{"id":7323,"date":"2024-04-27T15:54:15","date_gmt":"2024-04-27T19:54:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/why-do-men-really-watch-porn\/"},"modified":"2024-04-27T15:54:15","modified_gmt":"2024-04-27T19:54:15","slug":"why-do-men-really-watch-porn","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/why-do-men-really-watch-porn\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Do Men Really Watch Porn?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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We all think of porn differently. Some judge it from a moral perspective, while others look at it from a religious perspective.\u00a0<\/p>\n

But this article isn\u2019t about the moral rightness or wrongness of porn. Instead, it\u2019s about what a cognitive neuroscientist has found\u2013based on years of experience and research\u2013to be the reasons why men watch and easily get addicted to porn.\u00a0<\/p>\n

And if you understand why you\u2019re obsessed with porn, you\u2019ll already be halfway into knowing how to quit. That said, here are five of the most common reasons why men (or anyone) watch porn, according to Dr. Trish Leigh, a cognitive neuroscientist.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

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1. The Buzz\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n

According to Dr. Trish, the major reason why people continue watching porn start isn\u2019t really because of the videos or pictures themselves, rather, as she said,\u00a0<\/p>\n

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\u201cIt\u2019s the release that you\u2019re getting from your brain and the feeling that it gives you.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Watching porn, especially when it\u2019s accompanied by masturbation, causes some chemical release in your brain. It\u2019s a massive flood of dopamine.\u00a0 Your brain feels it\u2019s getting highly rewarded for something even if you didn\u2019t do any work for it.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Over time, you\u2019ll subconsciously realize that nothing can get you that massive dopamine rush as fast as watching porn. This is why you\u2019ll keep going back to porn, trying to get that same good feeling you got at first.\u00a0<\/p>\n

And the more you watch, the intense the pornographic content will have to be for you to have that same feeling. This is where the addiction loop starts. <\/p>\n

Sometimes you\u2019ll end up watching porn for hours because you want to delay the release, hoping to sustain the pleasure and make it last longer and more enjoyable.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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2. Self Medication\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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\u201cSometimes there is a true chemical imbalance. People suffer from anxiety or depression, and watching porn is a way that they self medicate.\u201d \u2014 Dr. Trish Leigh<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

As Dr. Trish explained, if you\u2019ve had an anxiety disorder or depression, that\u2019s a brain performance pattern, and she can see that on a qEEG (Quantitative Electroencephalogram), and tell if you\u2019re medicating yourself with porn.\u00a0<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t need to have a disorder to understand how self-medicating with porn works. If you\u2019ve been hooked to porn or know anyone who was in the past, you\u2019ll know that you\u2019re more prone to watching porn in your down moments.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re depressed, stressed out, lonely, or anxious, you\u2019re more likely to use porn as a means to quickly feel better.\u00a0<\/p>\n

But the problem with self-medicating with porn, besides the fact that it literally changes your brain<\/a>, is that its effect is short-lived. It will only make you feel great for a few minutes.\u00a0<\/p>\n

But after those few short minutes, your loneliness, anxiety, low self-esteem, or whatever that made you turn to porn in the first place, will come back bigger. And you\u2019ll need to go back to porn to make yourself feel better. And there goes the loop of addiction.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Plus, if you have any spiritual or moral thoughts against porn, you\u2019ll only feel more ashamed, depressed, and regretful afterward.\u00a0<\/p>\n

3. Trauma\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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\u201cWhat happens to some people is that they have trauma is their background, and they have found pornography to be a way to escape the feelings that they have.\u201d \u2014 Dr. Trish Leigh<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Dr. Gabor Mat\u00e9 <\/a>is a Hungarian-Canadian physician who has worked with drug addicts for decades, an experience he detailed in his book, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

In 2012, Dr. Mat\u00e9 gave a TEDx talk about the power of addiction. And in that talk, he discussed how one of his patients told him that his first encounter with drugs felt like he was being hugged by a loved one.\u00a0<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s no surprise that this patient will want to go back to that drug to continue receiving that good feeling that makes him experience the hugs that he didn\u2019t get enough of growing up. As Dr. Trish put it,\u00a0<\/p>\n

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\u201cWhen you have emotional pain from your upbringing, and your feelings of abandonment and neglect from your childhood, porn becomes a soothing bandage\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Childhood trauma or neglect can cause loneliness and emotional pain. And porn \u2013 or drugs \u2013 helps to provide an escape from reality. As one of Dr, Mat\u00e9s\u2019 patients found, taking drugs made him feel like he was receiving a hug.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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Also read: 4 Lowlife Things High-Value Men Never\u00a0Do<\/strong><\/p>\n

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4. Sexual Abuse\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n

As Dr. Trish explained, one way that our brains deal with a traumatic experience like sexual abuse is to try and recreate it to gain control over it by reenactment.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Reenactment, according to the NCBI<\/a>, is a compulsion or an attempt to re-experience or recreate a traumatic event.<\/p>\n

For instance, as Dr. Trish explained, \u201csome people are drawn towards watching the sex act that happened to them as a young person.\u201d If you observe that you keep going back to one type of porn, it could be the rough sex, or a fetish for certain kinds of scenes, you might be trying to recreate an experience.\u00a0<\/p>\n

5. Intimacy Anorexia\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n

According to Dr. Trish, some people turn to porn because they are uncomfortable in intimate relationships. Because they find it difficult to cope with everything needed to make a relationship work, they turn to porn to satisfy themselves because it\u2019s convenient.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Intimacy anorexia may also manifest in someone deliberately withholding sex from their partner in a relationship. People who have intimacy anorexia<\/a> will often withhold sex (or love, time, praise, intimacy, etc.) from their partner.\u00a0<\/p>\n

And instead of admitting that the reason they are not so interested in sex is because of pornography, they\u2019ll blame their partners for the lack of sexual intimacy in the relationship.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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Conclusion\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n

People turn to porn for different reasons. And whether you think your level of porn usage is harmful or not, there\u2019s no doubt that there are other ways to deal with the reasons for your porn usage.\u00a0<\/p>\n

For instance, if you watch porn out of stress, you can use that time to do something fun or reach out to someone. If you watch porn as a convenient way to get sexual satisfaction, you could use that time to go out on a date with a real person. This will not just get a romantic partner, it will also give that intimacy you so crave for.\u00a0<\/p>\n

The bottom line is, there are several downsides to porn, and these downsides can quickly spiral out of control. Hence, if you still watch porn, find the reasons you do and stop.\u00a0<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re interested in taking the next step to quit porn, here\u2019s a guide.<\/p>\n

How to Quit Porn, According to A Neuroscientist.\u00a0<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

The article is a detailed guide on quitting porn based on advice from the cognitive neuroscientist, Dr. Trish Leigh. Hope you find it helpful.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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Related: 8 Toxic Male Habits That Cause Weak Erections<\/strong><\/p>\n

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