{"id":8292,"date":"2024-07-29T18:35:16","date_gmt":"2024-07-29T22:35:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/5-nice-guy-mistakes-men-make-with-women\/"},"modified":"2024-07-29T18:35:16","modified_gmt":"2024-07-29T22:35:16","slug":"5-nice-guy-mistakes-men-make-with-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/5-nice-guy-mistakes-men-make-with-women\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Nice Guy Mistakes Men Make With\u00a0Women"},"content":{"rendered":"

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In his book, The Art of Seduction, Robert Greene pointed out a major flaw in how most men (and women) see the opposite sex. He said,<\/p>\n

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\u201cMen do not understand how women think, and vice versa; each tries to make the other act more like a member of their own\u00a0sex.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

To get a woman to pay attention to you, you can\u2019t depend on instincts or your hormones. They\u2019ll only make you act in ways only men think. This is why some men will do some ridiculous things like sending d!ck pics to a girl they just met because they think it will turn her on. That\u2019s one-sided thinking.<\/p>\n

Men and women think differently. Sometimes the difference can be so big in certain areas that the things you think will attract a woman can push her away. But you can avoid this bias by understanding these basic things that most men do wrong with women.<\/p>\n

1. Clinginess<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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\u201cDesire needs space.\u201d\u200a\u2014\u200aEsther Perel, relationship therapist<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Picture this:<\/p>\n

A guy who just had a great date with a beautiful lady. But because he got too excited about how the date went, he starts texting her immediately after the date. He then goes on to text her throughout the night and then the following morning.<\/p>\n

All of which seem sweet so far.<\/p>\n

But soon, the girl starts feeling a bit suffocated. She starts taking a while to reply to his text. But instead of him getting the message and cooling off a bit. He picks up his phone and calls her to ask her if he did something wrong.<\/p>\n

Sensing the girl is a bit withdrawn, he panics and starts apologizing, even if he didn\u2019t do anything wrong.<\/p>\n

Some men fall into this pattern in different ways either because they are insecure or because they just lack self-control.<\/p>\n

Sure, it\u2019s great to stay in touch with someone you like, but you also have to demonstrate that you have a life of your own. Clingy people are off-putting because they are emotionally immature.<\/p>\n

We all want someone who has something meaningful going on that we can be a part of. Sitting by your phone and anxiously waiting for a text to come demonstrates low value.<\/p>\n

2. Oneitis<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Some men think that a \u201cNo\u201d from a lady is simply an invitation to try harder. They become hyper-fixated. The more she rejects them, the more they strengthen their resolve.<\/p>\n

It becomes about their ego. They stop seeing any other opportunity for great relationships around them. They only want that one woman who has made it clear that she doesn\u2019t want anything to do with them.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, the problem with these sorts of men is their ego. They take a rejection as a personal attack.<\/p>\n

Other times it\u2019s just because they are not used to having it easy with a woman. They\u2019re gotten used to chasing and fighting for attention because they keep ignoring the opportunities they have with the ladies who truly want them.<\/p>\n

Whatever the cause may be, oneitis can frustrate a man and make him mentally and emotionally drained. It\u2019s not a place you want to be in.<\/p>\n

Learn to see the signs. Romantic interest usually isn\u2019t that complicated. If she likes you, you\u2019ll know. Even if she doesn\u2019t give you a \u201cYes\u201d right away, she won\u2019t disrespect and disregard you. She\u2019ll give you her attention.<\/p>\n

More importantly, you\u2019ll see the signs in her body language and the way she looks and talks to you.<\/p>\n

3. Chasing<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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\u201cThere is one thing that, more than any other, throws people absolutely off their balance\u200a\u2014\u200athe thought that you are dependent upon them.\u201d\u200a\u2014\u200aArthur Schopenhauer, The Wisdom of Life<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Some men don\u2019t understand that there\u2019s a difference between chasing a woman and showing interest.<\/p>\n

Showing interest simply means making her know you\u2019re interested in her. Chasing, on the other hand, means refusing to accept that she isn\u2019t interested.<\/p>\n

Sometimes chasing is caused by ego. These are men who take rejection as a sign that they\u2019re not good enough. So they feel if they can win her over, they\u2019ll prove to the lady and themselves that they\u2019re worthy.<\/p>\n

Other times, men just chase because they don\u2019t know what they deserve.<\/p>\n

Think about it. If you know what you bring to the table, it doesn\u2019t make any sense to exhaustively chase one lady who has made it clear that she doesn\u2019t want you.<\/p>\n

It means you\u2019re seeking her to complete you in some way. And women aren\u2019t interested in completing you. The majority <\/em>of the time, they simply want to come and share your experience with you.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re better off with someone who wants you as much as you want them. Relationships are difficult on their own even with the right person. Now imagine forcing someone to date you after a long exhausting chase. You\u2019ve already created the wrong dynamic before the relationship even starts.<\/p>\n

4. Assuming her value<\/strong><\/h2>\n

We often make assumptions about people based on our initial impressions of them. This is why some guys become tongue-tied when they meet a gorgeous-looking lady.<\/p>\n

In reality, she\u2019s just another human with flaws like any other person. But the guy has painted another image of her in his head. Now he sees her as an ideal and places her on a pedestal without even knowing her.<\/p>\n

We don\u2019t just do this with the opposite sex. We do it with anyone who has the exterior that you could easily read perfection to. This is why they say \u201cNever meet your heroes.\u201d People are rarely what they seem on the outside.<\/p>\n

The simple reality is that we\u2019re all humans, with flaws and insecurities.<\/p>\n

When you see a beautiful lady and you treat her without any apprehension or anxiety, like every normal lady you come across, she notices it because she is used to getting special attention.<\/p>\n

5. Going in too strong sexually<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Some men think being a \u201cbad boy\u201d or an alpha male means talking dirty to a girl immediately after meeting her. They feel if they quickly show that they\u2019re bad, she\u2019ll want them. So they quickly start talking dirty. Some even send d!ck pics after a first date.<\/p>\n

But this approach rarely works. And most times it\u2019s outrightly annoying and immature.<\/p>\n

Going in too strong sexually doesn\u2019t make you a bad boy. It makes you seem needy. Alpha males don\u2019t go around trying to convince women that they\u2019re \u201cbad boys.\u201d They\u2019re alpha males because of their character. Women respect them because they\u2019re not needy or trying to prove anything to anyone.<\/p>\n

Rather, they\u2019re comfortable with who they are. They\u2019re not pushovers or performers for women.<\/p>\n

When you go in too strong sexually, you insinuate a level of immaturity. Every mature person knows it\u2019s usually an <\/em>emotional connection first. If you pursue sex, you often end up not getting it.<\/p>\n

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Final words<\/strong><\/h2>\n

It goes without saying that these mistakes aren\u2019t common only to men. And most of us are going to make them early on before we get a hold of ourselves as we get older.<\/p>\n

Some people still frequently make these mistakes. And the major reason is that they keep depending on hormones, emotions, and instincts to deal with the opposite sex. But this approach only leads to immature and clingy behaviors.<\/p>\n

As much as you want to quickly have someone for yourself when you like them, you want to also be rational about it.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

\"Profit<\/a>
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