{"id":7909,"date":"2024-06-20T17:24:23","date_gmt":"2024-06-20T21:24:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/if-you-want-to-develop-self-worth-do-things-that-give-you-self-worth\/"},"modified":"2024-06-20T17:24:23","modified_gmt":"2024-06-20T21:24:23","slug":"if-you-want-to-develop-self-worth-do-things-that-give-you-self-worth","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/if-you-want-to-develop-self-worth-do-things-that-give-you-self-worth\/","title":{"rendered":"If You Want to Develop Self-Worth, Do Things That Give You Self-Worth"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u201cStart where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.\u201d<\/em> \u2014Arthur Ashe<\/p>\n

Self-esteem is a valuable pursuit. It impacts our decisions, our relationships, and our well-being in both the short and long-term.<\/p>\n

When our self-esteem is healthy, it affects everything about us. Equally so, when our self-esteem is unhealthy, it affects everything about us<\/a>.<\/p>\n

It is vitally important. And yet, it is estimated that roughly 85% of people worldwide (adults and adolescents) have low self-esteem<\/a>.<\/p>\n

So how do we overcome this pandemic? Years ago, although I cannot remember the exact source, I heard a life-changing piece of advice, \u201cIf you want to develop your self-worth, do things that give you self-worth. You can\u2019t think yourself into feeling better about yourself, but you can intentionally take actions that develop it inside of you.\u201d<\/p>\n

I have found this principle to be true in relation to self-esteem, but also in others areas of life as well.<\/p>\n

We fall into a trap when we think we need to feel good about ourselves before we can start doing something worthwhile. Because actually, the opposite is true. Action results in better thinking\u2014not the other way around.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to wait until everything is perfect before taking a step in the direction of the change you want to see in your life. Take that step\u2014and watch your circumstances change around you.<\/p>\n

This principle was powerfully illustrated to me during a trip back in 2014, when my family was researching orphan care around the world in preparation for launching The Hope Effect<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Alongside a group of friends dedicated to the mission, we visited an orphanage in Baja California. While receiving a tour of the grounds, I noticed a small campground on a hill nearby which I asked about.<\/p>\n

The Director explained that groups from California often stayed there when they came to volunteer.<\/p>\n

Curious, I asked what kind of things they did at the orphanage when they visited.<\/p>\n

He replied, \u201cNo, they don\u2019t come to work here. They work in the city\u2014teaching English, building homes, or helping one of the local churches. In fact,\u201d he continued, \u201cnot only do they not volunteer here, we send our orphaned children with them into the city to volunteer and help with the families living in poverty.\u201d<\/p>\n

The Director opened my eyes to a new way to see the world when he continued, \u201cBecause,\u201d he said, \u201cthe only way to overcome the victim mindset in your life is to begin serving others. Once you do, you realize how much you have to give.\u201d<\/p>\n

That profound insight has stuck with me ever since. It further underscores the truth about our self-esteem: Our actions shape how we think about ourselves. <\/em><\/p>\n

We overcome the victim mindset by actively serving and seeing how much we have to give. And we best develop self-esteem in our own life by engaging in activities that bring it about.<\/p>\n

If you are among the 85% of us struggling with self-esteem, here are some ways to change your self-perception:<\/p>\n

1. Volunteer and Serve Others<\/strong><\/p>\n

Volunteering is one of the most impactful ways to build self-worth. When we serve others, we shift our focus from our own problems to others in the community. But more than that, we realize how we can help to improve the lives of others and bring about a positive change in the world for someone else.<\/p>\n

2. Commit to Mastering a Craft<\/strong><\/p>\n

Whether it\u2019s painting, writing, cooking, or any other skill, committing to mastering a craft can significantly boost our self-esteem. The process of learning and improving builds confidence and a sense of accomplishment. <\/p>\n

Of course, you don\u2019t have to become the best at something for this to help, it\u2019s about dedicating ourselves to improvement and enjoying the journey of growth.<\/p>\n

3. Create Positive Habits<\/strong><\/p>\n

Developing positive habits, such as regular exercise, healthy eating, reading, or journaling will have a profound impact on our self-worth. These habits improve our physical and mental well-being, provide structure to our lives, and offer a sense of achievement. You can choose whichever positive habits you want to grow in, but I find that when I\u2019m doing these three well<\/a>, life gets better.<\/p>\n

4. Practice a Discipline of Gratitude<\/strong><\/p>\n

Gratitude shifts our focus from what we lack to what we have. By regularly acknowledging and appreciating the good things in our lives, we foster a positive mindset and enhance our self-worth. <\/p>\n

Gratitude as a response<\/em> to circumstances isn\u2019t particularly helpful\u2014because when we need it most, it\u2019s the hardest to find. But developing the discipline<\/em> of gratitude (practicing it every day regardless of my circumstances), that\u2019s life-changing.<\/p>\n

5. Take Small Steps Toward Your Goals<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s easier to steer a moving ship,\u201d as the old saying goes. If we wait until we feel fully confident and prepared to start pursuing our goals, we may never begin. <\/p>\n

Instead, take small, actionable steps today<\/a>. Each step, no matter how small, can move us closer to our desired outcome and builds momentum. Whenever we do this, our confidence and self-worth will naturally grow. We don\u2019t feel better about ourselves just at the end of the process, we grow with every single step.<\/p>\n

6. Engage in Meaningful Activities<\/strong><\/p>\n

Choose activities that align with your values and passions. Whether it\u2019s supporting a cause you care about, attending a faith service, spending time with loved ones, or pursuing a hobby, engaging in meaningful activities brings fulfillment and reinforces our sense of purpose. These experiences validate our worth and contribute to a more positive self-image.<\/p>\n

Start Small, Start Today<\/h3>\n

Your first step in the right direction doesn\u2019t need to be a big one. But it does need to happen.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know who needs to hear this, but I know someone does:<\/p>\n

Identify one small action you can take today<\/em> to intentionally move toward greater self-esteem. <\/p>\n

Maybe it\u2019s volunteering for an hour, anonymously sending a struggling single-parent a restaurant gift card, picking up an old hobby, deciding to run a 5k, or simply sending a text expressing gratitude to someone in your life.<\/p>\n

If you want to be happy, do things that bring lasting happiness. If you want to be grateful, practice gratitude regularly. If you want to feel more confident, step out of your comfort zone and take on new challenges. If you want to be a leader, begin to lead.<\/p>\n

And if you want to increase your self-esteem, do things that give you self-esteem. The entire world will benefit from it and we\u2019re all cheering for you.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n

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