{"id":9783,"date":"2025-01-07T13:54:16","date_gmt":"2025-01-07T17:54:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/how-can-i-evolve-when-its-hard-to-accept-myself\/"},"modified":"2025-01-07T13:54:16","modified_gmt":"2025-01-07T17:54:16","slug":"how-can-i-evolve-when-its-hard-to-accept-myself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/how-can-i-evolve-when-its-hard-to-accept-myself\/","title":{"rendered":"How can I evolve when it\u2019s hard to accept myself?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n

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Question:<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cMy question is how do I continue to evolve as a human being without also subtly believing that I am not okay as I am? \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Also, how do I work with setting conscious intentions without blaming myself for lack of evolution or misaligned intention if I have physical problems or any other kind of problems? \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Your teachings about the non-local consciousness and the construction of the self make a deep sense to me.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0Yet I notice that I crave the kindness in your responses to callers in which you very, very gently suggest just one next step. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I am thinking that this great relief at hearing such kindness means that somehow I am still \u201ctrying too hard\u201d to understand, grow, and get things right. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How does one relax in this process and yet learn\/grow?<\/span>
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<\/span>Recently on a show you mentioned the Course in Miracles (which I am beginning to study). \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You said that each moment we can choose grievance or miracle. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

That sounds deeply true to me, and yet, I feel that I can only do this in a single moment.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

My very human self still has that grievance or wound, and now added to that is the fear that I am making a choice that binds me to unhappiness. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Can you help reframe these thoughts?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n

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My Response:<\/strong><\/p>\n

The process of transformation that accompanies self-realization is spiritual evolution.<\/span><\/p>\n

This process is natural to life and is not dependent upon our judgment that our current state is not okay.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

An infant naturally grows into a child without blaming herself that she wasn\u2019t a good enough infant, or that she isn\u2019t okay the way she is.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The force of evolution operating within us provides its own incentives and drives.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We don\u2019t need to push our evolution along with self-criticism, judgments and doubts.<\/span><\/p>\n

Those are just distractions.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Whatever deficits our present circumstances seem to have, and whatever the choices that led us here, this situation is nevertheless our platform for experiencing life at this moment.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

For that we can feel a sense of appreciation and gratitude.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This allows us to connect to the love in our heart.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

From here it is easy to love oneself, forgive oneself and others and rejoice in the wonder and beauty all around us.<\/span><\/p>\n

Love,<\/span><\/p>\n

Deepak\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n