{"id":8814,"date":"2024-09-19T06:04:15","date_gmt":"2024-09-19T10:04:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/how-to-practice-mindful-communication-at-work-home\/"},"modified":"2024-09-19T06:04:15","modified_gmt":"2024-09-19T10:04:15","slug":"how-to-practice-mindful-communication-at-work-home","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/how-to-practice-mindful-communication-at-work-home\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Practice Mindful Communication at Work &#038; Home"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>\u201c<em>How you doin\u2019?<\/em>\u201d might be one of the most iconic lines in television history. It\u2019s witty, it\u2019s charming, and, surprisingly, it\u2019s mindful.<\/p>\n<p>Wait\u2026<em>what?<\/em> How is Joey from <em>Friends<\/em>\u2019 pickup line possibly mindful?\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s the thing many of us aren\u2019t aware of\u2014mindful communication isn\u2019t only listening intently. There are other aspects that make it so enriching.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>It requires you to be intentional, vulnerable, and respectful so you can create a safe space to connect<\/em>,\u201d says <strong>Neelam Verma<\/strong>, the founder of Integrity Dating and trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s <em>Finding Love with Integrity Dating<\/em> Quest.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>When you do, you open up a whole new world\u2014one with fewer misunderstandings, fewer frustrations, and more meaningful (not to mention deeper) relationships.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-is-mindful-communication\">What is mindful communication?<\/h2>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/what-is-mindfulness\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Mindfulness<\/a> is being in the moment, paying attention to what\u2019s going on around you and within you without judgment or distraction. Take that concept and apply it to the interactions you have with others, and <em>that<\/em>, in a nutshell, is mindful communication.<\/p>\n<p>Like Joey\u2019s famous line\u2014it may seem like a simple pickup line, but part of its charm comes from being fully present. He wasn\u2019t just spitting out words; he was connecting in the moment, which is a core part of mindful communication.<\/p>\n<p>It fosters understanding, empathy, and mutual respect. In fact, research shows that <a href=\"https:\/\/link.springer.com\/article\/10.1007\/s12671-023-02278-2\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">mindful communication can help people cooperate better<\/a> by increasing acceptance and understanding in conversations.<\/p>\n<p>The thing with engaging with someone is, it\u2019s your responsibility to deliver your message in a way that the other person understands what you\u2019re trying to say. What\u2019s more, it\u2019s also your responsibility to listen so that you understand what they\u2019re trying to say. (And vice versa, of course.)<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-8-principles\">8 principles<\/h3>\n<p>In a study about mindfulness and leadership, researchers found that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC6450257\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">when leaders used mindful communication, their team members felt more satisfied<\/a>. This shows how mindful conversations can really improve relationships.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why, with mindful communication, it\u2019s important to follow these eight principles:<\/p>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/active-listening-skills\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Listening actively<\/a>,<\/li>\n<li>Paying attention to verbal and nonverbal cues,<\/li>\n<li>Interacting without judgment or preconceived notions,\u00a0<\/li>\n<li>Being in the moment,<\/li>\n<li>Showing <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/cognitive-empathy\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">cognitive empathy<\/a>,<\/li>\n<li>Expressing yourself clearly and thoughtfully,<\/li>\n<li>Taking the time to let conversations unfold naturally, and<\/li>\n<li>Being open to the perspectives of others.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>As career coach Rafa Sarandeses says in Michael Thompson\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/michaelthompson.art\/book\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>Shy by Design<\/em><\/a>, \u201c<em>Our time isn\u2019t the greatest gift we can give to someone; our presence is<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-importance-of-being-mindful-in-communication\">The importance of being mindful in communication<\/h2>\n<p>There\u2019s one thing that Michael does point out in his book, and it\u2019s this: \u201c<em>The most valuable people take the time to understand what other people value. They\u2019re supportive. They\u2019re interested. They listen.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s what communicating mindfully is about. It allows for more authentic, conscious interactions where both you and the other person feel heard and valued.<\/p>\n<p>What\u2019s more, it <a href=\"https:\/\/www.frontiersin.org\/journals\/psychology\/articles\/10.3389\/fpsyg.2018.02162\/full\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">enhances emotional intelligence<\/a>. This means you and the other person better manage your reactions and responses.<\/p>\n<p>In doing so, you\u2019re likely to respect and trust one another. You\u2019re likely to improve conflict resolution. You\u2019re likely to foster healthier, more supportive relationships.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>Conscious conversations lead to conscious relationships<\/em>,\u201d explains Neelam. \u201c<em>Conscious relationships are relationships where two people come together as partners and growth fully expressed. They co-create a beautiful and fulfilling relationship<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Granted, she\u2019s talking about mindfulness in relationships (or the potential of it). However, what is that but just two people learning how to have in-the-moment conversations so that there\u2019s a safe space to build a meaningful bond?<\/p>\n<p>And if Joey\u2019s \u201c<em>How you doin\u2019?<\/em>\u201d taught us anything, it\u2019s that even the simplest (albeit corniest) lines, when said with genuine attention, can spark a connection.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The bottom line is, it\u2019s not always about the words; it\u2019s the intention behind them. That\u2019s the power of mindful communication\u2014it turns casual moments into opportunities for something deeper.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1456\" height=\"816\" alt=\"A woman practicing mindful communication\" class=\"wp-image-73842\" srcset=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2024\/09\/0af9b036-mindful-communication-mindvalley-blog-02-midjourney-seo-team.webp 1456w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2024\/09\/0af9b036-mindful-communication-mindvalley-blog-02-midjourney-seo-team-768x430.webp 768w\" data-lazy-sizes=\"(max-width: 1456px) 100vw, 1456px\" src=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2024\/09\/0af9b036-mindful-communication-mindvalley-blog-02-midjourney-seo-team.webp\"\/><noscript><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1456\" height=\"816\" src=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2024\/09\/0af9b036-mindful-communication-mindvalley-blog-02-midjourney-seo-team.webp\" alt=\"A woman practicing mindful communication\" class=\"wp-image-73842\" srcset=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2024\/09\/0af9b036-mindful-communication-mindvalley-blog-02-midjourney-seo-team.webp 1456w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2024\/09\/0af9b036-mindful-communication-mindvalley-blog-02-midjourney-seo-team-768x430.webp 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1456px) 100vw, 1456px\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-practice-mindful-communication\">How to practice mindful communication<\/h2>\n<p>Short of \u201c<em>How you doin\u2019?<\/em>\u201d it to everyone you meet (and, to be frank, no one\u2019s interested in a copycat), here are some <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/effective-communication-skills\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">communication skills<\/a> you can brush up on to make your conversations more thoughtful, engaging, and authentic.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-treat-others-the-way-they-want-to-be-treated\">1. Treat others the way they want to be treated<\/h3>\n<p>The saying goes, \u201c<em>Treat others the way you want to be treated<\/em>.\u201d However, <strong>Vanessa Van Edwards<\/strong>, a speaker with Science of People and the trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s <em>Magnetic Charisma<\/em> Quest, says otherwise. <em>She <\/em>says, \u201c<em>Treat others the way they want to be treated<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>What does that mean?<\/p>\n<p>Well, research has found that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nature.com\/articles\/s41380-018-0263-6\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">30\u201360% of our personality is genetic<\/a>. That means, when you interact with others, it\u2019s important to recognize that their personality traits aren\u2019t easily changed\u2014they\u2019re a part of who they are.<\/p>\n<p>In her Mindvalley Quest, Vanessa explains that when you understand and respect these traits, you can adapt the way you communicate to meet their needs.<\/p>\n<p>For example, a friend who thrives on routine and predictability\u2014<em>\u201cthey like to do the same thing for dinner, watch the same show, on the same couch, with the same snack, in the same blanket<\/em>\u201d\u2014may not appreciate spontaneity. On the other hand, a friend who craves adventure may feel stifled by <em>too much<\/em> predictability.<\/p>\n<p>This approach shows you\u2019re being more mindful and considerate in your interactions. That can help build stronger bonds.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-be-aware-of-their-body-language\">2. Be aware of their body language<\/h3>\n<p>They lean back, they lean in, they\u2019re yawning, their leg is twitching\u2026 So much talking without even saying a word.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>You, too, project. The way you stand, move, or make eye contact can convey messages that may or may not align with what\u2019s coming out of your mouth.<\/p>\n<p>According to Michael in <em>Shy by Design<\/em>, it\u2019s important to make the other person feel comfortable rather than trying to project confidence. Like standing to the side, adopting a relaxed posture, a gentle smile, or taking your time when you speak.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>There are times when speaking quickly can help you come off as more knowledgeable or confident<\/em>,\u201d he writes. \u201c<em>Even though it may work in a debate, this strategy can backfire when meeting someone new<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Remember, people need time to assess both your words and actions. So, instead of coming on too strong, try, instead, to <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/mirroring-body-language\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">mirror their body language<\/a>. It builds rapport and helps create an atmosphere where everyone feels more at ease.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-be-clear-and-candid\">3. Be clear and candid<\/h3>\n<p>\u201c<em>Transparency and openness and candor\u2014that really doesn\u2019t exist to the extent that it should<\/em>,\u201d says <strong>Keith Ferrazzi<\/strong>, the founder and CEO of Ferrazzi Greenlight, in his <em>Ultimate Leadership<\/em> Quest on Mindvalley.<\/p>\n<p>He emphasizes that being clear and candid is essential for strong, trusting relationships. It means sharing your thoughts honestly.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019ll take a level of <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/self-awareness\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">self-awareness<\/a>, for sure, especially since it\u2019s likely to be uncomfortable or risky. But here\u2019s the thing: sugarcoating or avoiding tough topics can lead to misunderstandings. So, when you\u2019re giving feedback to someone, address them directly but with kindness.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>What\u2019s more, you make space for the other person to share their true thoughts and ideas. This openness can lead to stronger collaboration, fewer misunderstandings, and deeper connections in both your personal and professional relationships.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-listen-to-understand\">4. Listen to understand<\/h3>\n<p>\u201c<em>Society as a whole has a problem with silence<\/em>,\u201d says Warren Schaefer, a three-time startup founder, in <em>Shy by Design<\/em>.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The thing is, many of us have been taught to listen to respond. But what we should be doing is listening to understand.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>This mindful listening takes a certain kind of confidence\u2014something Michael calls \u201cquiet confidence.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s the kind where you don\u2019t feel the need to always speak or push your point across. It\u2019s also about creating trust so everyone involved in the conversation feels safe to share openly. In essence, it\u2019s when you \u201c<em>just listen and let others talk<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>This will allow the other person to feel heard and valued. Additionally, you also learn more about them, which can deepen the conversation and lead to more thoughtful, meaningful exchanges.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-be-curious\">5. Be curious<\/h3>\n<p>Curiosity may have killed the cat. When it comes to mindful communication, though, it\u2019s the thing that brings conversations to life.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>Meaningful questions are the ones that can help you know someone\u2019s heart and soul<\/em>,\u201d says Neelam. So what do you want to know? What do you want to share? (Or, in Joey\u2019s case, \u201c<em>How you doin\u2019?<\/em>\u201d)<\/p>\n<p>In his book, Michael tells the story of his one-on-one with Denise Young Smith, the former Chief of Human Resources at Apple. She was genuinely interested in his work and wanted to get to the heart of who he was.<\/p>\n<p>One tip he noticed that she used was padding statements. These are prompts like \u201c<em>I\u2019m curious\u2026<\/em>\u201d, \u201c<em>I never thought of it that way<\/em>\u2026\u201d, or \u201c<em>That\u2019s interesting\u2026<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>Without the prompts, the questions can come off as harsh or abrupt<\/em>,\u201d Michael explains. \u201c<em>These transitionary statements help make the conversation more fluid<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>When you approach every conversation not only with mindful listening but also with curiosity, you help bring out the stories of others. That sets the stage for your interactions to flow naturally and uncover insights that you might\u2019ve otherwise missed.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-mindful-communication-in-the-workplace\">Mindful communication in the workplace<\/h2>\n<p>When it comes to any kind of relationship, even professional ones, there are three words you must know: Communication is key.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>The kind of communication<\/em>,\u201d Keith says in his Mindvalley Quest, \u201c<em>that includes the willingness to challenge and speak your mind, and be bold, and maybe even have a bit more candor than what you normally would have<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>As a matter of fact, a study at Stanford University identified the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.gsb.stanford.edu\/faculty-research\/working-papers\/attributes-successful-mbas-twenty-year-longitudinal-study\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">traits of the most successful MBA students<\/a>. What they found is that verbal fluency, not grade point average, is the common trait.<\/p>\n<p>So if being able to have open, clear discussions creates a strong team dynamic, what are the steps you can take to do so? Here are some mindful communication exercises Keith recommends:<\/p>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>The \u201cYoda Moment.\u201d<\/strong> A few team members are designated to point out unspoken thoughts or potential risks during meetings. This simple yet powerful activity allows for more transparency and ensures that important ideas are not missed.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Dial Up, Dial Down.<\/strong> It helps you reflect on how you communicate\u2014whether you need to speak up more (\u201cdial up\u201d) or listen more and interrupt less (\u201cdial down\u201d). This practice encourages self-awareness and thoughtful adjustments to your communication style, making interactions more effective and mindful.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Check-ins.<\/strong> Give team members a space to be vulnerable and share both their personal and professional challenges. By opening up in this way, teams create deeper connections and establish a foundation of trust, making it easier for everyone to communicate openly.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u201c<em>If someone feels disrespected or unheard, they\u2019re not going to communicate<\/em>,\u201d Keith points out. \u201c<em>They\u2019re going to stay quiet, and you don\u2019t want that<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>So remember: if your team member says something, consider and validate their efforts. It\u2019ll make a world of difference.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-become-a-changemaker-nbsp\">Become a changemaker\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p>While it does have the word \u201ccommunication\u201d in it, mindful communication isn\u2019t solely about talking. It\u2019s also about listening, understanding, and creating a space where everyone feels heard.<\/p>\n<p>So, why not make each interaction count? After all, the more mindful you are in how you talk to people, the better your relationships will be\u2014both at work and at home.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re looking for an easy way to spark deeper, more meaningful connections, <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/conversation-starters-download\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>The Connection Kit<\/strong><\/a> is a great tool to have on hand\u2014plus, it\u2019s <em>free and instantly accessible<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>The deck is packed with thoughtful conversation starters (no, none of them are \u201c<em>How you doin\u2019?<\/em>\u201d). With it, you can engage in truly mindful discussions, whether with your friends, your kids, your loved ones, your colleagues, or strangers.<\/p>\n<p>Welcome in.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cHow you doin\u2019?\u201d might be one of the most iconic lines in television history. It\u2019s witty, it\u2019s charming, and, surprisingly, it\u2019s mindful. Wait\u2026what? 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