{"id":735,"date":"2023-01-13T08:31:01","date_gmt":"2023-01-13T12:31:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/how-i-got-in-the-best-shape-of-my-life-at-35\/"},"modified":"2023-01-13T08:31:01","modified_gmt":"2023-01-13T12:31:01","slug":"how-i-got-in-the-best-shape-of-my-life-at-35","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/how-i-got-in-the-best-shape-of-my-life-at-35\/","title":{"rendered":"How I Got In The Best Shape of My Life at 35"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div itemprop=\"text\">\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>\u201cNo man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.\u201d \u2013 Socrates<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Right around the beginning of the year, I looked in the mirror. I was working out 5 days \/ week, getting my butt kicked and when I looked in the mirror, I thought \u201cmeh.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I wasn\u2019t fat, wasn\u2019t jacked, but definitely didn\u2019t think I looked like I worked out as hard as my workouts were \u2013 or more importantly \u2013 the shape I wanted to be in.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/IMG_6168.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/IMG_6168-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-26328\" width=\"384\" height=\"512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/IMG_6168-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/IMG_6168-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/IMG_6168-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/IMG_6168.jpg 1440w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 384px) 100vw, 384px\"\/><\/a><figcaption>January 2022<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p>The realization became more stark when <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=cx-FjywRfV8&amp;t=2s\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=cx-FjywRfV8&amp;t=2s\">I did a DEXA scan and was told I was 23% body fat <\/a>(24% body fat is considered overweight).<\/p>\n<p>Hell no.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not sure if I was being gaslit by a medical device, but it worked. With my 35th birthday glaring at me coming up \u2013 I had one mantra I started repeating to myself.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>I can be old, but I can\u2019t be old and fat.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Over the next 3 months, I dropped about 12 pounds, an undetermined amount of body fat (yet), uncovered my abs and became stronger and faster than I\u2019ve ever been. I\u2019ve hit new PRs on almost all of my lifts, ran a half marathon on a whim, and somehow picked up a couple new skills along the way.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/IMG_7987.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/IMG_7987-836x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-26329\" width=\"418\" height=\"512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/IMG_7987-836x1024.jpg 836w, https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/IMG_7987-245x300.jpg 245w, https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/IMG_7987-768x941.jpg 768w, https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/IMG_7987-1254x1536.jpg 1254w, https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/IMG_7987.jpg 1567w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 418px) 100vw, 418px\"\/><\/a><figcaption>April 2022<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p>Here\u2019s exactly what I did.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"I_Outsourced_My_Fitness\"\/>I Outsourced My Fitness<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>I work out at <a href=\"https:\/\/impossiblefitness.com\/articles\/the-best-gyms-in-austin\">the best damn gym in Austin<\/a>. Maybe the world. <a href=\"https:\/\/atomic-athlete.com\">You can come if you want<\/a>. It\u2019s not fun \u2013 but if you do the work it will change you.<\/p>\n<p>I realized I either have enough time to come up with the workout or enough energy to do the workout. I don\u2019t have time or energy to do both.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re taking on something that\u2019s challenging \u2013 you should probably consider outsourcing your fitness too.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\">\n<p>\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"5 Reasons You Should Outsource Your Fitness Today #shorts\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/vJQsmg-NsfI?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<p>Jordan, Jake and Todd are the truth.<\/p>\n<p>\u2192 <a href=\"https:\/\/atomic-athlete.com\">Go workout at Atomic<\/a><br \/>\u2192 <a href=\"https:\/\/impossiblefitness.com\">If you\u2019re not in Austin, we have some damn good programming in our Impossible Fitness training app here.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>I had been getting my butt kicked at the gym for the previous 18 months, building the baseline strength and toughness that I needed. But the next part of the equation is what unleashed the potential of the work I was doing.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"I_Hired_a_Nutrition_Coach_Accountability_Partner\"\/>I Hired a Nutrition Coach &amp; Accountability Partner<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Everyone has a coach. Even top athletes hire coaches to see things they don\u2019t see, keep them on track, and remind them of what they\u2019re working towards. Even if you don\u2019t have a \u201ccoach\u201d \u2013 you basically do \u2013 yourself \u2013 and you might not be the coach the athlete version of you needs.<\/p>\n<p>I hired a coach (Matt Stephens) to tell me stop eating like an idiot.<\/p>\n<p>Much like outsourcing my fitness, hiring matt was like outsourcing my brain for nutrition. I don\u2019t have to think anymore, I just do the thing he told me to do.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s really relieving to be able to just do the work instead of having to plan the work, decide to do it, and then do it.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s one thing to eat like an idiot. It\u2019s another to have to admit to someone else that you\u2019ve been eating like that.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t have any emotional hangups on food. If I have a goal and I need to do it \u2013 I\u2019ll \u201cflip the switch\u201d and just get it done.<\/p>\n<p>But, it\u2019s super helpful to have not just a coach but an accountability buddy that will raise his eyebrow and be like \u201creally\u201d if I go face first into a donut\/pizza fueled bonanza.<\/p>\n<p>\u2192 <a href=\"https:\/\/realmattstephens.com\/solutions\/\">Matt\u2019s Nutrition Coaching<\/a><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Added_90-150_minutes_of_Zone2_to_my_Week\"\/>Added 90-150 minutes of Zone2 to my Week<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Most people screw up when they log cardio. They do long sections of cardio that are either too hard or too easy. They either beat themselves up or barely even push themselves enough to get any results or adaptation.<\/p>\n<p>The sweet spot for a lot of this work is zone 2 \u2013 basically a heart rate zone roughly between 115 &amp; 135 bpm (depending on your age + sex).<\/p>\n<p>Adding this to my weekly schedule helped burned a few hundred extra calories \/ week and keep me in a caloric deficit for the week while still retaining most of my muscle mass..<\/p>\n<p>While I did this in order to improve fat loss, I found this helped dramatically with my cardio and aerobic capacity. My \u201cgas tank\u201d for workouts was much higher and I found I was performing through my workouts so much better than I had in the past.<\/p>\n<p>\u2192 Read Training for the Uphill Athlete for more on the b<a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3FCcGqb\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3FCcGqb\">enefits of Zone2 as an endurance athlete.<\/a><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Tracked_My_Food_with_Cronometer\"\/>Tracked My Food with Cronometer<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>Instead of just guestimating what I was eating, I logged every single thing I ate with Cronometer. Lots of people use my fitness pal, but I found Cronometer to be more intuitive and useful for me.<\/p>\n<p>Tracking your food is always eye opening. No matter how long you do this, you usually find out that you\u2019re eating something you don\u2019t normally register when you\u2019re not tracking things.<\/p>\n<p>As usual \u2013 if you\u2019re not getting the results out of action that you desire, start measuring the action. Often, you\u2019ll find the problem straightaway.<\/p>\n<p>\u2192 <a href=\"https:\/\/cronometer.com\/\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"https:\/\/cronometer.com\/\">Chronometer<\/a><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Cut_Out_Alcohol\"\/>Cut Out Alcohol<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>I basically cut out alcohol for 95% of things. It\u2019s just easier to not drink anything than have one drink and have to calculate things. It also gave me a lot of time back to work on other things, get more Zone2 work in, launch projects within the business, or even mess around with standup while I was doing all this.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"A_Short_List_of_Things_I_Gave_Up\"\/>A Short List of Things I Gave Up<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>When people talk about doing things they want to do, they always talk about what they want, but they never talk about what they\u2019re willing to give up.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re not where you want to be, you have to be willing to give up something in order to get to the next thing you want to in your life.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s a non-comprehensive list of things I gave up while I was working on this:<\/p>\n<h3>My Ego<\/h3>\n<p>It\u2019s really nice to think you\u2019re the best and you have it all sorted out \u2013 but that\u2019s not the case \u2013 <a href=\"https:\/\/impossiblefitness.com\">even when you have a training apps and programs to help other people do this.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>I could just follow my own, right?<\/p>\n<p>I could and I do! But there\u2019s a thing that happens when you plan things for yourself.<\/p>\n<p>My life is not just fitness right now. I have a lot going on where I have to make my own decisions, weigh tradeoffs and expend mental energy at the moment. I just don\u2019t have space to do that with fitness.<\/p>\n<p>Most people underestimate how the mental taxation of their day-to-day can sabotage other goals outside that (like their fitness goals).<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not that programs are incredibly hard to write. But it\u2019s one thing to write something yourself. It\u2019s another to decide to do it. <strong>Then it\u2019s another to do it.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s something about shutting off your ego, humbling yourself for a coach, and then just showing up and doing the work.<\/p>\n<p>Sure you can do it all on your own \u2013 but if you\u2019re like me \u2013 even if you know what to do \u2013 the act of having someone else plan it for you and reducing your only responsibility down to <em>doing it<\/em> is massively helpful in making sure you actually <em>stick to the plan.<\/em><\/p>\n<h3>My Social Life Took A Backseat<\/h3>\n<p>The gym largely became my social activities. This was a fine tradeoff, but casual weekday drinks became nonexistent. The closest I\u2019d get were gym social events or hanging out at the back of a standup comedy open mic. Even those \u2013 however \u2013 were cleanly scheduled with hard stop times.<\/p>\n<h3>I Stopped Dating &amp; Random Social Apps<\/h3>\n<p>I stopped dating and messing around on random social apps for this entire period. It\u2019s amazing how much time you get back when you stop focusing on other people and focus on yourself. You can get a lot done when you disappear for a little bit.<\/p>\n<h3>I Gave up on Having an Unorganized Schedule<\/h3>\n<p>Free time became basically nonexistent. I had stuff scheduled throughout my days and lived by my calendar. I didn\u2019t have the luxury to have swaths of free time. I was basically fully booked with no intermittent spaces of extra time around.<\/p>\n<h3>I Stopped Alcohol + Eating Out<\/h3>\n<p>While some people do fine with this, I knew from my DEXA scan that I was far off my goal and I\u2019d rather get to my goal faster. Rather than drinking alcohol once \/ week or some similar plan \u2013 I basically cut it out entirely except for a couple occasions around SXSW.<\/p>\n<p>Eating out basically stopped as well \u2013 not because you can\u2019t do it \u2013 but because it got to be a pain in the butt to try and track each meal vs. just cooking things at home myself before I headed out.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Final_Thoughts_on_Aging_Fitness\"\/>Final Thoughts on Aging &amp; Fitness<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"\/><\/h2>\n<p>I remember reading in my late teens and 20s that your 30s were when everything started to go downhill health wise.<\/p>\n<p>The way people talked about it seemed inevitable. Like there was nothing you could do to stave it off.<\/p>\n<p>Whether it\u2019s time, resources, science or just who I\u2019m hanging around \u2013 I\u2019ve found this is objectively not true.<\/p>\n<p>Despite what most standards news sources will say \u2013 30, 35, 40 or more is not a good excuse to stop taking care of yourself anymore \u2013 it\u2019s just what most people do.<\/p>\n<p>I was talking with <a href=\"https:\/\/edlatimore.com\">Ed Latimore<\/a> in town the other day and he remarked \u2013 as you hang around the gym more, you start to bump into people you think are your age (mid thirties) and you find out they\u2019re in their 20s (and not taking care of themselves).<\/p>\n<p>I told him the opposite is true. If you hang around a badass gym enough time \u2013 you\u2019ll start to see people you think are in their early 30s and find out they\u2019re in their early 40s and smashing people (Atomic has tons of these psychos).<\/p>\n<p>30, 35, 40 or more doesn\u2019t mean the end of fitness. It\u2019s just when most people can\u2019t coast along on momentum alone. Your habits start to reveal themselves.<\/p>\n<p>The good news is \u2013 you don\u2019t have to become lazy, out of shape, or weak. Most people do, but you don\u2019t have to be most people. In fact, you don\u2019t have to even do anything as crazy as I did. You can do about 50% of what I did and still likely be in the top 20% of your age group.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" data-instgrm-captioned=\"\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CcyLTj_JxQw\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\" style=\" background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width:540px; min-width:326px; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); width:calc(100% - 2px);\"\/>\n<p>I\u2019m not the peak of physicality (yet ;)), but I\u2019ve found that what started as an aesthetics challenge changed my entire fitness and I\u2019m a better athlete now than when<a href=\"https:\/\/777.impossiblehq.com\">\u00a0I finished the 777 challenge<\/a>. I\u2019m stronger, with better endurance, and I don\u2019t hurt nearly as much.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re thinking about getting back after it \u2013 you owe it to find out what you\u2019re capable of.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/impossiblehq.com\/then-die\/\">There are no finish lines. There are only plateaus.<\/a> But you must not stop there. Keep going. 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