{"id":998,"date":"2023-01-31T12:56:50","date_gmt":"2023-01-31T16:56:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/debunking-what-you-think-you-know\/"},"modified":"2023-01-31T12:56:50","modified_gmt":"2023-01-31T16:56:50","slug":"debunking-what-you-think-you-know","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/debunking-what-you-think-you-know\/","title":{"rendered":"Debunking What You Think You Know"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>The G-spot, penis size, and even edible aphrodisiacs \u2014 there\u2019s a long list of pervasive beliefs out there. The question is, which ones are sex myths and which ones are scientifically factual?<\/p>\n<p>It seems traditional teachings aren\u2019t wholly reliable. Many of them often leads to urban legends, like getting pregnant from floating semen in a hot tub or oral sex is safer than vaginal ones. Porn, erotic novels, and fornication in movies only muddy up the water.<\/p>\n<p>Misinformation about how sexual pleasure works, \u201c<em>propagated by everyone from Sigmund Freud and Porn Hub<\/em>,\u201d has given many people a disadvantage, explains <strong>Dr. Amy Killen<\/strong>, anti-aging and regenerative physician who specializes in aesthetics and sexual medicine, in her <em>The Science of Great Sex <\/em>Quest on Mindvalley. \u201c<em>But,<\/em>\u201d she adds, \u201c<em>information is power.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n<p>So let\u2019s take a closer look at some of the more common myths about sex with insights from Dr. Killen to help you learn the facts once and for all.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"h-myth-1-you-learned-everything-you-need-to-know-about-sexual-health-in-sex-ed\">Myth 1: You Learned Everything You Need to Know About Sexual Health In Sex Ed<\/h2>\n<p>Other than \u201cboys have penises and girls have vaginas,\u201d it\u2019s likely that many of us don\u2019t remember much from sex ed class in school. \u201c<em>Even the best classes don\u2019t teach you many of the things you\u2019ll ultimately need to know,<\/em>\u201d says Dr. Killen.<\/p>\n<p>In the United States, sex education is mandatory in only 39 states and Washington D.C., according to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.guttmacher.org\/state-policy\/explore\/sex-and-hiv-education\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">data<\/a> from Guttmacher Institute. The concerning part is, there aren\u2019t any federal guidelines for this kind of education, and only 18 states require it to be medically accurate.<\/p>\n<p>So you can see how <em>not everything<\/em> you need to know about sexual health comes from Sex Ed. \u201c<em>Because it\u2019s not taught in school and not talked about in polite society,<\/em>\u201d Dr. Killen adds, \u201c<em>many people never learn how to stay sexually healthy.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/01\/5ecc1a59-sex-myths-pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4827115.jpg\" alt=\"Couple engaging in sexual activity to dispel sex myths\" class=\"wp-image-66290\" srcset=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/01\/5ecc1a59-sex-myths-pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4827115.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/01\/5ecc1a59-sex-myths-pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4827115-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/01\/5ecc1a59-sex-myths-pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4827115-736x491.jpg 736w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/01\/5ecc1a59-sex-myths-pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4827115-442x295.jpg 442w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<h2 id=\"h-myth-2-sexual-health-and-reproductive-health-are-the-same\">Myth 2: Sexual Health and Reproductive Health Are the Same<\/h2>\n<p>While they\u2019re both interrelated, sexual and reproductive health are not the same thing. Based on the World Health Organization\u2019s (WHO) definitions, the two are characterized as follows:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.who.int\/health-topics\/sexual-health\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>Sexual health<\/strong><\/a> is not the absence of disease or dysfunction; rather, it\u2019s a state of physical, emotional, mental, and social well-being in relation to sexuality. It requires \u201c<em>a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences.<\/em>\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.who.int\/westernpacific\/health-topics\/reproductive-health\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>Reproductive health<\/strong><\/a> is a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being in relation to the reproductive system, including its functions and processes. It implies that \u201c<em>people are able to have a satisfying and safe sex life, and that they have the capability to reproduce and the freedom to decide if, when, and how often to do so.<\/em>\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>As Dr. Killen points out in her Quest, it\u2019s possible to get pregnant with a healthy baby after a night of unprotected sex. And it\u2019s also possible to have <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/science-backed-strategies-for-a-thriving-sex-life\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">a thriving sex life<\/a> without ever procreating.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"h-myth-3-the-most-important-sexual-organs-are-the-genitals\">Myth 3: The Most Important Sexual Organs Are the Genitals<\/h2>\n<p>If you\u2019re anything like <em>Friends\u2019<\/em> Chandler Bing, chances are, you go straight to the nether regions. But if you\u2019re anything like Joey Tribiani (or any of the other characters, for that matter), you know sex is more than that \u2014 much, much more than that.<\/p>\n<p>Desire, arousal, AND orgasm all start in the brain, according to Dr. Killen. She explains, \u201c<em>It\u2019s chemicals released in the brain, such as dopamine and oxytocin, that make us feel aroused and lead to the intense pleasure associated with orgasm.<\/em>\u201d\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The feel-good neurotransmitters and hormones help charge up <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/sexual-energy\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">sexual energy<\/a>. Without them, sex would feel more like, as Dr. Killen puts it, \u201c<em>shaking someone\u2019s hand or putting your foot in your shoe.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"h-myth-4-sexual-health-isn-t-important-if-you-don-t-have-a-partner\">Myth 4: Sexual Health Isn\u2019t Important If You Don\u2019t Have a Partner<\/h2>\n<p>More than one million sexually transmitted infections are acquired every day around the world, as reported by the WHO. The majority of them are asymptomatic. In the U.S. alone, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reported <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cdc.gov\/std\/statistics\/2021\/default.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">2.5 million cases<\/a> of chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis at the beginning of 2021 with the numbers continuing to rise.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>It\u2019s about keeping your body and mind well so that you\u2019re ready for whatever comes your way.\u00a0 And, it\u2019s about enjoying what you have right here, right now, with or without the contributions and validation of another person.<\/p>\n<p><cite>\u2014 Dr. Amy Killen, trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s <em>The Science of Great Sex<\/em> Quest<\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>The thing many people tend to forget is that health, of any kind, isn\u2019t about someone else. It\u2019s about the individual. It\u2019s about you\u2026especially when it comes to sexual health.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/01\/bb1b5cfe-sex-myths-canva-05.jpg\" alt=\"Woman laying in bed during climax\" class=\"wp-image-66295\" srcset=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/01\/bb1b5cfe-sex-myths-canva-05.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/01\/bb1b5cfe-sex-myths-canva-05-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/01\/bb1b5cfe-sex-myths-canva-05-736x491.jpg 736w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/01\/bb1b5cfe-sex-myths-canva-05-442x295.jpg 442w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<h2 id=\"h-myth-5-erections-only-happen-in-penis-owners\">Myth 5: Erections Only Happen In Penis Owners<\/h2>\n<p>There are plenty of sex facts and myths surrounding erections. Case in point: it\u2019s a known fact that males get erections. What many don\u2019t know is that females get them, too \u2014 it happens in the clitoris.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>The penis and clitoris are similar in many ways,<\/em>\u201d says Dr. Killen. Both contain both erectile tissue and are capable of getting erections.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, the lack of knowledge of human anatomy is the primary reason many aren\u2019t familiar with this piece of information. For example, a <a href=\"https:\/\/yougov.co.uk\/topics\/health\/articles-reports\/2019\/03\/08\/half-brits-dont-know-where-vagina-and-its-not-just\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">2019 study<\/a> reveals that a third of the participants didn\u2019t know what the clitoris was. (And it\u2019s no wonder that many females end up wondering, \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/why-cant-i-orgasm\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>Why can\u2019t I orgasm?<\/em><\/a>\u201d)<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"h-myth-6-semen-retention-is-healthier-than-spilling-it\">Myth 6: Semen Retention Is Healthier Than Spilling It<\/h2>\n<p>\u201c<em>Semen retention is the practice of not ejaculating for a period of time, even when having sex and orgasming,<\/em>\u201d explains Dr. Killen. However, it\u2019s not the same as abstaining from sexual activity.<\/p>\n<p>This concept is far from new. It\u2019s actually part of some ancient practices with the belief that the loss of semen was thought to weaken a person.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>However, what does science say about semen retention? According to Dr. Killen, there\u2019s no strong evidence that proves semen retention improves testosterone levels, sperm viability, or athletic performance.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>She provides plenty of research in her Mindvalley Quest that debunks this sex myth. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.hsph.harvard.edu\/news\/hsph-in-the-news\/why-more-sex-may-lower-prostate-cancer-risk\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">One study<\/a>, in particular, found that men over 40 who ejaculated at least four to five days per week had a 20-36% reduced rate of developing prostate cancer than those who ejaculated less often.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"h-myth-7-the-hymen-is-poppable\">Myth 7: The Hymen Is \u201cPoppable\u201d<\/h2>\n<p>A common misconception about the female anatomy is that the hymen is something that covers the opening of the vagina and can be \u201cpopped,\u201d resulting in the person \u201closing their virginity.\u201d And according to Dr. Killen, there is <em>so much wrong <\/em>with this sentence.<\/p>\n<p>So what is the hymen? And why does society make such a fuss over it?<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>The hymen is a very thin membrane near the opening of the vagina,<\/em>\u201d she explains. It was present before birth, but by the time the baby is born, the hymen typically exists \u201c<em>as a crescent or a ring shape around the edges.<\/em>\u201d Furthermore, many vaginas, she adds, have little to no hymen at all, even at birth.<\/p>\n<p>The traditional societal preference for virgin wives has put made an intact hymen a desirable trait, as many cultures perceive it as a guarantor of virginity. However, the thin mucosal tissue can tear or stretch even with non-sexual activities, like vigorous exercise, riding a horse, or riding a bicycle.<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/01\/441d670f-sex-myths-pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4760383.jpg\" alt=\"Couple laying in bed intertwined\" class=\"wp-image-66293\" srcset=\"https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/01\/441d670f-sex-myths-pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4760383.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/01\/441d670f-sex-myths-pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4760383-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/01\/441d670f-sex-myths-pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4760383-736x491.jpg 736w, https:\/\/storage.googleapis.com\/mv-prod-blog-en-assets\/2023\/01\/441d670f-sex-myths-pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4760383-442x295.jpg 442w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<h2 id=\"h-myth-8-you-don-t-have-control-over-how-well-your-sexual-organs-work\">Myth 8: You Don\u2019t Have Control Over How Well Your Sexual Organs Work<\/h2>\n<p>When it comes to sex and sexual health, there are some problems that can arise. Things like the lack of desire, arousal, and orgasm, as well as pain during intercourse, all of which can contribute to <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/overcome-sexual-anxiety\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">sexual anxiety<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>If there\u2019s one thing Dr. Killen runs into often with her patients, it\u2019s that they don\u2019t believe they have the power to control how well their sexual organs work. Thankfully, that\u2019s not the case \u2014 they have\u2026we all have the power.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>It\u2019s up to you to decide how well your sexual organs age. Just as you have quite a bit of control over the health of your heart, your brain, your lungs, and your skin, you also have quite a bit of control over your penis, vagina, prostate, and clitoris.<\/p>\n<p><cite>\u2014 Dr. Amy Killen, trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s <em>The Science of Great Sex<\/em> Quest<\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>So if you\u2019re looking to perform better, <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/increase-libido\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">increase libido<\/a>, or improve other sexual issues, best believe that you can. It\u2019s important, though, to remember to seek medical advice from a professional should you have any questions related to your sexual function and health.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"h-myth-9-the-older-you-get-the-less-you-ll-have\">Myth 9: The Older You Get, the Less You\u2019ll Have<\/h2>\n<p>There\u2019s a great, big belief that sex declines with age \u2014 and that\u2019s why it\u2019s called a myth and not a fact.\u00a0The truth of the matter is, sexual issues, like erectile dysfunction or sex after menopause, don\u2019t necessarily spell out the end of your sexual explorations.<\/p>\n<p>According to Dr. Killen, \u201c<em>how well your penis, vagina, or clitoris ages depends, quite a bit, on how well you take care of yourself<\/em>.\u201d And there are plenty of benefits to having sex on a regular basis; as you get older, those \u201cfeel good\u201d factors still apply.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>In fact, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ucl.ac.uk\/news\/2019\/oct\/analysis-having-sex-older-age-could-make-you-happier-and-healthier\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">studies<\/a> have found older adults who\u2019re sexually active tend to have better cognitive performance, have better relationships with their partners, and enjoy life more. This culminates in better mental health.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"h-myth-10-sex-is-a-performance\">Myth 10: Sex Is a Performance<\/h2>\n<p>We\u2019re often taught this notion that to have great sex, we have to perform well in the bedroom. Every sexual encounter has to be a <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/kama\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">kama sutra<\/a>-inspired experience; a way to get the \u201c<em>Oh yes!<\/em>\u2019 and the \u201c<em>No, don\u2019t stop!<\/em>\u201d on constant repeat.<\/p>\n<p>Men, it\u2019s not necessary. Women, this is not the way to <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/awaken-your-inner-sex-goddess\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">awaken your inner sex goddess<\/a>.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The pressures of performing can lead people to do things that they really aren\u2019t comfortable doing. And the language we use for sex \u2014 \u201cperform\u201d \u2014 can be why many of us are so hesitant to talk about the times we botched the \u201cperformance.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>Let\u2019s stop thinking about sex as something we do in order to gain applause,<\/em>\u201d advises Dr. Killen. Instead, it should be \u201c<em>more as something we do to promote mutual enjoyment, connection, and health.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed aligncenter is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">What Do You Want to Know About Sex? | Dr. Amy Killen<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h2 id=\"h-great-sex-starts-with-great-education\">Great Sex Starts With Great Education<\/h2>\n<p>While sex myths can be amusing, they can absolutely be detrimental to one\u2019s sexual health if it\u2019s not debunked. Education in this area can not only reduce the rates of sexually transmitted diseases but ultimately promotes healthy relationships.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why continually educating yourself about sex is important. And you can do so with Dr. Amy Killen in her <em>The Science of Great Sex<\/em> Quest on Mindvalley.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Not only will you learn science-based solutions to turn up the heat in the bedroom, but you\u2019ll be provided with the tools and techniques that can help transform your sexual health and your overall well-being.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The great thing is, when you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindvalley.com\/signup\/?utm_source=blog_inline_link&amp;utm_campaign=evergreen_freemium&amp;utm_medium=end_of_article&amp;otag=mv_blog_freemium\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>sign up for a free Mindvalley account<\/strong><\/a>, you can preview the first few lessons to get a taste of what the Quest is all about. What\u2019s more, you\u2019ll have access to meditations that can support your journey of great sex.<\/p>\n<p>As Dr. Killen says, \u201c<em>Even if you make a small change every day, it\u2019s going to pay off in a big way for you.<\/em>\u201d And you can make your first small change with her Quest at Mindvalley.<\/p>\n<p>Welcome in.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/hop.clickbank.net\/?affiliate=infohatch&amp;vendor=J1R2C\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-10614 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png\" alt=\"Profit Gen\" width=\"400\" height=\"217\" srcset=\"https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px.png 400w, https:\/\/parmaks.com\/Resources\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/profit-gen400px-300x163.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The G-spot, penis size, and even edible aphrodisiacs \u2014 there\u2019s a long list of pervasive beliefs out there. 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