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Feel your emotions, they say. Express yourself, they say.<\/p>\n

But when your Hulk-like reactions come out\u2014emotions are high and response is intense\u2014then you\u2019re asked to reign it back in.\u00a0<\/p>\n

The thing is, anger, fear, resentment, embarrassment, guilt, and all other emotions associated with reactivity aren\u2019t always given the attention they deserve. And, more often than not, when they\u2019re not managed properly, they can leave a Hulk-like destruction in its path.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the importance of learning how to be less reactive, according to Dr. Caroline Leaf<\/strong>, a clinical neuroscientist and the trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s Calm Mind: A Scientific Method for Managing Anxiety and Depression<\/em> Quest.<\/p>\n

And when you\u2019re able to make these so-called negative emotions work for you<\/em> instead of against you, it\u2019s going to be healthier for you and the people you care about.<\/p>\n

What does it mean to be reactive?<\/h2>\n

Being reactive is when a person acts on their immediate feelings toward situations, people, or events without taking the time to think things through first. More often than not, conflicts, misunderstandings, and negative consequences ensue.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s typically impulsive, as mental health therapist <\/strong>Jenna Nielsen<\/strong><\/a>, MSW, LCSW<\/a><\/strong> with ADHDAdvisor.org shares with Mindvalley Pulse. Usually with the high intensity of an emotion (or emotions).<\/p>\n

\u201cCommon signs of a highly reactive person<\/em>,\u201d she adds, \u201cwould be someone who has anger outbursts, raises their voice, cries very easily, has panic attacks often, or withdraws and isolates immediately after an interaction<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n

The Hulk may come to mind. However, if you can\u2019t relate to turning big and green, think of Star Wars\u2019 <\/em>Anakin Skywalker with his inability to control his fear, anger, and jealousy. Or how about Mean Girls<\/em>\u2019 Regina George, who\u2019s quick to lash out when she feels threatened or undermined?<\/p>\n

If there\u2019s anything that can be learned from their emotional reactivity<\/a>, it\u2019s that it rarely leads to anything good.<\/p>\n

What causes it?<\/h3>\n

Reactivity can be due to internal and external factors<\/a>\u2014biological and environmental. Here\u2019s how Jenna explains it:<\/p>\n