The Steps to Accepting Failure
Everybody has a setback every once in a while, but it doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with you.
In fact, failure can be a great opportunity to learn your own limitations and boundaries, and provide you with a chance to learn how to think outside the box.
Unfortunately, we are often taught that accepting failure means accepting that we are failures.
We begin to believe that we are not worthy of any kind of encouragement or positivity, simply because we are overwhelmed by the incredible emotions that come with the idea that we are worthless when we are not succeeding at something.
The fact of the matter is that success is something that has to be personally defined, otherwise, you will find that you are far more inhibited by the expectations and interpretations of success that other people place on your shoulders.
Nobody deserves to have their sense of self-worth defined by somebody else.
That is a personal choice, and a very important thing for you to do in this sense is to really sit down and consider what you would define as successful.
First of all, acceptance is the key. The first step to anything is being able to accept that it is happening and it is something in your life that you need to deal with.
Staying in denial about anything can be a very big problem.
If you are in denial about the way you feel when you experience a failure, then you are going to have a much harder time served passing that obstacle.
It’s okay for you to be upset that something didn’t go right. Don’t beat yourself up about it too long.
But do accept that you feel unhappy about it and work through those feelings completely.
The next thing you need to remember is never to identify yourself as a failure. Putting labels on yourself like this can be extremely difficult for you to overcome.
You are not a failure because something went wrong. Nobody is ever a failure.
However, we often get stuck and stop seeing the opportunities that are still around us to either make things right or to go in a new and even better direction.
This is when it is helpful to start to consider the situation from all angles.
There is bound to be a way for you to benefit from the situation, even if it isn’t the one that you are hoping it would be.
Think about what you can learn from your failure and how you can grow from it.
Think about what constructive things can be taken away from your failure and allow yourself to consider all options rather than feeling as if there are no other alternatives.
There is always an option. Whether we are able to accept that option or not is a personal choice.
What is most important though, is to understand that failure is a common part of life. Nothing that is worthwhile happens easily.
There is always going to be something in the way, and as long as you are willing to face it head-on and see it objectively, then you will never be a failure.
You will be a success who is capable of rising from the ashes.
How to Examine Your Failure and Use it as Inspiration
Sometimes, when we fail, it can feel like the end of the world. None of us like to be told that we are doing something wrong.
None of us like to experience setbacks in our plans.
It can make us question our self-worth, and make us feel as if the things that we want to achieve are either out of our reach or simply stupid and challenging.
However, failure serves a very important function in human development. Without failure, we would never know what path we need to take in order to truly succeed.
If everything was easy for us, then we would never learn. Everything in our paths would be laid out for us and we would never develop emotionally, or mentally.
What a boring world that would be!
Fortunately, failure comes regularly to most of us, but it is how we choose to view it that truly separates those who are able to rise from the ashes from those who are prone to Wally and their setbacks and never making any progress.
If you want to take a step forward in your life, you need to be able to understand that failure comes naturally, and you will need to learn how to use it as inspiration rather than as a reason to believe that you are worthless.
Inspiration comes in all forms. Most of us find inspiration from things that we enjoy, not from things that hurt us.
However, when we are able to look at failure objectively, we will see that it is the easiest way to examine a situation from all angles.
It is a gift that nature gives to us, so that we can become the greatest versions of ourselves.
To begin examining your failure, first you must accept that it has happened and understand that your feelings about the situation are legitimate and you are allowed to feel them.
Once you have processed them fully, then it is important for you to look at things in a constructive view. Inspiration is a great motivator.
When we are inspired, we are charged up and ready to create whatever changes need to be made in order to get us closer to our goals.
For this to happen, consider getting a gratitude journal. Any type of journal will do, it doesn’t have to just be a gratitude journal.
But gratitude journals can be exceptionally useful in this endeavor.
You will want to look at all of the things that you have learned and doing so in writing is a great way to really look inward and be introspective about your experiences.
Writing about your failure and asking yourself important questions, like why did my failure happen, who was affected by my failure and how, how I was affected, and what opportunities may be hidden, or even asking yourself what could have been done differently, are all great ways for you to start thinking about a plan B and getting yourself inspired to take the next step forward so that you can rise from the ashes!
Six Ways to Face Your Fears
All of us have a hard time with failure, and it can often lead us to feeling insecure about ourselves.
It can even begin to compound our fears and leave us feeling nervous and anxious in unfamiliar situations.
We want to be able to predict and control everything that happens to us. Otherwise, we may find ourselves filled with anxiety.
However, if you want to be a success, you have to be willing to take risks. All successful people are highly aware of the risks associated with that success.
And they are willing to take those risks and jump right in.
The first way that you can begin to face your fears is by truly accepting that they exist. Do not let yourself fall into denial. You are not perfect.
You do have things that you are afraid of.
Write down your fears and face them head-on, so that you are truly able to process the fact that they exist and they hold a grip over your life.
The second step to facing your fears is to talk about the spheres of somebody who is truly supportive and understanding of you.
Expressing them to somebody else is a good way to get a new perspective on things.
Somebody else’s input may help you to see why your fears are silly and unfounded, or help you to understand other nuances about the things that you are afraid of.
Whether you are both sharing the same fear are not, it can help you to make peace with that fear within you.
The third way of facing your fears is to approach them head-on.
If you are afraid of walking down to get your mail alone because the hallways are creepy at night, the best way to face that fear is to do it.
The more often that you do it, the more desensitized you become to your irrational fears.
A fourth way to face your fear is to seek out professional counsel.
There are many counselors and therapists who would be happy to help you sort through your fears if you feel that they are too numerous and insurmountable.
If you have fears that are holding you back, a qualified professional may be able to help you to sort through those feelings so that you can take control of your life again.
A fifth way to face your fears is in taking small steps toward surmounting that fear.
If you think it is too difficult for you to jump right in and walked down the hallway at night, maybe you can do it with a friend rather than by yourself so that you become acclimated to the environment.
Do small things that are helping you to make progress in facing your fears.
The sixth and most important way for you to face your fears is to develop more self-confidence.
This can be difficult, and is also easier with the help of a qualified professional. However, whether or not you seek out that type of assistance, confidence building activities are a great way for you to become more self-assured and less frozen when it comes to facing your fears.
By utilizing all of these methods, you will soon find yourself rising from the ashes and ready to take on the world.
Preparing for the Future Rather Than Fearing It
It is normal for us to fear the future, because it is full of uncertainties.
However, when we are living in fear, it can prevent us from making choices that are risky and ultimately very rewarding.
When you want to be a success, sometimes it takes taking risks before that is possible.
If you are willing to live on the wild side a little bit rather than sticking with what feels safe to you, you may find yourself taking your life in a completely new direction and enjoying the ride.
However that type of mindset can be difficult, particularly if you are unsure of where you are going.
When you do not have a clear-cut future and have no idea of what you want to do or how you are going to do it, things can be extremely overwhelming.
Forget taking risks altogether, just living in the next day is risk enough. Especially when you have no idea where you are headed.
That is why it can be very important for you to really accept that you have a future, and that it is something very important.
If you do not put adequate thought into preparing for that future, then you are basically just throwing it away.
Other situations and circumstances will impact you and shape your future, and you will be standing there with your hands in the air just allowing it to happen, whether or not that is aligned with your personal vision for what you want for yourself or not.
To prepare for the future, you have to be willing to accept that you are going to make a difference.
Creating a vision board is a good way to help you to focus on what you want for your future and to consider your goals.
If you are not considering your goals, then you are not focusing energy in the direction that you want to go.
You have to be willing to look at the big picture and truly understand that what you do every single day, sometimes, every single moment, can make a huge difference in your life.
You have to tell yourself that you need to make conscious decisions that are going to impact your future.
Otherwise, you are basically just throwing your time away and not creating anything productive with it.
This is where major planning can really come in handy. You need to outline your goals, starting with the endgame, and then dissect it, going backwards.
You will begin to see the path that will lead you to achieving your goal, starting with the small steps that you can begin taking right this moment.
Your future is not just a blank slate. It is something that you have complete control over.
As long as you begin to understand the impact of your actions, you will be able to shape your future in any way that you desire.
When this becomes clear, he will have no choice but to pick yourself up from where you are now and rise to the occasion!