happier\/","title":{"rendered":"How a Book Club Can Make You Happier"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>Ancient philosophers and contemporary scientists agree: <strong>Strong relationships make people happier<\/strong>. We need enduring, intimate bonds; we need to feel like we belong; we need to be able to confide; we need to be able to get support\u2014and just as important, <em>give<\/em> support.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Ancient philosophers and contemporary scientists also agree: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.realsimple.com\/health\/preventative-health\/benefits-of-reading-real-books\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Reading makes people happier<\/strong>.<\/a> Reading regularly boosts creativity, reduces stress, fosters empathy and understanding\u2013and it\u2019s <em>fun<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>A great way to combine relationships+reading is through a book club!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Any kind of group or organization can help us form and strengthen our relationships, but I do think we get a special boost from a book club.<\/p>\n<h3>How a \u201cbook\u201d club can make you happier<\/h3>\n<p>Many people want to cultivate the habit of reading. Belonging to a book club means that you don\u2019t neglect this aim. And, especially if you\u2019re someone who benefits from outer accountability and deadlines\u2014<a href=\"https:\/\/gretchenrubin.com\/four-tendencies\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Obligers<\/a>, I\u2019m thinking of you\u2014belonging to a book club means that reading doesn\u2019t get pushed to the bottom of the to-do list.<\/p>\n<p>A book club is a terrific way to meet new people who share similar interests.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m in three (yes, <em>three<\/em>) book groups, and through them, I\u2019ve met people I would never have otherwise met, and made strong friendships.<\/p>\n<p>A book club creates a feeling of community and exposes you to new perspectives and ideas. Meeting on a regular basis ensures you\u2019re connecting consistently and have something on the calendar you look forward to with pleasure.<\/p>\n<h3>Shape the book club to suit your interests<\/h3>\n<p>People often assume that a book club has to be organized one way. There\u2019s no right way!<\/p>\n<p>You can start or join a book club for whatever topic or genre interests you. For instance, for a long time, I didn\u2019t admit <a href=\"https:\/\/gretchenrubin.com\/articles\/what-i-learned-about-happiness-from-my-love-of-harry-potter-lesson-1\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">my passionate interest in children\u2019s literature<\/a>. It didn\u2019t fit with my ideas of what I wished I were like. But when I acknowledged what I found fun and made this activity a major pastime by starting a \u201ckidlit\u201d reading group, I dramatically ramped up the fun I got from it.<\/p>\n<p>I now belong to two kidlit groups. To be clear, these groups are for adults who have a taste <em>as adults<\/em> for children\u2019s and young-adult literature\u2014no actual children are involved. Just as some adults like mysteries, sci-fi, or experimental fiction, some enjoy kidlit.<\/p>\n<p>I also belong to a \u201cregular\u201d book club where we read adult books\u2014mostly fiction.<\/p>\n<h3>Creative book club ideas<\/h3>\n<p>Not everyone wants to join a classic book club, but there are many ways to structure a book club to make it as enjoyable as possible. Consider:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/silentbook.club\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Silent book club<\/a>\u2014<\/strong>people get together to read to themselves, in quiet companionship.<\/li>\n<li><strong>No-homework book club\u2014<\/strong>everybody reads whatever they want, then all swap notes about what they recommend or not. (Great solution for <a href=\"https:\/\/gretchenrubin.com\/four-tendencies\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Rebels<\/a>)<\/li>\n<li><strong>Social-issues book club\u2014<\/strong>people read books to become more educated on pressing issues of social policy; my sister Elizabeth joined this kind of book group<\/li>\n<li><strong>Category book club\u2014<\/strong>for instance, I highly recommend the kidlit book club! Or it could be biography, history, sci-fi, romance, horror, mysteries, thrillers, cookbooks\u2026<\/li>\n<li><strong>Subject-matter book club\u2014<\/strong>for people who want to go deep on World War II, gardening, Napoleon, the Tudors, Japan, entrepreneurship, or whatever fascinates the group (we can get a real happiness boost from <a href=\"https:\/\/gretchenrubin.com\/podcast\/more-happier-the-joy-of-being-a-minor-expert\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">becoming a minor expert<\/a>)<\/li>\n<li><strong>Life-stage book club\u2014<\/strong>people read books about parenting, divorce, or whatever is happening in the group\u2019s lives (we can gain insights and support by reading about a life stage, and also from the discussions sparked in the group)<\/li>\n<li><strong>Single-author book club\u2014<\/strong>I know members of a Proust book club and an Anthony Trollope book club<\/li>\n<li><strong>One-off book club\u2014<\/strong>This can be a super-fun way to meet and spend time with people, though it doesn\u2019t offer the same ongoing relationship-building. Last year, I went to a one-off book club to discuss the work of <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Laurie_Colwin\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Laurie Colwin<\/a>, and we had a terrific time.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Prize-winner book clubs\u2014<\/strong>I\u2019ve heard of book groups that select their choices from looking at winners of prizes such as the Pulitzer Prize, Booker Prize, and the National Book Award<\/li>\n<li><strong>Adaptation comparisons\u2014<\/strong>the group reads the book, watches the movie or TV show, and discusses the decisions made in adaptation<\/li>\n<li><strong>Read-then-experience\u2014<\/strong>the group reads books in preparation for an experience they\u2019re going to have together. For instance, the group reads book about a place, then travels to that place, or reads books about an artist, then goes to see a major exhibition. One of my Secrets of Adulthood is: <em>The more we know, the more we notice<\/em>.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Guided-discussion reading group\u2014<\/strong>some groups enjoy inviting an expert to lead their discussion; I\u2019ve never belonged to a group like that, but I\u2019ve heard that it\u2019s really great<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong><br \/>Discussion Ideas<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Because book clubs are so popular, many bookstores, celebrities, and others offer book suggestions. If you need ideas for a book to choose, you can look at:<\/p>\n<p>Also, many writers offer discussion guides to their books. I always do! (If you\u2019re looking for a discussion guide for <em>The Happiness Project, Life in Five Senses<\/em>, or my other books, <a href=\"https:\/\/gretchenrubin.com\/resources\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">look here<\/a>.) If you\u2019re worried about the actual discussion, you may find those guides helpful.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ground Rules<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re starting a group, it\u2019s good to be explicit about the expectation for the group. People may have different assumptions, and those different perspectives can cause friction if they aren\u2019t discussed. For instance:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Can people attend even if they haven\u2019t read the book? The motto of my kidlit groups is \u201cNo guilt.\u201d People are encouraged to come even if they haven\u2019t read the book.<\/li>\n<li>Should the conversation stay focused on the book, or is it okay for people to talk about other topics? Is the discussion highly structured? In my groups, we don\u2019t have a very structured conversation.<\/li>\n<li>If you take turns hosting, what\u2019s expected of the host? the guests?<\/li>\n<li>How often will you meet? I have a group that aims to meet once a month, and two groups that aim for once every six weeks.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The only thing I enjoy as much as reading is talking about reading. If you\u2019re not part of a book group, and the idea appeals to you, consider starting one yourself, or looking for a group to join.<\/p>\n<p>It will boost your happiness in so many ways.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ancient philosophers and contemporary scientists agree: Strong relationships make people happier. 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