How to be Anything You Want to Be
Too many of us are trapped in the work we do because we think it’s the only way to get what we want out of life.
No matter what your job, the assumption is normally that you can work harder and work longer and that way earn enough money to stop worrying about finances, possibly to move abroad, maybe to buy your ideal home.
This is how you can make life the way you want it and thus you can no option but to work harder and work longer – especially as the costs of living start going up and you find yourself with more and more responsibility.
But the irony is that you’re doing all this work to succeed at something you probably never really had much interest in.
You probably never intended to get into logistics, or administration and so why are you bending over backwards to make it work?
What about that dream to be a painter? A writer? Or a singer?
The irony is that you can still do all those things. And moreover, there’s no need for you to be working such long painful hours…
How to Be What You Want to Be
Our problem is that we put far too much stock in our careers.
We define ourselves by our jobs and we often ask people when we meet them at parties: what do you do for a living?
In fact though, neither your success nor your income is necessarily tied to your day job and there are many ways to be successful that don’t involve working harder.
Want to become a singer? The easiest way to do that is to create a YouTube channel where people can see you singing and then to promote that.
If you’re good at what you do, you’ll get the subscribers and you can earn a side income from it!
Likewise, if you want to be an artist then you can start creating art in your spare time and use that to earn extra income by selling online or through local restaurants etc.
In other words, you don’t need to be successful in your job to be what you want to be – in fact the two are often diametrically opposed.
The objective should instead be to gain more free time by working less and then to use that free time to pursue the hobbies and activities that you’re passionate about.
Now you have the stability that comes from employment but also the chance to fulfill your dreams and to be successful doing what it is you love.
And guess what? As soon as you put pen to paper, you are a writer. As soon as you make a sculpture you are a sculptor.
It’s that easy to be what you want to be: it’s only being successful that’s hard! But if you already have an income and you love what you do, does that even matter?
Most of us already have the means to live the life we want but we get too caught up in the rat race to realize it!
A Review of Tim Ferriss’ 4 Hour Workweek
The Four Hour Workweek is a book by Tim Ferriss and is arguably the title that initially brought so much attention to the concept of lifestyle design.
But just how realistic is the concept of working 4 hours a week? Is there any useful advice here? Or is it all just hype? Let’s take an in-depth look and find out.
Despite the title referring to four hours, the reality is that this book is more generally aimed at helping you to work less however much that may be.
Moreover, it’s about selling the concept of lifestyle design and making you think twice about your current approach to your work-life balance.
It’s in this regard that the book is an undoubted success.
Today thousands of people are digital nomads or just place more emphasis on jobs that help them design their lifestyle and this could largely be seen as the doing of Tim Ferriss!
The Tips and Practice
So what are the practical tips that Tim shares in the book?
There are many but very often they come down to simple productivity tips: ideas like outsourcing your work to virtual assistants or using apps that can help you organize your emails.
He talks about ways to reduce the ‘communication overhead’ that comes from countless meetings and he recommends cutting clients that cause more grief than help.
None of these tips are going to help you reduce your work to four hours a week though – perhaps they’ll just help you be a little less stressed and possibly come home 30 minutes earlier.
Tim also describes a ‘muse’ business model that can generate passive income by using PPC to promote a sales page that sells an affiliate product.
This isn’t exactly ground-breaking and is a limited way of making money at best.
If you want a book on making money online, there are definitely better reads out there.
For those who are employed he discusses how to get more flexible hours – but it’s likely that a lot of employers would simply turn your request down flat.
But there are a lot of good ideas here too, they just tend not to focus on the practical side.
Tim is at his best when he’s addressing higher-level concepts and the psychology and philosophy around his chosen lifestyle.
His advice of asking for ‘forgiveness not permission’ for instance can overturn the way you think about time off or travelling.
Best of all is his ‘fear setting’ which is a tool that helps you to identify what’s holding you back from the lifestyle you want – and to destroy it.
In conclusion then, this is definitely a book worth reading and it’s a book we should all be glad was written.
It is deserving (on the whole) of all the praise it has received and it’s definitely packed with a lot of useful information.
But don’t think of this as a blueprint and don’t think it’s going to show you how. This is more about the ‘why’ and about lighting the fire under you to motivate some change.
What is the Most Passive Form of Income?
Passive income is income that you earn while you sleep and while you travel. Essentially, it means that you are no longer trading ‘time for money’.
In conventional employment, you need to work a set number of hours in order to earn a set amount of money.
This means that you can’t earn money unless you’re putting in the hours.
But passive income means that you do the work upfront and then the money trickles in steadily.
This then means that you’re able to decide when and how you work – and if you’re really good at it, it may mean you don’t have to work at all…
How is this possible? Read on and you’ll see some examples.
Moreover though, we’re going to look at what the most passive form of income is and why some options aren’t quite as passive as they may at first seem.
Earning Money From a Blog
One of the most popular options when it comes to earning money passively is to earn from a blog.
Most blogs are monetized either through advertising or selling digital products.
This means that you earn money either when someone clicks on your ads, or when someone buys the product you made/recommended.
Once you have built your blog up to enough prominence, you should have a steady influx of traffic without having to do much to keep it that way.
The only problem is that you also need to keep adding new content, to keep promoting your site and to keep managing the comments/responding to fans.
So you’ll have a lot of flexibility here but there are some ways in which it isn’t quite as passive as it might at first appear.
Perhaps a better option is something called dropshipping.
This means that you’re selling physical products through an ecommerce store but the twist is that these aren’t products you actually have around your warehouse.
Instead, you’re selling products that another company manufactured and stored but they’re letting you put your name on them.
They even send the products out but your customers never know that it’s not you who’s doing it.
In many ways this is an ideal business model but it does still require some management on your part to keep the website updated, to promote your store and to handle complaints and queries.
Selling a Digital Product
We’ve seen that selling a digital product can be a good way to monetize a blog for somewhat passive income.
But if you can find a big distribution platform, then you can actually sell even more products without having to put the work in yourself.
For example, put an ebook on the Kindle store and it will sell copies even while you’re sleeping once you’ve done the initial marketing.
An app can also be an overnight sensation and keep a steady influx of cash coming in for years.
The only problem here? You of course need to think of that great idea in the first place to crack the market!
The Most Flexible ‘Offline’ Jobs
Lifestyle design often seems to go hand-in-hand with working online.
The general consensus is that working online is the best way to gain more freedom in the way you work and will allow you to travel more, to spend more time with friends and family and to reduce stress levels.
This is true but it’s not for everyone.
The problem with working online is that means you’re going to be on the computer for the majority of your day (of course) and that you won’t get much interaction with colleagues or customers.
For some people this can be enough to cause a bit of cabin fever, making it a less than ideal option.
It’s also not going to be ideal for anyone who would describe themselves as a technophobe and doesn’t feel confident working with computers.
But there are other options – there are plenty of jobs you can do offline that offer similar levels of flexibility and freedom, or that have other perks that make them very tempting.
Read on and we’ll take a look at some of those jobs and what makes them so great for lifestyle design.
As a driving instructor, you will have the freedom to book appointments and lessons whenever you want to and this will allow you to arrange your work around other commitments.
Some driving instructors are essentially self-employed, giving them complete freedom to work as much or as little as they choose.
Okay, so this might not be particularly flexible or particularly glamorous.
But just to show how good things can sometimes come in surprising packages: being a garbage collector means you’ll only be working early in the morning and will then have the rest of the day free to do what you want.
You’ll never be asked to stay late at work and you’ll never bring the stress of work home with you… Better than it at first sounds then!
Similar to a driving instructor, a hair dresser can basically choose the hours they want to work and can spend their time relaxed or doing other things in-between appointments!
This same thing can actually be said of any job that gives you the freedom to make appointments – whether you’re a window cleaner, a gardener or anything else.
This work isn’t particularly flexible but it shows how you can actually get happiness and freedom from your job itself.
As a park ranger you’ll get to spend more time outdoors, you’ll rarely be stressed and if you’re the right personality type you’ll get a huge kick out of what you do!
Any office job with flexi-time is going to be at least somewhat more flexible than working regular hours.
While the precise flexibility you gain varies, generally this will mean that you can come in a little later and leave a little later or vice versa.
Just this small amount of freedom makes all kinds of things easier from booking appointments at the bank to staying out later for drinks in the evening.
Can You Use Nootropics to Get More Done in Less Time?
If you work a typical 9-5 then you are going to be fixed to working for those specific hours.
This means there’s no benefit to working faster and then sitting around with nothing to do for hours.
But if you have managed to set up your own business, or if you have discussed flexi-hours with your employers, then working faster means freeing up more time to get home and spend with your kids or doing the things you love!
In these scenarios then, productivity tools help you to earn back your time.
And this is one reason that more and more people are now looking into ‘nootropics’ or ‘smart drugs’ to give them the edge. Should you?
What Nootropics Are and How They Work
So let’s start by looking at exactly what a nootropic is and how it works.
What’s important to recognize right away is that nothing can make you ‘smarter’ as such because that is a very vague term that is almost impossible to define.
Rather then, nootropics can give you a slight cognitive boost in particular areas like focus, memory or even creativity.
And there are two separate ways that nootropics can work to do this.
In the majority of cases, nootropics work by increasing the production of one or more neurotransmitters.
These are the chemicals in the brain that help neurons to communicate with one another and that can trigger changes to our physiology and our mental state.
For example, if you have more dopamine in your brain then you will become more focussed and more driven.
This is likely to also increase norepinephrine which triggers the ‘fight or flight’ response.
GABA helps us to relax by suppressing synaptic transmissions and this can also make us more creative – though it is sedative too.
Serotonin puts us in a good mood but eventually converts to melatonin and makes us sleepy.
Cortisol is the stress hormone and makes us hungry. Orexin is another sleep-regulating neurotransmitter.
Glutamate and acetylcholine are both excitatory neurotransmitters that increase brain activity.
Generally, these nootropics that work by increasing neurotransmitters will focus on excitatory neurotransmitters and thus help to make you more alert, less tired and more focused.
These include modafinil, Piracetam, Ritalin and even caffeine.
But there are many problems with these kinds of drugs as they can cause adaptations in the brain leading to potential addiction and making us groggy when not using them.
Likewise, it’s not possible to raise one neurotransmitter without altering levels of many more.
Ultimately, the brain is too delicate and too complex for us to tinker with it in this way.
The Other Type of Nootropic
But the other types of nootropics work differently – by providing the brain with more energy (vinpocetine, creatine, CoQ10) or by providing it with the raw nutrients needed for healthy operation (omega 3 fatty acid, vitamin B6, zinc).
These types of nootropic really do trigger widespread cognitive improvement in a safe and measurable way.
However, the results are relatively mild and take a while to appear – so it’s not going to turn you into a productivity king over night!
Downsides of Being a Digital Nomad
Being a digital nomad means that you’re taking your laptop and travelling the world.
It means that you’ve created some kind of online business model, which in turn means that you earn money as long as you have a computer and an internet connection.
This then frees you up to work where you want and how you want and many people use this to fulfill their ambition of seeing the world and of living a lifestyle that is completely unrestricted.
This is one of the truest examples of being free and it’s something that many people who work online aspire to.
But let’s not pretend that being a digital nomad is all rainbows and sunshine.
As with any lifestyle, there are downsides to this style of living too and it’s very important to make sure that you know what those are and you’re prepared to cope with them.
Let’s take a look…
You Lose Your Creature Comforts
One of the most obvious ways in which being a digital nomad could be considered a bad thing is in the way it robs you of your ‘creature comforts’.
That is to say that you’ll probably be living in hostels and eating cheaply when you can.
If you’re someone who loves to kick back on the sofa with a cup of tea and a blanket, then you might find this a bit tough going.
You Will Miss People
Assuming you’re a regular person, you’ll probably find you start missing friends and family after a short while and this can be hard as you’re constantly travelling.
It’s especially hard when you see them start to get married, attend important events or generally continue with normal life that you’re no longer a part of.
It’s Hard to Return
When you’ve lived a life where there’s adventure around every corner, it can be very hard to return back to normal.
You’ll find it hard fitting into a more regular routine and many people find they have to keep travelling as a result.
You Have to Work
Even with a very passive income model, there will be times when you have to work to make ends meet.
This is painful when you have a hundred and one exciting things you want to do but all you can do is to sit in a dingy coffee shop somewhere.
Working is Tricky
Let’s be real: working on the move on a laptop is challenging and there are many ways in which you’ll be forced to compromise.
Sometimes the internet will be down, sometimes you’ll struggle to find a power point.
Sometimes there will be a lot of sun glaring on your screen and bees buzzing past your keyboard. This makes travelling and working that much harder!
Your Business Will Suffer
There are some things you simply can’t do while travelling – meeting people in person for example.
I was recently given the opportunity to star on a YouTube channel and the company invested in me by buying me filming equipment and lighting equipment.
This was all very exciting – but it wouldn’t have been possible if I didn’t have a home to store all those things in!
This isn’t to put you off – being a digital nomad is still a fantastic experience. Just know that it isn’t perfect either!
How to Become a Travel Vlogger/Blogger
Becoming a digital nomad means working online and using this to be able to work from anywhere in the world and travel from country to country.
A digital nomad is someone who works out of cafes, bars and pubs – anywhere that has an internet connection.
They work while soaking up the atmosphere of foreign countries during the evenings and then during the day, they go and explore these new territories.
But there are many different types of work that a digital nomad can do online. Some will be writers or web designers and generally provide services.
Others will run a blog and make money from that. But why not tie your work into the travelling? Why not get paid to explore?
The Business Models
There are two basic ways to do this. One is to create your own channel such as a website or a YouTube channel and then to build an audience for that medium.
You can then populate the page with ads – either ‘pay per click’ ads or sponsored banner ads, and then make money as your audience grows.
You can also monetize a site like this by selling your own digital products (perhaps a book on how to live this lifestyle) or selling ‘affiliate products’.
The other option is to work for someone.
In this case, you simply have to find a popular travel blog or YouTube channel and explain that you’re going to be travelling and would love to sell your work.
You might need more than one site to get enough business but either way, it will help to have some kind of channel of your own ready-made which you can use almost like a kind of ‘CV’.
Now you can travel and work at the same time by turning your travel into your work.
If you’re vlogging, you’re going to need a good camera.
This should be HD or 4K, should be good for selfies (ideally with a rotating screen) and it should have a good built-in microphone or at least a jack where you can plug in an external mic.
Now try to film whenever you see something impressive or worth talking about.
When you get back to the hotel or hostel, you can edit this all into one long video and that’s how a vlog is made!
If you’re writing blog posts on the other hand, then you simply need to make mental notes of all the interesting things that happen as you go about your travels.
Try to look for interesting angles and stories – don’t simply report on what you’ve seen.
Talk about the actual experience of travelling and of living in these foreign countries. Try to find angles that haven’t been covered a thousand times before.
Another tip is to try and be active on social media, as you can use this to build your brand.
Particularly good for this kind of thing is Instagram, which will let you tell the story of your travels so others can live vicariously through your experiences.
Give live video streaming a try too though!
How to Create a Business Selling Physical Products
If you’re looking to improve your lifestyle by working online and achieving the kind of freedom that that can bring, then there are plenty of options available to you in terms of the types of businesses you can start.
Pretty much any service that doesn’t require you to be physically present can be delivered online and then there’s the option of running a blog or a YouTube channel.
But what about selling physical products? Actually, that’s surprisingly easy too and you may be surprised at just how viable this option is…
The Easiest Way to Start Selling – Reselling
The most obvious way to start selling products online is to buy them and then sell them at an inflated price.
This is a simple method but it does mean you need to be able to find the products for that reduced rate – and the easiest way to do that is by buying them in bulk.
Buy a pack of wholesale clothes or blank CDs for example and then you can sell them online individually for a little more money.
The problem that most people see with this, is that they have to make that initial investment by buying the wholesale goods.
They then worry that they may be unable to shift their products and that this will leave them with unwanted inventory and at a loss.
Fortunately though, there’s no need to go this route.
In fact, you can start out by buying just a few items – either buying just one product to start with in small quantities or by buying multiple products but only in small quantities.
This is a great strategy in fact because it allows you to test the market and then buy more of whatever’s selling/making the most money.
You then simply reinvest the profits you make into buying more and more stock – meaning you can never lose more than you’ve earned.
Crafts and Homemade Products
Another option is to create your own products.
If you are skilled in any type of craft, whether that be painting, sculpting or making jewelry; then you can use this skill in order to create items that you can sell.
Start out on eBay or Etsy and have a website of your own to build your brand over time.
This is an awesome option if you have a hobby like that because it means that you can make money from doing what you love!
The big problem with all these models is that they all tie you. In each case you need inventory and that means you need storage – not ideal if you want to travel.
Instead then, consider dropshipping. This effectively means you’re selling someone else’s product but they’re remaining behind the scenes.
So they will manufacture the items and even be the ones to handle fulfilment but you keep a large slice of the profits.
Better yet, dropshipping is ‘whitelabel’ meaning you can brand what you’re selling with your own logo!
Changing Your Definition of Failure
It is extremely difficult to discover that we fall short in any way, shape, or form. When we find that we don’t measure up, it can be a real hit to our self-confidence.
When our self-esteem suffers, it can cause issues further down the line with depression and other serious consequences.
Without confidence, our personal relationships and view of ourselves suffers tremendously.
Some might argue that it is society that puts too much pressure on us to succeed. We are given a tailor-made definition for success from a young age.
We envision success as having a lot of money and doing whatever it takes to be at the top.
However, that vision of success is not often personally crafted and tailored to align with our passions.
That can be dangerous, especially if you are a creative and spirited person who thrives with an abundance of self-expression and innovation.
It seems that the world is cruel to creative types, but this can be avoided in some capacity by changing your perspective. It is our own minds that become our cages.
When we accept society’s definition of success rather than defining it for ourselves, that is when the trouble really begins.
The trouble becomes even worse when we begin to identify ourselves as failures because we are not meeting the criteria for the definition of success.
Fortunately, there is no law in the universe that states that we have to accept society’s definition of failure and tag it on to ourselves as some kind of self-condemning label that we drag around for the rest of our lives and suffer immensely for.
We have to learn how to redefine failure so that we are able to see it as an opportunity rather than a death sentence.
For many, this is easier said than done, but it is possible. No matter who you are, you can define failure for yourself.
A failure can be many things, but one thing is for certain. It is not an identity. You are not a failure. No matter what you do or don’t do, failure is not a personality label.
You can apply failure to the failure to achieve specific goals or completing tasks, that you yourself are never a failure.
You should get that into your head now loud and clear.
Instead, redefine failure as an opportunity to see your task in a different light.
Whatever your goal may be, there are many paths that you can take that will lead you to success.
If you are not willing to take the time to analyze your choices and examine why certain things have succeeded and others have not, then you are missing out on the gift the failure can give you.
By viewing failure in a different light, you are providing yourself with the opportunity to begin to see opportunities where you once saw roadblocks.
This is a powerful strategy that will open up many new doors for you and allow you to garner confidence in yourself rather than feeling defeated by the expectations that you had set up for yourself.
View failure as an opportunity, not as a death sentence!
Signs You are on the Path to Failure and What to Do About It
Nobody wants to fail. Failure is one of the most humiliating experiences that a human can endure.
Whether this is because of survival instincts or simple societal pressures, nobody wants to be seen as incompetent or incapable, especially when it comes to living up to their own expectations and following their dreams.
Fortunately, there are many signs that you can take note of on your path to success that can be red flags for failure.
If you heed these as cautionary symptoms that can be treated and worked on, then you will ultimately be able to overcome these issues and continue forward on your path to success.
The first sign that you are on a path to failure is a refusal to take accountability for your actions or mistakes.
A lot of us have a hard time admitting when we are wrong, but this can be a huge hindrance for success of any kind.
If you don’t admit that you are making mistakes, you will never have the right mindset to look at your mistakes objectively enough to correct them and continue forward on the path to success.
Another sign that you are on a path to failure is that you lack confidence in yourself.
Every one of us has a hard time believing in ourselves at times, but if you don’t believe that success is even possible, then you are really going to have a hard time facing the challenges that are bound to arise as you follow your path to success.
Without confidence, the first sign of failure is going to break you to the point where you may not even want to get back up off the ground and keep trying, even though it is possible for you to succeed despite an initial setback.
A third sign of failure is a refusal or reluctance to set goals that help you to both measure your success and continued to climb toward it.
People who scoff at goals are often the most directionless and aimless people you’ll ever meet, and if you are not willing to set goals and reach for them, then how do you ever expect to be successful? It’s nearly impossible.
Another way to tell that you may be on the path to failure is realizing that you have a hard time accepting blame.
You would rather dish it out onto other people than admit that you have made a mistake or take responsibility for yourself.
Blaming others will never get you anywhere else, so learn to be objective and view situations maturely and rationally to get the most out of them.
If you have a hard time with follow-through, you may find yourself on the track to failure. It takes hard work and perseverance to accomplish anything in this world, so make sure that you are training yourself with the discipline you need to live up to your goals or else you may find that it is impossible.
The good thing about all of these red flags is that they are easily fixed if you are willing to learn and accept personal responsibility for your success.
If you are willing to do this, and there is nothing standing between you and your dreams.
Training Your Brain to Battle Your Negativity Bias
The negativity bias can happen to anybody. In fact, most of humanity is predisposed to favoring negative sensory input and memories over the positive.
This can often hardwire us for issues like depression and a lack of motivation.
When we begin to believe that more negative things happen to us than positive things, whether that is true or not, it can be extremely discouraging.
We start to feel like the entire world is against us, and no matter how hard we try, the cards will always be stacked out of our favor.
However, when you actually think about it, the truth is that we undervalue positive experiences and tend to overvalue the negative ones.
This can make it very difficult for us to move on and let go of negative events that happen to us.
We find ourselves reeling from negative events for days and days, while positive events often become forgotten by the end of the day and we no longer find any value in them or their memory.
In a way, the mind is a little bit of an ingrate like that.
Most of this happens because of the training of our neural pathways.
These are the synapses in our brains that connect and help us to process information and react appropriately to the input that our mind is receiving.
For example, if we are treated negatively by somebody for a long period of time, and we become able to predict their behaviors, our neural pathways will fire off the appropriate response to that stimulation.
This can be great in the moment, but if our brain is misinterpreting cues that seem close to what we are used to but actually do not have a malicious intent, our negativity is actually unwarranted.
And yet we can’t seem to help ourselves when it comes to our reactions.
This is similar to what happens when we are traumatized.
Anybody who goes through this type of conditioning is likely to have certain responses to certain situations that other people wouldn’t have.
Thankfully, the human body is magnificent and can rewire itself to change the way we interpret sensory input.
If we are willing to interrupt our negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts, this can actually help us to remap our neural pathways so that we are capable of changing our response to negativity and remaining positive despite the circumstances that we are faced with.
If you find that you are negative thinker, or you have a tendency to overvalue negative situations over progress, this can hold you back.
Start interrupting your negative thoughts with active attempts to remind yourself that you are making great strides toward success.
Every step that you make toward progress is a huge deal, and allowing yourself to feel pride toward your accomplishments is a great way for you to combat your negativity bias and prime yourself for even more success down the road.
All of us are capable of rewiring our brains, no matter what the situation might be. Use this knowledge to your advantage and start retraining your mind today!
How to Move Forward After a Setback
There are few things more challenging than being able to pick yourself up after a setback.
This is especially true if you lack confidence, and are easily shaken by running into challenges.
If you don’t believe in yourself, the process of working toward a goal can be excruciating.
Fortunately, there are many ways that you can start to re-motivate yourself when you have faced an unforeseen obstacle so that you can begin to move forward no matter what the setback may have been.
The first thing you need to do, whether you consider yourself the sensitive type or not, is to express the feelings that occur when you realize that you may have done something wrong or face the challenge that you were not able to overcome very easily.
It is natural to feel miserable after an experience like that, no matter how self-imposed you may be.
You should express your feelings and frustrations, and consider your fears about the situation so that you are not surprised in the future and you do not bottle of your emotions only to find that they come back and bite you later on.
Next, you should turn to your support group. These are people around you that you trust and talk to about your goals and plans.
These are the types of people who will be supportive and encouraging, not toxic and negative.
If you tell them how you feel about your setback, they may be able to help you to see the situation in a better light and provide you with outside perspectives that you may not have considered previously.
Take other people’s feedback seriously, and use it in a constructive way even if it stings at the time.
Most of the time people who are truly supportive are not out to take you down. They simply want to help you, and you should let them.
Everybody has a blind spot when it comes to their own plans, so listen to people who have your best interest at heart and see what you might learn from them.
Next, reevaluate. Think about where you might have gone wrong or what obstacle came up.
What are some things that you could have done to prevent this issue from occurring?
Think hard about an alternative approach to take if you are ever faced with a similar situation, and turn the negative feelings about your setback into a positive opportunity for growth.
There is no better time to learn from your mistakes and when you have a goal that you truly want to succeed at.
So take this opportunity to grow and learn so that you can become as successful as possible.
They can be very hard to deal with setbacks, but if you are willing to do so with grace and an open mind, you may find that you are actually benefiting from what might have seemed like a failure at the time.
If you are willing to view your situation in a positive light rather than a negative one, you may find that you have discovered the key to succeeding has been there all along.